wife is such a prude

[Naddy3]

Yet she dresses in a way that usually accents her 38B tits and nice ass and legs. but she thinks anything I do or say is perverted.!!!
I wish she was receptive to things I might say to her to do to her like:

'your tits sure look nice in that bra and top.
'I hate when u sit with that wrinkle in your top above your tits.
'I love when I see you in your short little night gown
reach and feel her ass as she vacuums
reach over and feel her tits while sitting in car with me
I love seeing down you top when you bend over.
Your ass really looks great in those pants.

[Gnome72141]

That is too bad. I understand how it feels, though, based on other scenarios.

As far as the topic at hand, my wife comes across as a prude to everyone else, but for me she isn't.

If anyone sees down her shirt on accident, she acts like it's the end of the world unless I am the reason people can see down her shirt, then she loves it.

Just yesterday, she was sitting on the steps with her legs closed tightly because she had a skirt on. I sat next to her and put my hand between her legs, forcing her legs open a bit so that people walking by could see up her skirt and see her purple panties, and she didn't mind one bit.

If she is sharing a hotel room with friends or family without me, then she dresses in pjs that a nun would wear, but if I am there, I can get her into paper-thin pj tops and tank tops without a bra and letting everyone see her puffy areola as she walks around.

And if I don't say something "perverted" to her at least twice a day, she asks me what's wrong.

[Naddy3]

Originally Posted by SyFoster

I knew a woman like this. She never intentionally tried to dress ‘sexy’. She wore normal tops, jeans, shorts, etc. But she was pretty and had a very nice body (although she just thought she was totally average-looking).
So, when she would wear a normally cut shirt or tank top, it showed off her perfect cleavage (she was a large B cup). Or, a nice pair of fitted jeans showcased her big, curvy ass. And in the summer, shorts showed off her great legs. Again, she wasn’t ‘trying’ to show her body off, but at the same time, it couldn’t be helped.

Anyway, she had the same attitude. If I mentioned how great her ass looked, how curvy her thighs were, or how her cleavage was goddess-level, it would just annoy her. And it’s not like I would say stuff like that 24/7.
I remember eating dinner at home one night. She was sitting at the kitchen table across from me. She had on a t shirt, no bra. And her tits and nipples were looking phenomenal. She busted me staring at them, got pissed, and went into the other room. I had no clue what was wrong, so I asked. Her response was that when I looked at her like that, it made her feel cheap, dirty, and like all I cared about were her tits, ass, and pussy.

Yup that pretty much sounds like my wife

[GRITS]

GET A DIVORCE AND CUT YOUR LOSSES BEFORE YOUR TOO OLD TO ENJOY SEX...

[Naddy3]

I think sometimes she must 'catchh' me glancing at her tits or ass (fully clothed). I either divert my look before she turns toward me. Or she 'catches' me in mirror reflection. I wudn't be surprised if sometime she don't say "do you have always stare at my tits and ass?" or..."why are you always looking at my tits and ass?"

I think she, like many women, think of their tits and as like men of our elbow or knees?
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[Gnome72141]

Hearing about these women makes me wonder what a therapist can do for them.

Reactions like that in reaction to someone you are in a long-term relationship with aren't normal.

Come to think of it, my mom was the same way. If my dad looked at her or said anything, even totally appropriate and normal, she would get really upset at him. Interesting.

[Naddy3]

Originally Posted by SyFoster

Naddy3, has she always been like this; even at the start of the relationship?
What is she like when it comes to having sex?

She was never really into sex, kinda jus tolerated it for ME. But as she got older and we had sex less , she became like this.

[Gnome72141]

Originally Posted by SyFoster

At the time, such behavior was a mystery, but I totally understand it now; at least in her specific case.

Some of it can just be women who are closer to primitive nature, too. There is truth in that some women will be aggressive in finding a mate, then once she has that made and has offspring (or gets older) thus has no need to mate, and won't have any desire in mate-type activities.

Then sometimes women have a trauma that was dealt with by being quite into sexual things, then one day that trauma is met with a sudden desire to have no sexual interest at all.

Sometimes we will never know.

[Naddy3]

Originally Posted by SyFoster

Well, assuming you like and enjoy sex, that really sucks for you. Did the two of you ever discuss it? Or is it just one of those ‘unspoken’ things between the two of you?

Some people just aren’t into sex, men or women. And while oftentimes there’s a medical or psychological reason, sometimes they’re simply asexual.

I was with a woman whose husband was like this. Super-nice guy, outgoing, people-person, no medical or psychological issues, and he simply had zero interest in sex. He never talked about it. Never told her that her ass, tits, etc looked hot. Never initiated it with her. He would have rather played a board game than fuck his (hot) wife. If she wanted sex, she basically had to walk into the room naked and make it happen.

Of course that’s a big reason she started fooling around with me while still married to him.
But assuming a man and woman who both had zero sex drive got married, that seems like a perfect match.

We have discussed it and she said she cud change. And she did...for a few days, then same o same. We've been married too long and have too much family and we too old to do anything about it now.

[Naddy3]

Originally Posted by SyFoster

Well, at least you seem reconciled to that fact, have accepted it, and live with it.
And good for you for not leaving her just because of the lack of sex. There’s a lot more to a good relationship than sex.

Oh so true. and I have to sneak around but I have a couple outlets for my fustration, including xxx cinema close by