[Request] OPEN -"Sharing Your Wife" Thread

[looksalot]

It would be interesting to know a little more about your select friends and swing group participants; i.e., are any in both groups, how often do participants join and leave, why do they do so, is the swing group all couples, do the select friends significant others know and participate, etc.

We get and love all the descriptions of the actions so how about some of the background getting there and ease of maintenance of these relationships; i.e., it's hard to believe that there's never jealousy, anger, disappointment, etc., as everyone can't be always in tip top form.

[GRITS]

Originally Posted by looksalot

It would be interesting to know a little more about your select friends and swing group participants; i.e., are any in both groups, how often do participants join and leave, why do they do so, is the swing group all couples, do the select friends significant others know and participate, etc.

We get and love all the descriptions of the actions so how about some of the background getting there and ease of maintenance of these relationships; i.e., it's hard to believe that there's never jealousy, anger, disappointment, etc., as everyone can't be always in tip top form.

Thanks for the good question.... I'll try to break it down....

First of all. the jealousy thing... actually there is none.. and the reason is because finding people to participate like this on a long term basis is a job in itself...NOT a Craiglist search... You find people you know or recommended by people you know who are very ok w/ just having fun w/ it all.. the wife and I don't get jealous because we've been doing this since before we met, .. in fact as stated prior, we met at a swing group event... sex is sex... love is love, you can not mix the two... we love and are happy w/ each other as partners in life.. the sex, even our own, is an extracurriculiar activity of pleasure.... that is something some couples miss...having sex does not mean love........ But of course as we all know, if a partner refuses to have sex w/ spouse its sort of cruel and does show a lack of respect and love.... a little bit of a double edged sword.. but the attitude of the situtation at hand is there.
The people we play with are all married...both Swing Group & "Select "friends...none came from a Craiglist search. Everyone is there to have fun.... neither group knows each other exist. We keep them seperate for good reasons....Thats why you'll see us actually say-- a Swing Group friend or a "Select" friend when we play.

Swing Group-- We met at a meeting w/ this group 15?? years ago. She was a card carrying member, and I was a guest...We were the only single people there.... Now the rules are NO singles.. couples only, and the same people from 15 yrs ago are still there.. 12 couples limit... I've only seen one couple leave for breaking the rules and not having the correct attitude of No Problems or Drama... 2 other couples left because they moved way too far away to really participate. 2 other couples have come in after big time backgroud and probation period.. otherwise everyone is growing old together in the Group...Because we're strict w/ rules and attitude and again -finding people is a job in itself... nobody wants to leave a good thing--both people and activitys...
When we have a Swing Group meet, not every couple attends.. it optional..we try to get together monthly, but sometimes its more.... and if someone is having a bad night functioning sexually.. its ok.. we're all mature enough to know we're not supermen or superwomen..

"Select" friends-- all married, But their wives don't know.. they are cheating... there are 5 guys for wife... For me, there are 3 women.. all widowed, divorced and single. And we both limit our extracaricullar sex to just those "select" friends.. we are not picking up strangers... yuk!!!
They are actually friends we've known forever.. and we approached each seperately in deep thought discussion about the "Select" friend thing we wanted. We wanted married because they have something to keep secret.. single people talk too much and are out fucking others. The attitude is recreational sex w/ friends we can trust for safty and privacy.... we are both allowed to be w/ any, anytime. we usually tell the other if its about to happen. Because we're a couple/partners and in love & respect, its not or never in subtitute for being w/ each other... so encounters are not selfish in timing as to interfere w/ our time together... its extracariccular.
Attitude, attitude, attitude counts.. above all... no one is leaving their spouse for the other..
The biggest worry is that their wives fund out... but being married and cheating.. you tend to keep your mouth shut and not put yourself in jeopedy... She dosen't see all 5 weekly.. its if they can, and sometimes they don't/can't, etc.... same with the 3 women I know.... btw- the 3 women I know were friends of my wife so she arranged it all... they are all Bi- w/ her and I supply the manly affection they need when needed...
Anyone is free to quit anytime.. but why ruin a good thing.. there are no participation requirements.. its when you want to agreeably w/ the other..

Look, its not a situtation everyone falls into, or normal maybe... but we actually had a plan, refined it , worked on it, and implemented it happlily TOGETHER... that made the difference. Not Craiglist easy.

I hope that answered your Questions?? ---if not tell me, I'll try.

[looksalot]

Good and complete answers. Thanks.

One more thing. You've written about the relationships developing over the years and so I'm wondering how you visualize them 10 years from now.

[GRITS]

Originally Posted by looksalot

Good and complete answers. Thanks.

One more thing. You've written about the relationships developing over the years and so I'm wondering how you visualize them 10 years from now.

Well, I hope for the best.... hope everyone stays healthy and not move away......we do expect the "select" friend thing to either slow down, or some to drop out eventually.. we won't recruit replacements...
The Swing Group thing is expected to hang in there until we all need wheelchairs.. lol.. one of the things that keeps everyone non-jealous and long term, is that we all play within our own age.. give or take a few years... no reliving our lost teenage yrs w/ young chics and dudes.... our group ranges between 37 & 49 yo. from 4 states.

BTW- FYI- there is one guy in our swing group who became imputant due to a medical thing.... but he & wife still have fun w/ us... he just accepts it and does everything else but get a hard on w/ all the ladies...

[GRITS]

Any questions you'd like to ask us???.... anything goes!

BTW- thats the gun she carrys...and shes good w/ it too !!

[GRITS]

Originally Posted by greendoor

Theres a no phone rule are your parties what about a no guns rule?

Two of my female friends in the lifestyle really like being called sl*ts (in the setting of a playdate/party). They are both proud of being sl*ts as they say and taking on multiple men in their group. By the way they don't know each other therefore they are in different circles of friends. Just wondering if Mrs GRITS falls into this category or not.

No,, no guns allowed.. she keeps her gun & gun skills secret......she can shoot from the hip and hit 3 out of 5 shots in the bullseye at 15 ft.

She likes being called a "married sl*t".w/ friends at play.

[GRITS]

When we're done, we're done.... I wouldn't be licking her spermed pussy.. I'm not Bi/gay and don't do that... I just stick my cock in her pussy.. but not when shes sleeping....

--- When she got back from shopping/errands in her short jean skirt & heels we talked about the night... She said she wasn't sore because of all the lube we pumped into her pussy... lol....... She said that when she took a shower she couldn't get all the sperm out?.. she thinks she took 7 loads in her pussy?!!?.. Her panties were wet. She tells me this because she dosen't want me going down on her w/ sperm in her pussy.... so she hiked her jean skirt, pulled her wet panties to the side and climbed on me in a chair and rode me to both our orgasms.... later we took an intimate shower together and played naked scrabble in bed.

[LBnJB]

I am lucky to be married to a woman who loves sex, does not attach sex to emotions, and loves to explore and experiment. Most people would consider us kinky, but I find that label demeaning and constrictive. Over the past 26 years, we have tried nearly everything. Before kids, she was open to almost anything in the bedroom. However, as every parent can attest, once we had kids our sex life ground to a near halt. But now that our three kids are almost grown, the worm has turned again. Over the past few years we have explored more outside of the bedroom….

Over the past few years, we have discovered we enjoy adding another man to the bedroom. No, I am not a cuckold and I am not bi-sexual. She loves the attention of two men, and I enjoy making her happy. She also loves to flirt and tease, and I love to watch her get men excited. We have picked up men in bars, found them through Craigslist, and used swinger sights. She has also looked up old boyfriends using Facebook. Occasionally, she meets a nice man when she is out in public alone.

Prior to finding the non-fiction forum, I began writing a journal about our experiences over the past few years. I have different journals dedicated to different types of activities. One section details our experience with BDSM, and all of the different scenes I have created for her. One section deals with different experiences we have had just the two of us. Some detail our experiences with other couples. But the biggest section is dedicated to our experiences adding another man to the bedroom. I started this journal as means of reminding myself when I am old of the fun and exciting things we have done together. As time goes by, memories fade. I wanted something that would recreate the event in my mind years later. So, my journal entries often sound like Penthouse Forum letters (for those of us old enough to remember). I would like to share these here, if anyone is interested. Every detail is true, I will simply change names (and an occasional detail) to protect the identity of the wicked.

[GRITS]

Originally Posted by greendoor

Not bi or gay either but for some reason the thought of licking her just fucked pussy turns me on. However fucking her cum filled pussy really turns me on. Must feel great sliding into her like that.

Feels orgasmic slippery.... watching her taking dic & the sperm from others makes it better.... I like watching her getting fucked like a nympho and giving her sloppy whatever.

[nectcouple]

Originally Posted by LBnJB

I am lucky to be married to a woman who loves sex, does not attach sex to emotions, and loves to explore and experiment. Most people would consider us kinky, but I find that label demeaning and constrictive. Over the past 26 years, we have tried nearly everything. Before kids, she was open to almost anything in the bedroom. However, as every parent can attest, once we had kids our sex life ground to a near halt. But now that our three kids are almost grown, the worm has turned again. Over the past few years we have explored more outside of the bedroom….

Over the past few years, we have discovered we enjoy adding another man to the bedroom. No, I am not a cuckold and I am not bi-sexual. She loves the attention of two men, and I enjoy making her happy. She also loves to flirt and tease, and I love to watch her get men excited. We have picked up men in bars, found them through Craigslist, and used swinger sights. She has also looked up old boyfriends using Facebook. Occasionally, she meets a nice man when she is out in public alone.

Prior to finding the non-fiction forum, I began writing a journal about our experiences over the past few years. I have different journals dedicated to different types of activities. One section details our experience with BDSM, and all of the different scenes I have created for her. One section deals with different experiences we have had just the two of us. Some detail our experiences with other couples. But the biggest section is dedicated to our experiences adding another man to the bedroom. I started this journal as means of reminding myself when I am old of the fun and exciting things we have done together. As time goes by, memories fade. I wanted something that would recreate the event in my mind years later. So, my journal entries often sound like Penthouse Forum letters (for those of us old enough to remember). I would like to share these here, if anyone is interested. Every detail is true, I will simply change names (and an occasional detail) to protect the identity of the wicked.

Start your own thread here in the Non-fiction section! I would love to read it all!