Struggling with a temptation that won’t go away

[Shihoin]

Originally Posted by Duran Duran

Like with anything in life, if it's good, you gotta work for it.
I think for most women you have to build to it. You just can't expect her to do it off the bat.

Pretty much.
I've always taken a lot of (dressed) pictures of my wife. Every year she goes on a diet to get ready for summer. So a few years back I proposed we do "before and after" pictures. The first year or two she did them in underwear. Then I told her that she might as well do them naked; and she was ok with it - as long as they remained private. One time I took a picture of her while she was sleeping nude; and I showed it to her. She actually liked the pic because she felt she "looked good" in it. I told her she does look good naked, we "ain't getting any younger" and that some day she might like to look back at her "younger naked body." So she let me take more naked pics.

She now poses nude for me semi-regularly. But it took time and a lot of confidence building. Just food for thought. But then again, if she has a "hard line in the sand"; better not push it either.

[driftwood3791]

Originally Posted by Myreligiouswife

How do I pm?

If memory serves, you must post 25 times before PMs are enabled. I see you have 11 posts so far.

[bone4annie]

Here is what I used to do...voyuer her. Set up a camera or watch her thru the blinds. My wife had a regular shower time at night. I left the blinds barely open so she wouldnt notice. Get candid pics and share them here, I know you want to think about all the hungry eyes staring at her and getting aroused without her knowing about it, right?

[milfwatcher69]

Originally Posted by bone4annie

Here is what I used to do...voyuer her. Set up a camera or watch her thru the blinds. My wife had a regular shower time at night. I left the blinds barely open so she wouldnt notice. Get candid pics and share them here, I know you want to think about all the hungry eyes staring at her and getting aroused without her knowing about it, right?

I loved reading about you peeping on your wife!! I think many of us with prude wives have a secret stash of voyeur pics and vids of our wives so we can enjoy their bodies on demand. But unfortunately I think most men don’t have the courage to share them publicly

[Dobsonic]

Risking an unpopular opinion.

I was in the same position as you are. I ended taking sneak pics & vids and sharing her with blurred face over a period of 5 years. She was exposed to hundreds if not thousands of men without her knowledge. The thrill was amazing, our sex life were at a peak (also for her) but similar to any other addiction I had to constantly up the risks to reach satisfaction.

I was also not careful enough and got caught by her. I underestimated how hurt she will be, this was a big deal for her! She eventually forgave me but to this day does not trust me completely...

So what is my unpopular opinion?
Do it, but be very careful to not get caught!

[Leviticus59]

Originally Posted by Duran Duran

Like with anything in life, if it's good, you gotta work for it.
I think for most women you have to build to it. You just can't expect her to do it off the bat.
Not sure what she will and won't do, but lingerie is a good first step. Then there are a multitude of things you can do to build it up.
Start taking regular photos of her. Just normal ones at first. Get her used to the fact of being photographed. Get her to wear nice bikinis to the beach. Slightly sexy clothing when you go out on a date. Compliment her looks. Make her feel good and happy. Stay in a hotel. Go on short vacations. The more relaxed she feels the more she'll be open to it even if her upbringing tells her no.

This does sometimes work. I know a guy, a PGK(preacher's grandkid) who married a PK. Met her in a Sunday school class. She's a deeply religious, rural Kansas, Lutheran farm wife and now grandmother.

About ten years into their marriage he got the idea he'd like to share her....to hotwife her. So where to start? He eventually coaxed her into a couple of pictures, braless with a pretty sheer white top on. He told me later that it so scandalized and brutalized her that she cried off and on for a week. But he kept up a slight, gentle pressure and followed a similar route DuranDuran mentions here. She got used to it and came to like the attention and sexy clothing. And he eventually began sharing her.

Fast forward about fifteen years and she's now exclusive to BBCs only, and spends long weekends in the bed of one on the regular. I asked how he feels, so thoroughly corrupting that young, pretty Sunday school babe. He just kinda shrugs and smiles a little, so be somewhat careful what you wish for.

[Leviticus59]

Originally Posted by milfwatcher69

I was so excited that other men finally got to see my wife’s tits!!! My wife was clueless that this was happening which made it even more exciting too.

mmhmm.....she knew. Don't kid yourself.

[crisnicht]

My wife is sort of like that, but without the religious part.
She's just not interested at all.

One day I crossed paths with an invitation to a nude 5K race, so I said this could be it, given that she's a runner. It may be more of a thrill to show her in person in a non sexual way.

I found some blog posts written by women who have raced nude 5K races and gave them to my wife to read.
She said "it's sounds fun".

So I immediately registered for the race and we ran it.
We had a great time and she forgot she was nude for the wole time.

Obviously she said it was a one time thing, but she may do it again if there were more women in the race or if she was with some female friends. (Challenge accepted)

The keys were:
- Not sexual
- Respectful
- possible deniability. ("My husband made me do it. And it's a race)
- she wasn't the hottest or ugliest.

My libido had a blast that day. There was something very erotic watching her confidently nude right next to random people.
Something she would have never thought of the previous day.

[coupleak]

Originally Posted by Leviticus59

mmhmm.....she knew. Don't kid yourself.

Indeed. 1st time I showed my wifes boobs on the net using a cam, she was laying naked next to me in bed.
I was chatting on a porn site and decided to turn the cam on, from time to time turning my laptop so her boobs were on display. I got quit some good reactions
Next day, she asked me if I had been showing her boobs on cam.
I knew I was caught, so I admitted it all.
Her reaction was, and I quote: "it's fine, just as long as you don't show my face".

[likemslick]

Take up golf.