[Request] sex in marriage

[vyrstigor]

My wife is 31 and we have been married six years. The problem is that she wants to have sex many times a day. Yes, she's beautiful, but it's too much! Does somebody has a similar problem? Can you suggest anything?

[feetdickfeet]

Originally Posted by vyrstigor

My wife is 31 and we have been married six years. The problem is that she wants to have sex many times a day. Yes, she's beautiful, but it's too much! Does somebody has a similar problem? Can you suggest anything?

When she wants to fuck and you can't do it, bring her to me. lol!

[naaktstel]

Originally Posted by vyrstigor

My wife is 31 and we have been married six years. The problem is that she wants to have sex many times a day. Yes, she's beautiful, but it's too much! Does somebody has a similar problem? Can you suggest anything?

would you let her have a lover?

[dr_pepper1942]

Originally Posted by vyrstigor

My wife is 31 and we have been married six years. The problem is that she wants to have sex many times a day. Yes, she's beautiful, but it's too much! Does somebody has a similar problem? Can you suggest anything?

Years back, I had a FwB who wanted it almost that much, and I hate to say it, but you can only do so much

I had another friend who told me that 'she never has a headache'. Sadly we never got that far...

[jimbofzax]

Thank you for your posting...it hit a nerve. I am 61 and have not had sex with my wife in over ten years. We went to several therapists, but all my wife heard was everything was my fault. I have not held her accountable. I just need to decide what actions I will take next. She needs to feel some of the emotional distress I have been struggling with for over a decade.

Originally Posted by mythryl1969

Not to be mean, but...

If you accept being treated a certain way, you communicate that you agree with the treatment. The longer you accept it the more you reinforce that perception until you get to a point where the person giving you that treatment would be legitimately shocked to hear you object.

Please keep in mind that I am not talking about the absolute morality of how you are being treated - for instance, wife abuse is never okay no matter how long a woman 'accepts' it - but it is an undeniable truth that part of what helps perpetuate that cycle is the inability of the victim to break themselves free from the abuse.

Make no mistake: Short of some type of medical development or physical handicap, having your wife refuse sex with you for even a month is a serious presumption on your relationship; when you start talking about multiple months or even years you are absolutely talking about emotional abuse and a rejection of the fundamentals of a true marital relationship. You aren't a husband and wife at that point regardless of whatever reasons that you continue to cling to the titles. Kids, economics, whatever it is or however significant the reason is. Remember that ideally marriage precedes all of those things and establishes the foundation for supporting those things, not the other way around. A physically intimate relationship is absolutely one of the cornerstones of a marriage and it separates 'just friends' from 'lovers', and if two people are not lovers then they have no business being married. If sex wasn't important to marriage, after all, then why the hell would anyone have EVER cared about sex before marriage anyway?

In the end, it is up to you to decide how much abuse you are willing and able to tolerate. Just verbalizing your objections is meaningless if you don't back them up with action because your actions will always speak loudest. PuffyNips story is a perfect example of that principle in action; as long as she thought he was still just talking nothing changed. It was only when he proved that it was more than talk that she was forced to decide.

And yes, she might decide the sex isn't worth it and dump you. But then if that's true, you aren't losing your wife; you aren't even getting dumped. All that is happening then is that your roommate is moving out.

[petri2002d]

For all husbands within non-sex marriages...

Women do not really understand how important sex is for husbands. I said to my wife, that there ARE also women who understand this and when this kind of woman approaches me, I better be "happily married" or something will happen.

This really got in to her. Women do not necessarily understand man, but they understand what other women do and think.

[Barmixer]

I read this, and as a man I feel so bad for you. I have been married for 45 years to a woman who loves sex. When we were first married, we fucked like rabbits. As time passed, the sex was less frequent, but the quality improved immensely. She learned to try a multitude of things. Nothing was taboo. Try it once, and more if she if she liked it. There were times she asked for anal, and times she did not want it. But when she did, she loved it.

She is multi-orgasmic, and a squirter at times. The first time she squirted, I was down on her, and she was at first embarrassed. When I told her i loved it, there was no stopping her. She loved to watch herself squirt, and loved to see herself get fucked.

She likes porn movies, and is able to cum seeing a cock enter a pussy. I can make her cum just by talking dirty to her. We have been to swingers parties, although we only watched, and she liked to be watched. Once we went to a clothing optional resort in Cancun, and I got to watch guys eat her on the side of the hot tub.

At our age, the sex has dwindled down to a couple of times a month, but it is still good.


Guys, talk to your wives. The quality improved because my wife was afraid she would lose me to someone half my age. That would never have happened, because she was a much better fuck, but I did not need her to know that.

Take her to dinner, and tell her to skip the panties, and wear only thigh high stockings. Grab a feel discretely, and let her know she is special. Encourage her to flash the valet as she gets out of the car, and she will notice the attention she gets when you leave.

[Tifosi]

Originally Posted by Barmixer

I read this, and as a man I feel so bad for you. I have been married for 45 years to a woman who loves sex. When we were first married, we fucked like rabbits. As time passed, the sex was less frequent, but the quality improved immensely. She learned to try a multitude of things. Nothing was taboo. Try it once, and more if she if she liked it. There were times she asked for anal, and times she did not want it. But when she did, she loved it.

She is multi-orgasmic, and a squirter at times. The first time she squirted, I was down on her, and she was at first embarrassed. When I told her i loved it, there was no stopping her. She loved to watch herself squirt, and loved to see herself get fucked.

She likes porn movies, and is able to cum seeing a cock enter a pussy. I can make her cum just by talking dirty to her. We have been to swingers parties, although we only watched, and she liked to be watched. Once we went to a clothing optional resort in Cancun, and I got to watch guys eat her on the side of the hot tub.

At our age, the sex has dwindled down to a couple of times a month, but it is still good.


Guys, talk to your wives. The quality improved because my wife was afraid she would lose me to someone half my age. That would never have happened, because she was a much better fuck, but I did not need her to know that.

Take her to dinner, and tell her to skip the panties, and wear only thigh high stockings. Grab a feel discretely, and let her know she is special. Encourage her to flash the valet as she gets out of the car, and she will notice the attention she gets when you leave.

That was a great post! Yeah we all slow down over the years the key thing is to "try" and keep it interesting. I have seen my wife get laid by a very good friend a few years ago. She has had a couple of erotic massages where one guy went down on her and she had multiple orgasms (that was very erotic to watch). She will never completely admit to enjoying her massages or the sex she's had but suffice it to say she never said no! As they say no means no but if no isn't said then the sky's the limit.

[vyrstigor]

Originally Posted by naaktstel

would you let her have a lover?

She don't want.

[ModelT-MsDollie]

Barmixer and some of you others, great posts. We need some women to tell their side of this.
When you get time read the erotix XXX post started by my wife DOLLIE THANKS 0CC.
After nearly 57 years of great sex and marriage she shocked me by going the final step. I believe we will die having sex. Couples do need to add some fun to their sex lives to keep things interesting.

Encourage her to have fun with strangers and enjoy life. Your sex life will never die.