[Windsorm]

Originally Posted by OSF

My wife and I started dating many years ago when we were in college and being a "good girl" meant you hadn't lost your virginity. One night, when our relationship had grown more serious but before we had sex, we discussed our past sexual experiences. She went first, telling me that she had been topless with several guys and 2 guys had fingered her pussy (including one she had met at the beach earlier in the day), but she had never had sex. She also told me that one of the guys was someone she had met through family friends when he was visiting his grandparents from out of state, and they would see each other whenever he was in town. A few weeks before she started college, she flew to his house for a weekend visit and, the night before she left, they had an intense make out session in his car that involved some heavy petting but no sex.

I had no reason not to believe her then, but years later, after we were married, it came out that the "heavy petting" had also included him licking her pussy and rubbing his cock against her clit. She also claimed that she got mad and shut things down when he spread her legs wider and she realized he was trying to penetrate her. She apparently got over it, because the next morning, she snuck into his bedroom to cuddle and soon her pajamas were off. Again she said they did not have sex.

Curious, I've pressed for more details several times and her answers make me wonder whether they did have sex that night in the car and she can't admit it because she would be acknowledging that she had been lying. She usually gets annoyed when I bring up the topic, even if she's had a few drinks, saying things like 'it was a long time ago" and "what does it matter?". Details also change. For instance, she now claims that she's never been naked with anyone but me, forgetting she told me that she had taken her pajamas off in his bed. She also told me one time that she couldn't remember if her pants were off during their make out session in his car. Really, he licked her pussy, rubbed her clit with his cock, and spread her legs to get inside her, but she doesn't remember whether her pants were off?

Do you think she's hiding something?

Leave it!

She may not be telling you something. So what? Whatever happened was before you met her.