Running into an ex

[EltonC]

So this was embarrasssing. Understand I've been with my wife over 40 years, so the women I went out with over the years aren't really front and center in my thoughts.

Went to Costco this morning, as I was walking in a woman walking out called me by name. I said Yes and she started asking me about how I was and what was up in my life. We chatted about our careers, told her about my kids and grandson, she said they didn't have kids. Followed up about whether I ended up getting my PhD (I did) and what I did for my career (taught). Problem was I didn't have a fucking clue who she was. She fit the profile of the kind of women I usually chased - tall, buxom, dark hair, so that didn't do alot to narrow the search. Even though she's in her 60s, she looked pretty good.

After a couple of minutes she paused and said "you don't recognized me, do you?" I said, that well no, but I had been with my wife for over 40 years so you need to cut me a little slack, not like a didn't play the field over the years. She looked at me and said "Diane?" Fuck. We literally dated for over a year, only truly long term relationship I had as an undergrad. We shared a laugh over my situation, hugged and went on our ways. I haven't told my wife about this, doubt she'd really care but I don't want the abuse over not recognizing a woman I had been with for so long.

[kajuk]

Originally Posted by EltonC

So this was embarrasssing. Understand I've been with my wife over 40 years, so the women I went out with over the years aren't really front and center in my thoughts.

Went to Costco this morning, as I was walking in a woman walking out called me by name. I said Yes and she started asking me about how I was and what was up in my life. We chatted about our careers, told her about my kids and grandson, she said they didn't have kids. Followed up about whether I ended up getting my PhD (I did) and what I did for my career (taught). Problem was I didn't have a fucking clue who she was. She fit the profile of the kind of women I usually chased - tall, buxom, dark hair, so that didn't do alot to narrow the search. Even though she's in her 60s, she looked pretty good.

After a couple of minutes she paused and said "you don't recognized me, do you?" I said, that well no, but I had been with my wife for over 40 years so you need to cut me a little slack, not like a didn't play the field over the years. She looked at me and said "Diane?" Fuck. We literally dated for over a year, only truly long term relationship I had as an undergrad. We shared a laugh over my situation, hugged and went on our ways. I haven't told my wife about this, doubt she'd really care but I don't want the abuse over not recognizing a woman I had been with for so long.

Yeah, I went to a class reunion a few years ago. The reunion included five years of high school graduates. Classes of 80-85. I have taken care of myself over the years. At that time, I was 55 years old, and I had a 6-pack and was muscled up and lean. This chick did the same to me. Talked to me as if she knew everything about my life. For the life of me, I could not place her. She had to have gained over 150 pounds. just like you in your story, this girl said to me, You don't recognize me, do you? I'm sure I had the deer in the headlights look. She said, "Ginger!" Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Yes, I had sex with her 35 years ago, but she was HOT back then. I didn't judge her. I was nice to her, and I was truly happy to see her, but as you said, it was embarrassing not know who she was.

[LTPGeorge]

To be honest, almost all my past relationships with women ended badly. There was even a year in my mid twenties when it had been so bad that I stopped being interested in women. I got over it and married. Now, if I came across an ex, with perhaps one or two exceptions, I'd turn around and run for the hills!

[winston optic beer]

My relationship with my ex also didn't end well. She took it badly and clearly hated me with a vengeance for not submitting to her will. Hell hath no fury and all that.

It made me doubt if she had ever really loved me. Especially as my wife had remained close friends with her ex. I think for my ex our relationship had been purely transactional.

Afterwards, she moved away. A couple times recently, I've had to visit the area where she now lives. Even though it was over nearly thirty years ago, I was terrified that I'd run into her. Almost to the point of having nightmares. Totally irrational, I know.

[Zombie_fox]

Yeah this happened to me once, was okay though, didn't damage the car too much