Why do women feel embarrased being seen in their underware and not just in a bikini?

[kesowi]

delt, while I'll admit I have my suspicions about whether your story is real, it makes for an exciting read either way.

Originally Posted by cgnok

I always wondered, if women don't want guys looking, why do they put on skin tight jeans and low cut tops.

Originally Posted by FLP00

Women's underwear is meant to be seen. If not... why so many lace, colors, see-thru fabrics and cheeky prints?

All women I know complain about how uncomfortable lace panties are. Yet many of them like to wear those very often...

So we actually do know the answer to this, right? We are just joking?

Women's underwear is meant to be seen... by themselves. Maybe also by their lady friends and by guys they want to attract, but primarily by themselves. Women dress so that they like the way they look, not so that random people on the street will like the way they look.

[de_niro_2004]

Again, women would be embarrassed to be seen in a bodyshaper or corselette but OK about a one-piece swimsuit. These are both bodyshapers.

[kesowi]

Copying a post from the other thread talking about this since I thought it was the most appropriate:

Originally Posted by manicade

Women are a funny breed!!!!! From what you have said though I think its a control thing.

Basically when she is nude at a pool party, naked under a see through babydoll, naked hiding from the paper boy or flashing the lads whilst running the bath she is in control. She knows who is going to see her, and how much of her they will see.
For example although naked she can control who gets to see what. You can still hide at a poool party by being under water. Even when walking to the pool naked her hands can cover her up a bit and she can adjust the angle of her body to limit who see's what. She is still in control of who gets to see that sneaky peak of her open pussy, I mean which person she "accidentally" opens her legs to as she gets out of the pool or as she re-adjusts herself on the couch. When hididng behind the door she gets to dictate just how much the paper boy see's, whether its a naked side view, a flash of boob ar a glimpse of her pussy. The same goes for the lads at the wedding bath, although she is naked she controls what they see and for how long. Does she cover her pussy and boobs with her hands, just stand there watching their reaction or squat down, open her legs and give herself a quick rub for them to watch. She dictates the pace.

When caught undressing or returning from the bath all her conrol is gone. Its unexpected, she is not ready, in her head she could have been doing anything at the time she got caught, and all her control is taken away.

Also, naked is a final state. Dressed is also a final state, we know how long womeen take to get dressed and prine themselves. Getting dressed or getting ready to go out is not the finished article, she is not "ready" to be seen and hence why the sudden cover up. When she has finished undressing she is mentally prepared to be seen. I bet she still did her hair though before she went out...

The earlier post about context also applies here.

[anonjohn]

Great insights, particularly
- public/private clothing
- context eg public beach / private bedroom

- seeing what is meant to be hidden
- who is meant to see and who is not
- the voyeur/ENF/EUF thrill

I would like to suggest "vulnerability".

Most men are physically stronger than most women and **** and sexual assault is something women worry about much more than men do. Girls are taught to protect themselves and not send out misleading signals. When it comes to love and sex, many men are hopeless wishful thinkers and fantasists - if I fancy her then she must obviously fancy me.

Most of the contexts of showing underwear are intimate, potentially vulnerable situations - only for people you trust and fancy.

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Most men will tell you that women are not always "rational" (maybe their women say the same thing about men). Sigmund Freud spent his life trying to work out what women want - and failed. All that most of us men have to do is to work out what ONE woman wants at that particular time - that can be difficult enough.

[ohioredlover]

The answer is really simple :

1) they don’t
2) it’s the men who get off at seeing women’s underwater vs swimsuits . Let’s face it 90 % of men under 40 are afflicted with terminal ******** . Who in their right mind would consider anyone who makes less than $30 or even $40 per hour a , “man” ?

**** Thread closed. This is the 'Erotic Stories' section. We don't mind a little bit of a discussion, but when it descends into name calling and very few Stories, it's time to call an end to it. ****