Question for the married people on here.

[BeRad]

Serious question....

Does your spouse know that you look at porn and masturbate?

I have several married friends who admittedly watch porn and also masturbate, but they hide it from their wives. The ones who have been caught, their wife's get mad.

I'm not married... heck, I've never even had a girlfriend... so it's a serious question.

If your wife knows, do she know how much you do it?

If you hide it, how do you think your wife would react?

[Shihoin]

Yes my wife knows. As a matter of fact she's walked in on me with my dick on my hand recently. She wasn't upset; she just wanted to see what I was looking at (no way I was going to show her that it was "russian group anal sex") lol!

We've actually discussed masturbation from early on in the relationship. And agreed it was natural; not just for me but for the both of us. The only difference is that she masturbates in bed under the sheets.

Like anything else, it's about healthy communication. It's when you're sneaky about it and say "What? I wasn't doing anything!" when caught that women can interpret it as a form of cheating.

[Carrie K]

My husband and I enjoy each other, so masturbating is a distant 2nd to get relief.
As far as getting cross at one's partner for noticing other people/porn?
1. I try to be the partner that meets my husband's needs
2. Sex isn't everything porn says it is. It's the personal connection, not just the body.

Every wh*r* has a hole; not every encounter is fulfilling.

[rodniner]

I was married to a gorgeous woman whom loved sex....for 22 years. Met her when she was 21. She got excited by porn....and had really never watched it before! But you have to ease into it. You've got to read them over time and how they respond to sexual things!
But let me point something out to you. The way you wrote your question indicates you feel or would guilt for watching porn. Do you wish to keep it hidden? Bad news!! Your partner will catch you someday! Be honest!

[GRITS]

We are BOTH here on OCC and enjoy the porn...actually we have gotten some good ideas from occ to spice up out sex life.

In reality, depends on the wife.....

1..wives who are ugly, fat, depend on their girlfriends options for decisions, won't like porn....because its better then them in their mundane sex lives....

2....wives with a good, healthy sex life , who like making their husbands happy, won't mind you looking at porn...best to tell them you get good ideas from watching....just don't make masturbation a substitute for real sex.

[naturistwineboy]

Wife knows I'm on here. She also has approved every photo that has been posted. She has a user ID, but in her words, it's not my thing.

[pgov81]

Hubby here and yes I hide it, in an almost deadbedroom and not getting any lately. Not sure if women on OCC are the right sample to ask (saying it as a compliment), it depends on your partner’s appetite / libido for sex i guess.

I wish we could be as open as other members are, we talked about it few times but then decided to at least find my own satisfaction.