Having Limits for Sexual sharing pleasures!

[1michael]

I was wondering if anybody did think about or did before hand, set Sexual Limits on what can and would be done with either your wife / GF or You - before you First got into the sharing program idea?
My wife and I talked about it for along time, but never got on the subject of what was the Limit if any on what we would feel Ok with on having our other half doing it with another person?
We talked plenty of what we both thought we would enjoy seeing the other doing, like my wife with another guy or me with another women - but then we both never got deeper into the subject!
I guess we both did Assume stuff in out own mind and never came out with it and asked the other!
My wife never said a word about wanting to enjoy another women or maybe a BBC, then she never said she would be willing to take on a few guys all at the same time or in the same Hole!
So much of that stuff just over my mind and I never thought about it ever being done, but boy was I Wrong!
Some of this could have come up and been discussed before we went over to out neighbors house to check out their collections of Adult party Events they made with others, but then we didn't know at the time that we were going to get into it that same night with the neighbors! Or maybe it was me that didn't expect it to happen that fast?
For Us being married for along time and having our daughter away at College for 4 Nice Long Years gave Us the time!
Then having small hints from my wife about it would be nice if we found ways of Spicing Up and Improving our SEX life, before I would have a instant Erection thinking about it and now she has to work on it plenty before getting it in that same condition! lol
I'll go on more with my feeling and thoughts from that 1st night of wondering, after I see if anybody else had the same type of experience trying out expanding their Sexual life?
It might be different for having it done with a girlfriend instead of a wife, so I would like to hear all sides if you went thru it? Thanks

[DRDavenport]

When my wife and I started being open to non-monogamy, we did set some limits. Turned out her pussy didn't remember there were limits. Once she got revved up, she wanted it all.

[Leviticus59]

Wife and I were married for about five years before we began experimenting with lifestyle play. When we first started we just didn't know what we wanted to do, so we played around with different stuff; couples only, adult theaters, house parties, etc, etc. We gradually figured out what we both liked the best and finally drifted primarily toward hotwifing. Her limits eventually stretched further and further until she was hooking up with her boyfriend alone and spending nights by herself at his place once in a while.

[Erotictimes]

We started slow and were steering toward just MFM from the beginning. It seems that after exploring and expanding our boundaries well beyond, that is where we've come back to now - if at all. From the beginning she was not as accepting of seeing me with another woman, whereas I found it really hot to share her with men. There were a lot of lessons learned along the way and many incremental expansions of boundaries. Our ethical non-monogamy slowly evolved to include full swaps with other couples, and even a few FMF situations.

With the full swap couple experiences, a few were really well aligned all around and we definitely had VERY memorable great times with zero edge. There were a few MFMF encounters along the way where I could tell she was not keen on my participation with the other woman but she let it go. Usually because she was getting her brains fucked out! On two other occasions I not-so-fondly recall her jealous bug surfacing, and despite the fact we had agreed in advance that what we were doing was all good she became upset with what she saw. One time biting my member while we were all tangled up in a mass of naked bodies. I yelled and jumped up in time to see the devilish look in her eye. You don't forget something like that.

As protective as she can be, there were a couple of times she pulled a 180 degree mood from somewhere and shared me with her friends. I had no idea it was coming either time. One Sunday afternoon she instructed her friend to give me a BJ on the steps of the pool. Another time her recently-divorced friend was feeling neglected and out of the blue we had a full blown FMF threesome spontaneously in the living room.

I can say I have never crossed any of our predetermined lines myself, but clearly remember a few times that she has. Nearly every adventure we've had included a discussion ahead of time about concerns and limits, aside from the rare truly spontaneous occurrence we never went in blind. I wrote about one of our first weekends in a kinky environment where we both agreed no contact with others. It only took a few hours, a couple cocktails, and a paddle for her to cross that line with the birthday boy of the party. I let it go because the memory was beautiful. She has taken a few other liberties out-of-bounds, but they were always situationally unique and clearly never planned deception. Color me "tolerant" I suppose as it just keeps things in a better place.

Although it does not bother me, she does not like kissing other guys. She does enjoy kissing women when it happens. Men may not touch her face with their hands, but bukakke is perfectly fine. Many of her limits are aligned with preference not emotion.

To this day we do still have a couple of boundaries and rules to which we both hold strong. These include not playing alone, open truthful communication (no secrets), and her ass is mine. I won't share the anal cherry I took from her with others. Perhaps if we ever make it to that elusive "DP" on the list I may have to reconsider that one. Maybe.

[1michael]

I think the women / wife's get to being more Open Minded faster or start up without telling Us guys?
In my case as the neighbors hubby went out to the store, we watched the neighbors adult type home movies and while I was so involved in watching the women that we both knew well - the neighbors wife and mine had my bottom clothing off and sharing Oral on my cock! Then when I made a comment on maybe it would be better if I wasn't the only one exposed, both of them went Topless!
I have to admit that I did pay more attention to the neighbors wife and groped her tits while aiming my cock more to her mouth then my wife's!
When the hubby returned and I noticed him, I went into a surprise shock and covered up when the wife's still sat on the floor in front of me still Topless!
Then as we all talked for awhile and had some adult drinks, my wife made the bold move in saying she waited too long for this to happen and for it to end so fast now! So she moved to the hubby and had him stand up and removed his bottom clothing! She did some handy work on his cock and was looking at my reactions most of the time! When my wife got him into a bobbing erection, she started doing oral on it and fondled his balls!
Watching my wife was very exciting to me and I did forget about the neighbors wife, that was now doing oral on my cock and I never realized it!
I was now also thinking about the Limits on how far would this go, or maybe on how far I thought it should go?
Then I seen my wife back off the neighbors cock and I thought it was so he could CUM on her face or tits?
But she only stopped to tell him that he could CUM in her mouth and she'll swallow it!
To me this was already the 3rd shocking movement that my wife made there and I was starting to think that maybe a wife that is just starting out on new a Sexual lifestyle would be more laid back and shy or timid for being exposed in front of friendly neighbors or for at least giving sexual pleasures to the hubby with the wife there?
But as the night progressed on and we all did plenty more, I had more of the same thoughts after my wife got her pussy filled with his CUM and while it was oozing out his wife was doing a licking clean up on my wife!
So like it was said above, maybe for the women their Pussy takes over and does the thinking for them or maybe they done it before a few times - but never told Us and were looking for ways to get Us involved in it now?

Hope to hear more of Your thinking and Adventures into the Unknown!