How open is your wife about her past?

[mandarin010]

On vacation with friends of my wife, there was another couple who came to eat, it was a surprise for her. She knew him from his work.
A friend, we even went on vacation with them, by dint of asking me questions she ended up saying several years later that it was her ex and her first shot.
I asked my wife to sit in front of him in the campsite garden but without panties to remind him of his memories.
She stayed for 15 minutes with her legs wide open, her sex shaved, in front of him.
His shorts got too tight.
She was so excited herself, she continued all week, no bra, mini skirt with nothing underneath. Sheer swimsuit.

[MFN]

After two earlier marriages, my wife had been very promiscuous before we met, and grew up with a female cousin who had "known" only her one husband and no other men. The cousin knew a little about my wife's active sex life, and often would ask her about it, mostly curious to know what it was like to be with other men. Wife usually revealed nothing to her, but told me that if her cousin asked one more time she was going to tell it all. So one evening, the two of them, plus the cousin's husband, and me, were sitting around with another couple having a bit too much to drink, and the cousin asked again.

That was the trigger! My wife started right in: from when they were in high school, fucking the cousin's boyfriends, a couple of their teachers, most of the sports teams, and then, at uni, running around starkers when she felt like it,
maintaining multiple partners from amongst her classmates and teachers, all while the cousin was waiting for "Mr Right". She said that she'd probably fucked well over a hundred different fellows, and could still name over half of them but mercifully didn't mention that one of them was the guy who was now the cousin's husband, sitting right there with us! She went on to say that the only times in her adult life she hadn't been promiscuous was during her marriages, but otherwise she was always ready to give in to her sex drive and slept with anyone she chose.

I knew all of this, since she'd told it all to me when we first met, but having her dump it all right in front of other people, including the 3rd couple, whom we barely knew, was certainly different.

None of the rest had anything to add to her monologue, they just took it all in. Cousin finally reasoned that maybe her timidness and insecurity came from not having fooled around before marriage. My wife agreed, saying that a free and varied sex life before her first marriage was wonderful, but the best thing she ever did for herself was to take many more partners between her marriages.

She finished by saying that although she'd always been sexually hungry, by now after sampling so many men she felt satsified and didn't need to wonder about anything. And when she's at a clothing-optional venue and sees a man with a certain shape or size, she already knows what he would feel like inside her.

[OSF]

My wife and I started dating many years ago when we were in college and being a "good girl" meant you hadn't lost your virginity. One night, when our relationship had grown more serious but before we had sex, we discussed our past sexual experiences. She went first, telling me that she had been topless with several guys and 2 guys had fingered her pussy (including one she had met at the beach earlier in the day), but she had never had sex. She also told me that one of the guys was someone she had met through family friends when he was visiting his grandparents from out of state, and they would see each other whenever he was in town. A few weeks before she started college, she flew to his house for a weekend visit and, the night before she left, they had an intense make out session in his car that involved some heavy petting but no sex.

I had no reason not to believe her then, but years later, after we were married, it came out that the "heavy petting" had also included him licking her pussy and rubbing his cock against her clit. She also claimed that she got mad and shut things down when he spread her legs wider and she realized he was trying to penetrate her. She apparently got over it, because the next morning, she snuck into his bedroom to cuddle and soon her pajamas were off. Again she said they did not have sex.

Curious, I've pressed for more details several times and her answers make me wonder whether they did have sex that night in the car and she can't admit it because she would be acknowledging that she had been lying. She usually gets annoyed when I bring up the topic, even if she's had a few drinks, saying things like 'it was a long time ago" and "what does it matter?". Details also change. For instance, she now claims that she's never been naked with anyone but me, forgetting she told me that she had taken her pajamas off in his bed. She also told me one time that she couldn't remember if her pants were off during their make out session in his car. Really, he licked her pussy, rubbed her clit with his cock, and spread her legs to get inside her, but she doesn't remember whether her pants were off?

Do you think she's hiding something?

[riverdelivery]

my wife was 40 when we met and married 2 years later,after some coxing I got some answers out of her,like how old were you when you gave your first BJ,where did you get laid first,by who,who did you give BJ's to,have you ever given a BJ ro a guy that had over a mouthful of cum,did you ever get fucked in the ass,,,by who...!!!!
I got answers for all those questions.The first BJ answer had me crying I was laughing so hard,I was driving and had to pull off the road.

[Windsorm]

Originally Posted by OSF

My wife and I started dating many years ago when we were in college and being a "good girl" meant you hadn't lost your virginity. One night, when our relationship had grown more serious but before we had sex, we discussed our past sexual experiences. She went first, telling me that she had been topless with several guys and 2 guys had fingered her pussy (including one she had met at the beach earlier in the day), but she had never had sex. She also told me that one of the guys was someone she had met through family friends when he was visiting his grandparents from out of state, and they would see each other whenever he was in town. A few weeks before she started college, she flew to his house for a weekend visit and, the night before she left, they had an intense make out session in his car that involved some heavy petting but no sex.

I had no reason not to believe her then, but years later, after we were married, it came out that the "heavy petting" had also included him licking her pussy and rubbing his cock against her clit. She also claimed that she got mad and shut things down when he spread her legs wider and she realized he was trying to penetrate her. She apparently got over it, because the next morning, she snuck into his bedroom to cuddle and soon her pajamas were off. Again she said they did not have sex.

Curious, I've pressed for more details several times and her answers make me wonder whether they did have sex that night in the car and she can't admit it because she would be acknowledging that she had been lying. She usually gets annoyed when I bring up the topic, even if she's had a few drinks, saying things like 'it was a long time ago" and "what does it matter?". Details also change. For instance, she now claims that she's never been naked with anyone but me, forgetting she told me that she had taken her pajamas off in his bed. She also told me one time that she couldn't remember if her pants were off during their make out session in his car. Really, he licked her pussy, rubbed her clit with his cock, and spread her legs to get inside her, but she doesn't remember whether her pants were off?

Do you think she's hiding something?

Leave it!

She may not be telling you something. So what? Whatever happened was before you met her.

[cufan86]

Originally Posted by OSF

My wife and I started dating many years ago when we were in college and being a "good girl" meant you hadn't lost your virginity. One night, when our relationship had grown more serious but before we had sex, we discussed our past sexual experiences. She went first, telling me that she had been topless with several guys and 2 guys had fingered her pussy (including one she had met at the beach earlier in the day), but she had never had sex. She also told me that one of the guys was someone she had met through family friends when he was visiting his grandparents from out of state, and they would see each other whenever he was in town. A few weeks before she started college, she flew to his house for a weekend visit and, the night before she left, they had an intense make out session in his car that involved some heavy petting but no sex.

I had no reason not to believe her then, but years later, after we were married, it came out that the "heavy petting" had also included him licking her pussy and rubbing his cock against her clit. She also claimed that she got mad and shut things down when he spread her legs wider and she realized he was trying to penetrate her. She apparently got over it, because the next morning, she snuck into his bedroom to cuddle and soon her pajamas were off. Again she said they did not have sex.

Curious, I've pressed for more details several times and her answers make me wonder whether they did have sex that night in the car and she can't admit it because she would be acknowledging that she had been lying. She usually gets annoyed when I bring up the topic, even if she's had a few drinks, saying things like 'it was a long time ago" and "what does it matter?". Details also change. For instance, she now claims that she's never been naked with anyone but me, forgetting she told me that she had taken her pajamas off in his bed. She also told me one time that she couldn't remember if her pants were off during their make out session in his car. Really, he licked her pussy, rubbed her clit with his cock, and spread her legs to get inside her, but she doesn't remember whether her pants were off?

Do you think she's hiding something?

Yes but she clearly doesn’t want to tell you about it so I would drop. Don’t screw up your relationship over this.

[OSF]

Originally Posted by Windsorm

Leave it!

She may not be telling you something. So what? Whatever happened was before you met her.

Thanks. I'm not upset at all about whatever she did before we met. Just would like to know.

[Stillwater]

Originally Posted by OSF

Thanks. I'm not upset at all about whatever she did before we met. Just would like to know.

This is a good exchange, we need another round here.

[DiegoJames]

Originally Posted by OSF

Just would like to know.

I've never asked and I'm not really bothered...but I know that 'what is your number?' question is something that vexes a lot of people, male and female alike, and that many relationships have probably been destroyed by that question and the answers given, honestly or dishonestly.

[Stillwater]

I just wanted to know. Casual inquiry at first, repeat question later and then plead for a little cooperation.

Alright I became somewhat vexed.

I finally got an answer, leaving me to ponder that answer. I squared my shoulders and decided it seemed sincere and I could accept it. All good in my mind. All good till the next time I took leave of my senses and brought up the number again a while later. She looked at me with that all too familiar look and said, you idiot, why would you even think I was serious?

So all of it was a waste. We survived and I leave direct questions out of my strategy of interrogation.