Closet exhibitionist wife

[Countrylivin]

Rather than ask on the thread I have ongoing I thought I might open another.

My question is, are there others out there that dated and married a secrete closet exhibitionist?

I post this question now because we were talking about past and present exposures last night and she brought up a couple she had not mentioned prior to our dating and while we were dating. I was blissfully unaware of how much my wife gets off on exposing her body and getting reactions. I was unaware that she would expose herself before dating, during dating and during our marriage.

I am happy to find out her true feelings and actions but it has been a surprise. At least now I only make suggestions.

[coupleak]

Married one.
We often go to sauna centers and nude beaches.
She loves being naked in public.
But she also loves showing her naked body in pictures and on cam, including erotic action .
But the pictures and camming is always headless, cause for the outside world, she is still a good, decent loving wife and mother.

[Countrylivin]

Thanks for the reply. I guess I left the wrong impression with the question. By closet exhibitionist, I was referring to her keeping the activity and her feelings from everyone especially me for years. Not sure how I would have reacted early in our marriage.

With no idea of her previous enjoyment exposing herself, I looked at her exposures around me as a cheap thrill. Again, cheap thrill meaning I assumed she was embarrassed and I was happy with the reactions I thought were embarrassment. Now looking back on each event I see her reactions differently. If you read the (no setup) accidental first exposure to my friend Tim, I wrote that from an embarrassing perspective. She was not the least bit embarrassed. I thought she was brave as we were in his shop and after at her casual nature not covering her tits or allowing her shorts to expose her pussy. After the initial surprise she was enjoying the attention and reactions from both Tim and me.

I also assumed alcohol was a necessity. I was wrong. She's happy to be completely sober exposing.

The only thing it seems during most is she needs the deniability of her actions. Other than flashing truckers, she needs an excuse for the behavior. We have not discussed that side yet. We have talked about my feelings but as one can tell I question everything. I have relayed my support but still have questions as she tells new additional stories of her exposures from prior to our dating and forward

[helloyo2120]

My wife has always been a little conflicted about being exposed. It took her a long time to admit to herself that she actually enjoys it. She gets wet every time she's naked in a risky or public situation. She's also always nervous and reluctant. So it is strange, because she is always glad she did it after the fact, but is always hesitant before the fact. She knows she'll get horny, but the horniness doesn't happen until she's exposed, so she has to kinda psyche herself into it.

[Duran Duran]

Originally Posted by helloyo2120

My wife has always been a little conflicted about being exposed. It took her a long time to admit to herself that she actually enjoys it. She gets wet every time she's naked in a risky or public situation. She's also always nervous and reluctant. So it is strange, because she is always glad she did it after the fact, but is always hesitant before the fact. She knows she'll get horny, but the horniness doesn't happen until she's exposed, so she has to kinda psyche herself into it.

My wife is a little the same, but after a few times, it becomes part of the sex experience and it becomes a normal part of sex. But it can only be brought up once sex has started. It's fine for me to have it planned, but if I ask her about it in a non sexual situation, she doesn't want a bar of it. It's almost like it's not her. The woman doing all that sexy stuff is sexual her. So I rarely reveal what she's going to do until she's suitably horny and at that point she's well up for most of what I do.

[helloyo2120]

Originally Posted by Duran Duran

My wife is a little the same, but after a few times, it becomes part of the sex experience and it becomes a normal part of sex. But it can only be brought up once sex has started. It's fine for me to have it planned, but if I ask her about it in a non sexual situation, she doesn't want a bar of it. It's almost like it's not her. The woman doing all that sexy stuff is sexual her. So I rarely reveal what she's going to do until she's suitably horny and at that point she's well up for most of what I do.

Thanks for the reply. Now that you mention it, she does seem to enjoy it more when she doesn't see it coming, or if it's a surprise. If it's planned out, then she's more likely to say "Idk about that." But if it's sprung on her, she's a lot more likely to just roll with it and even get excited and proactive about it.

Alcohol gets her hot too, and sometimes she'll tell me that she's planning to drink a little, and she'll tell me once she's "had enough" to do something a little nuts. One time was at a campground, where she said she was drunk enough to step out of the tent completely naked (it was 1 in the morning, so everyone was asleep, but still). She just stood right outside the tent, open to the moonlit air, for no reason other than, she was drunk and horny and wanted to be naked in a risky place. After standing out there for 2 or 3 minutes, we went back into the tent and had sex.

Another time, she was sober (unfortunately) we were just going for a walk in the neighborhood and found a nice, quiet, dark street. She said, completely unprovoked, "this would be a good place to go streaking." I darted her a look and she said "Not tonight, but maybe in the future, if I have a little to drink, we could go for a walk out here and see what happens."

She knows what gets her motor going, and under what circumstances she's able to psyche herself into it lol.

[Boobs]

Originally Posted by Countrylivin

Thanks for the reply. I guess I left the wrong impression with the question. By closet exhibitionist, I was referring to her keeping the activity and her feelings from everyone especially me for years. Not sure how I would have reacted early in our marriage.

With no idea of her previous enjoyment exposing herself, I looked at her exposures around me as a cheap thrill. Again, cheap thrill meaning I assumed she was embarrassed and I was happy with the reactions I thought were embarrassment. Now looking back on each event I see her reactions differently. If you read the (no setup) accidental first exposure to my friend Tim, I wrote that from an embarrassing perspective. She was not the least bit embarrassed. I thought she was brave as we were in his shop and after at her casual nature not covering her tits or allowing her shorts to expose her pussy. After the initial surprise she was enjoying the attention and reactions from both Tim and me.

I also assumed alcohol was a necessity. I was wrong. She's happy to be completely sober exposing.

The only thing it seems during most is she needs the deniability of her actions. Other than flashing truckers, she needs an excuse for the behavior. We have not discussed that side yet. We have talked about my feelings but as one can tell I question everything. I have relayed my support but still have questions as she tells new additional stories of her exposures from prior to our dating and forward

I wrote a post about my ex over here ("Secret Exhibitionist"):
https://forum.oneclickchicks.com/sho...d.php?t=249818

She never wanted to admit that she liked to expose her naked/topless body, but she did it quite often. Changing in front of a window with the curtains open, being topless at the beach/garden/hotel, walking back naked from the shower when we lived in a dorm (I don't know the correct english word, it was a house with four apartments, but we had to share the bathroom and the kitchen), insisting I include the topless pictures and nude pictures (nothing too explicit though) I had taken of her during our vacation in the photo album (which she showed to her friends and family).

For everything she had some casual explanation.

For being naked in front of a window with the curtains open:
"Oh, silly me, I didn't notice the curtains were open."
In every house we lived we had very large windows and very dark curtains. Also this happened far too often. No way she couldn't have noticed this!

For being topless on the beach/pool/garden:
"Tan lines will look very weird when I'm wearing this or that dress."
This might be true. But no need to expose her breasts, right? Also she spend most time in the shadow of a sunshade or parasol reading a book, while still staying topless. I'm not complaining though!

I will write about the dorm and the pictures another time, probably in my own thread.

[FarleyGingle]

All agreed. It's the 'plausible deniability' and the right situations that can get my wife going.

My wife prefers not to have a public audience, but is very comfortable when its a small crowd. Things like flashing a boob to a girlfriend, showing off a titty pic on her phone, or squeezing tits through clothes all come into play. If its a fun atmosphere, she can get competitive among the moms. She knows her tits look better than her friends, so she enjoys one upping them in that way when she gets a chance.

[helloyo2120]

Late the other night, about 11:30pm, my wife wanted to have sex. And knowing that putting herself into an embarrassing situation was a surefire way to get me into the mood, she said "if you turn the porch light off, I can probably step out onto the front porch naked." I agreed this was a good idea, lol. One mistake she made, was she's already decorated for Halloween.

So she stepped outside wearing a little nightgown, and very quickly realized that there were a bunch of little orange lights in our lawn that were lighting her up. So even with the porch light off, she was still pretty visible. But she already said she would, and a deal's a deal, so she took a deep breath and then took her nightgown off. I took the nightgown from her and started making out with her.

I stepped inside briefly, still holding her nightgown, locking the door behind me, just to give her that quick thrill of actually being locked out of her own house completely naked. It didn't occur to me at the time, because the orange lights were already illuminating her, but I should have turned the porch light on just to get her heartrate going. After a little while, I stepped back outside (no longer holding her nightgown. I left it inside) and made out with her some more.

What finally ended the fun was, we saw some car headlights coming around the corner, and she got nervous and jumped inside. It wasn't a super long experience, but it wasn't quick either, and it was a lot of fun. A nice first step. I'm looking forward to seeing how far away from the house I can get her to trek in the future, without any clothes on.

[n8kdrunnr]

Originally Posted by helloyo2120

Thanks for the reply. Now that you mention it, she does seem to enjoy it more when she doesn't see it coming, or if it's a surprise. If it's planned out, then she's more likely to say "Idk about that." But if it's sprung on her, she's a lot more likely to just roll with it and even get excited and proactive about it.

Alcohol gets her hot too, and sometimes she'll tell me that she's planning to drink a little, and she'll tell me once she's "had enough" to do something a little nuts. One time was at a campground, where she said she was drunk enough to step out of the tent completely naked (it was 1 in the morning, so everyone was asleep, but still). She just stood right outside the tent, open to the moonlit air, for no reason other than, she was drunk and horny and wanted to be naked in a risky place. After standing out there for 2 or 3 minutes, we went back into the tent and had sex.

Another time, she was sober (unfortunately) we were just going for a walk in the neighborhood and found a nice, quiet, dark street. She said, completely unprovoked, "this would be a good place to go streaking." I darted her a look and she said "Not tonight, but maybe in the future, if I have a little to drink, we could go for a walk out here and see what happens."

She knows what gets her motor going, and under what circumstances she's able to psyche herself into it lol.

Same for my wife - If I try to plan things out she always backs out or finds reasons not to... but the best time we've ever had is when I texted her to come pick me up from work and "wear loose clothes" the surprise of it all and the unplanned nature led to us both being completely naked in a public park having sex.