How to get your wife to be a kind of a hotwife?

[LordBryon]

Hi,

so I have this idea (more a fixation, really) that it would be nice, if my wife is some kind of a hotwife. It doesn't have to be sex per se, but I like the idea of showing her off to another man and that the he would jerk off to her and that she maybe would give him a blowie.

Though she isn't prudish at all, she's not really into the idea. But she likes to have sex in the outdoors and let's me take naked pictures of her etc. She's not naturally a show off, though, more some kind of an introvert.

She says the reason why she doesn't like to show herself to a stranger is that she thinks that it might be dangerous. That the stranger might be aggressive or unclean. And she mentioned that it really isn't her fantasy.

But sometimes I can persuade her to go online and show herself to a stranger on a random chat. Though she's very reluctant at first, she gets wet really quick and I can tell that she is extremely aroused.

So, I'm pretty sure that she'd get turned on as well if I can get her to meet a stranger somehow. Do you guys have any idea how I might convince her to be more open to the idea and get rid of her reservations? Thanks!

[Billymoo]

Well mate I reckon that you may not be able to, but another guy might, wives are a bit reserved with us husband's
My wife was talked into it when she got work as barmaid at a pub.
Try that get her a partime job in a pub some rough place would be best

[nectcouple]

Personally, I think Billymo's suggestion is a bad idea and one she probably wouldn't go for anyway.
If her only holdup is that a stranger might be dangerous, aggressive or dirty (and he very well be all three), I see two ways around it.

A) Most hotwives and/or their husbands (cuckolds) place an ad on one of quite a few websites to meet prospective candidates (They're called "bulls") and after getting to know each other for a while, will meet them for coffee or cocktails. If that works out, they will set up a date and they're off and running and the bull is no longer a stranger.

B) Would she agree to someone she already knows? A trusted friend or aquaintance who already has the hots for her is a viable candidate and shouldn't be overlooked, even though its a bit riskier. He would have to know that there are no strings attached and that he is the lucky THIRD. There is a hierarchy involved and he is at the bottom of it. He would also have to be someone you trust to keep the secret.

The most important thing is trust and honesty between hotwife and husband. There are no secrets between them. They are a team, working and enjoying the game together. Any other way rarely ends well. If your wife fucks someone without your knowlege and keeps it secret, you get nothing out of it and it's called cheating. If you set something up without her knowlege by getting her drunk or by coersion or some other devious means, well, that's a horrible thing to do to your wife and says a lot about you as a husband and a person in general. Not to mention the legal issues that could lead to charges being filed.

As for my wife and myself, we met and became online friends with a guy right here on OCC. He and I talked online for years and got to know each other. Eventually, my wife would converse with us and later, they had private conversations where she got to know him. The three of us were friends long before they became intimate.

[LordBryon]

@nectcouple: Thanks for your answer. You are absolutely right about everything you've said. I always thought that I have to arrange something and let her jump right into it. I can see now that this might be a bad idea. I need to involve her from the beginning and give her (or us, really) time to get to know someone first. And then maybe meet him for a drink etc.

[LTPGeorge]

What worked for us was getting my wife becoming comfortable with being sexual around strangers. Short skirts/no panties flashing in bars. Discreet, nude photo sessions in public areas. Nude beaches. Strip clubs. We talked a lot about the sort of guys she likes and we would then search them out. Neither of us want a long term playmate so we only look for short term hookups.

[rracoonz]

In our experience, I placed an ad for an erotic massage therapist. It was on Craig's List and many guys replied before CL deleted it.
I screened several guys and picked one I figured my wife would be comfortable with. I told him my comeplete plan and explained it may or may not lead to sex. He was okay with it. I then told my wife about it. I told her it was an erotic massage and would only go as far as she would let it. I said that many times a therapist would rub until the patient cums. I also told her that I was okay with her going all the way with it if she and the therapist wanted.
I explained that I would be in the room, by her side for her safety, and would not allow anything to go beyond her desires. So, we scheduled. She knew it was going to be erotic, so his touching and erotic playing was not a surprise. She told me later that she had orgasmed almost the moment he first touched her because of the excitement of a stranger touching her. After she had several orgasms, he actually ended up fucking her on the massage table, then again in our bed with me joining.
It was a thrilling encounter for us and a truly break through moment in her sexuality. It has changed our life in such a positive way.
Good luck, my friend!

[GRITS]

Use subliminal messages for a year.....for real role play for fun......for real.