Running into an ex
 

So this was embarrasssing. Understand I've been with my wife over 40 years, so the women I went out with over the years aren't really front and center in my thoughts.

Went to Costco this morning, as I was walking in a woman walking out called me by name. I said Yes and she started asking me about how I was and what was up in my life. We chatted about our careers, told her about my kids and grandson, she said they didn't have kids. Followed up about whether I ended up getting my PhD (I did) and what I did for my career (taught). Problem was I didn't have a fucking clue who she was. She fit the profile of the kind of women I usually chased - tall, buxom, dark hair, so that didn't do alot to narrow the search. Even though she's in her 60s, she looked pretty good.

After a couple of minutes she paused and said "you don't recognized me, do you?" I said, that well no, but I had been with my wife for over 40 years so you need to cut me a little slack, not like a didn't play the field over the years. She looked at me and said "Diane?" Fuck. We literally dated for over a year, only truly long term relationship I had as an undergrad. We shared a laugh over my situation, hugged and went on our ways. I haven't told my wife about this, doubt she'd really care but I don't want the abuse over not recognizing a woman I had been with for so long.

Yeah, I went to a class reunion a few years ago. The reunion included five years of high school graduates. Classes of 80-85. I have taken care of myself over the years. At that time, I was 55 years old, and I had a 6-pack and was muscled up and lean. This chick did the same to me. Talked to me as if she knew everything about my life. For the life of me, I could not place her. She had to have gained over 150 pounds. just like you in your story, this girl said to me, You don't recognize me, do you? I'm sure I had the deer in the headlights look. She said, "Ginger!" Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Yes, I had sex with her 35 years ago, but she was HOT back then. I didn't judge her. I was nice to her, and I was truly happy to see her, but as you said, it was embarrassing not know who she was.

Not for me
 

To be honest, almost all my past relationships with women ended badly. There was even a year in my mid twenties when it had been so bad that I stopped being interested in women. I got over it and married. Now, if I came across an ex, with perhaps one or two exceptions, I'd turn around and run for the hills!

My relationship with my ex also didn't end well. She took it badly and clearly hated me with a vengeance for not submitting to her will. Hell hath no fury and all that.

It made me doubt if she had ever really loved me. Especially as my wife had remained close friends with her ex. I think for my ex our relationship had been purely transactional.

Afterwards, she moved away. A couple times recently, I've had to visit the area where she now lives. Even though it was over nearly thirty years ago, I was terrified that I'd run into her. Almost to the point of having nightmares. Totally irrational, I know.

Yeah this happened to me once, was okay though, didn't damage the car too much :p

I had a similar-ish experience a while back.

25 years ago I owned and ran an auto repair shop. The parts stores we used all had several drivers delivering parts to us. One day we're working along and a gorgeous young blonde showed up with our parts. I mean, hot. She looked to be early 20s, blond hair nearly down to her waist, curves everywhere. The whole shop went quiet as everybody turned to look at her. We found out her name was Dawn, and she delivered parts for several months until she got promoted to working the counter in the store, but before that it was always a good day when Dawn showed up with our parts. I talked to her in passing and we got to laughing and joking about this and that, but we never did anything. I'm sure every greasy mechanic on her route wanted to bang her brains out, me included. She was sure cute.

25 year later my wife and I were doing some lifestyle play and we went to a hotel party one night. After we got situated I wandered up to the snack table and was about to grab a plate when I got punched in the arm. Hard too. I turned to look an there stood a nice looking 50-ish blonde. A little thick in the middle, but she was better looking an most of the other women there. She stood there looking at me and finally said, "you don't remember me, do you." I recognized that voice and then it hit me; "Dawn!"

We ended up dancing a couple of times through the evening and caught up on the last 25 years. She was just as nice and open and conversational as she could be. "Dancing" at a lifestyle event is really just sort of moving around mashed together with your partner, so we did some of that and I massaged her still fairly shapely ass and squeezed her titties a little, and kissed on her some. She'd have been down to fuck too but she was there with some nut that night who wasn't going to leave us alone, so I didn't push it.

Never saw her again.

I have ran into both my ex’s a few times after we divorced. The first one I divorced in 97, but screwed her three times after our divorce. The second one divorced me in 2007, but we kept screwing off and on way after that with the last time being in 2018, it only stopped because she moved to Atlanta. On the first one when running into her after our divorce I just wanted to see if she was still a cheat, she was. The first two times I screwed her after our divorce she had a boyfriend, and the third time she didn’t have the boyfriend no more, but was married to some guy she met after the boyfriend had dumped her.

I ran into my ex-wife, yes my ex WIFE, and she didn't recognize me even though we had only been divorced for TWO years at the time. I am 100% serious. It was super weird that she didn't remember who I was, but it sums up our marriage pretty well.

I was likewise unrecognised by an ex.

It happened at a big professional society black tie dinner as a guest. I knew my ex would be there entertaining clients.

She'd blamed me and involved solicitors so relations between us were not good. I was hoping to speak to her to build bridges and maybe even get back together. I was missing her and our child. It had occurred to me that she might be more amenable after a few drinks.

After I'd spent a respectable length of time with my hosts after the formal dinner, I went look for my ex. I found her slightly drunk and holding court with a group of young guys presumably her team from work. I said hi, but she totally blanked me so I left for home disappointed.

Next time I spoke to her I complained that she'd ignored me at the dinner. She said that she'd absolutely no idea that I'd been there. I guess she just hadn't recognised me in the throng of people and thought I was just some randomer. I wouldn't be so easily put off now, but then I was quite timid in social situations

We never were reconciled because I didn't get another opportunity to patch things up with her. In retrospect, I think all she wanted for me to do was grovel a bit and then I'd be forgiven. I wonder how different life might have been if I'd been more persistent at the dinner.

I'd be more than happy to run into my exwife, preferably with a full cement truck.

Literally 20 years after our divorce, I get a FB friend request from someone I had no idea who it was. I was able to track down, it's my ex's current husband. Seems a bit odd, so I sent him DM, asking why do you want to be my friend :) SEVERAL WEEKS LATER, I received a reply, "please ignore, it wasn't me".

I have no idea what her point was, but I'm extremely happy I divorced her and ended up with the current SWMBO.