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**5. There is nothing wrong with the waiting place.**

One of my favorite authors...and philosophers...is Dr. Seuss. And my favorite book is hands down..."Oh, the Places You'll Go." In it he talks about the waiting place. He describes it this way...

You can get so confused

that you'll start in to race

down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace

and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,

headed, I fear, towards a most useless place.

The Waiting Place...

But then I learned...the waiting place is where you grow. It is where you learn what is important to you. And sometimes it is where you go to heal. Healing may take weeks or months or years. But take your time. When I worked as an emergency medical technician I learned a term call ROR...I forget what legalese it stands for but basically it means you left against doctor's orders and are on your own. Leaving the Waiting Place early is like that...and tearing out stitches hurt worse than having them put in. Stay there as long as you need, keep your heart safe...until you are ready. And if he (she) is the right one they will wait for you to heal or be friend enough to stay by your side while you do.

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**4. Always live naked and blue before the world.**

In case you have not guessed yet...I am a movie puff. And one of my favorites is X-Men. And my favorite character...Mystique/Raven. Wait a minute? Isn't she a bad girl? Is she? Is she really? Or is she just a poor lost little girl who just wants to be loved? A woman so desperate for love that she becomes whatever the man in her life wants her to be? Isn't that the story of my life? A lot of yours too. But I love her best in those rare moments when she finds the strength to be who she really is...blue, naked and tough ass scales. It is a hard thing to do in this world granted. Because being different is not easy. But learning to accept your own beauty is the first step to allowing others to love you. So Beast...Mutant, mutant and proud...is all I have to say.

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**3. You can be...alone AND happy.**

It is the one thing that most of us spend a lifetime trying to avoid. As babies, we wake up alone and cry to get someone to come and just pick us up. As teens, we do almost anything we can to be 'popular.' Drink, smoke, do drugs. We discover the one that we will continue to manipulate well into adulthood...sex. If we have sex, then we are not alone. Right? We marry. We have children. We make friends. Hell, we work crappy jobs. Just so that we won't have to be alone. Except alone is not that bad a place. Alone is quiet. Alone is peaceful. Alone is freedom. To do and be what you want. Alone is serenity. Alone means just for me. Even when we are with someone there will always be times when you and they will need to be alone...and that should be okay.

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**2. There MUST always be boundaries.**

Picking the top lesson of this year was damned hard to do...because wow did I screw the pooch on this one. It might just be one of the hardest learned lessons of my life...and one of the most valuable. You see I tried it this year...playing without limits...giving total control to another. And as the saying goes...absolute power, corrupts absolutely. The thing is that...without limits you are saying that you do not matter, that you have no value. And if you do not value and respect yourself, demand that of the people closest to you then they will take you for granted. And it is not just in relationships either...this is true of our friendships and even our children. For a very permissive parent this was a shocking lesson but now I see that drawing lines is one of the biggest ways that we say...I love you and I love me. Yes, give...give of yourself...but never ever forget...

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**1. To thine own self be true.**

And the winner is...the biggest lesson of this year is over five hundred years old...although I doubt even Shakespeare was the original with this one. It is timeless. It is also what is written upon the collar that I gave myself. But there is one thing I need to add...to be true to yourself...you must first know yourself. This means lots of hours spent looking in the harsh cold mirror of your soul. Knowing your hopes, your fears, your strengths, your challenges...knowing you.

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How to Get Level Five, Top Tier Sex
bySusanJillParker©

Women have five levels of sex and save the top tier of sex for the very best of men.

When it comes to having sex with women, men think that they know everything about having sex with women. I bet men don't know that, as far as women are concerned, there are five levels of sex. I bet men don't know that there's such a thing as level five sex, the top tier of sex that all men should aspire to when having sex with women. Did you know that? A secret, sadly only those men who had level five sex with women know that there are different levels of sex. Only, there aren't very men who've had higher than level three sex with women, never mind men who have had top tier sex with women.

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Alas, an elusive award given only to the very best of men, not many men attain such a high honor to reach the zenith of sexual satisfaction. An achievement of a lifetime, once you've had level five sex, no doubt, you'll want to have top tier sex over and again. All men who have had top tier sex want to have top tier sex all the time and with all women. Once they've had level five sex, never will men settle for any sex level other than level five.

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Oddly enough, sex levels have nothing to do with physical appearance. It doesn't matter what men and/or women look like. No matter if men and women are plain looking instead of handsome and beautiful, anyone can achieve and maintain level five sex. Anyone can feel that sexual bliss that's only limited to just a few. With women already knowing the secret but unwilling to share it, men need only to know how to reach level five to enjoy top tier sex. This story will tell all men how to enjoy better sexual satisfaction from all women.

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With most men not even knowing that different levels of sex exists, few men know that level five and top tier sex exists. Not many men can boast that they're having top tier sex with women. Level five sex is the pinnacle of orgasmic pleasure, the Zen of sex that transfers the subconscious mind from a state of consciousness being to a state of unconsciousness. If only briefly for a few seconds, eyes literally roll back in their heads while men and women soar through the universe in a state of sexual pleasure that they never thought they could achieve and be capable of not only ever feeling but also maintaining.

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A rarity of men having level five sex with women, with only one man in a million to receive such a high honor of having top tier sex bestowed upon them, if men think they've had it, they've never had it. If men brag about having level five sex, they've never had top tier sex. No man who's had level five sex would want any other man to know that there's such a thing as level five sex. Those who have experience the pleasure of level five sex belong to a secret society, a special species of men and women. Trust me, anyone who has had level five sex would know if they were having and/or have had level five sex.