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Originally Posted by Onestopfuckshop
Youre in quite a predicament..takes guts asking for help from us perverts!
Neverthless..sounds like youre in an abusive cycle all around..husband sounds abusive toxic and the ginger lez also ...group members are likely to be intimidated rather them actually liking her.."better it happens to her than to me" kind of way.
She was likely abused herself..think most lesbiams were and with all abused people/traumstized..they unleash on others.
Being scared sucks. But. Louder your voice becomes..better it gets..more likely the abuse will decrease..
That advice about curling up and crying and playing the victim only makes it worse..abusers thrive on the weak.
Challenge is..how do you draw boundaries and stand up for yourself without them saying somethinf us wring with you and hokding it against you...especially with unhelpful chair..
And yes..as a reward to us when youre situation improves..we wanna see a picture!
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Within my region this is the only all female AA group. It is on my work to home route.I am just stopping there on my way home from work. I don't want to go to mixed gender meetings because of my husband. He is extremely jealous.
I don't want my husband to found out of that situation with this ugly short skinny ginger groper woman. He is going to blame me. 5 years ago I had an affair on my husband which I regret terribly. It has been a difficult journey for my husband, he can't seem to forgive me. My husband loses it at times and says some really crappy things about me in front of our daughter and I am afraid of what she may think of me. I don't want this to ruin her future,which I feel it could. I try to remain calm with my husband and answer all his pesky questions that he has about my affair but eventually I get irratated and lose it. He will begin to call me names (horrible I might add). Which eventually makes me sick to think I even told him about the affair. My husband and I where going through some sex issues at the time. I'm not making excuses just giving a bit of insight into what lead me into this affair.
This other man can't compare to my husband as far as having character (just because I fell prey to this situation doesn't mean I've lost my ability to recognize character and integrity - I realized I've comprised mine BIG time). My husband is a WONDERFUL man that any woman would LOVE to have. After all these years I STILL don't have anything negative to say about him. I just made an extremely poor decision (not a mistake - I own my dirt completely). The affair has been done and over and I think my husband has had enough time to stop talking about it to me at least. It's almost like he is hearing it from the very first day all over again. He is soooo angry still, I can't understand it. I regret the affair terribly,but I can't change what has happened. .
I am a straight woman, i love men, simple! I am straight and I am completely 100 percent straight. I have never been attracted to a woman sexually. I am STRICTLY hetero.Even the thought of eating out a vagina makes me gag. I've never had any desire to do anything sexual with a female. .
The biggest thing that is holding me back from slapping this awful ginger across her ugly freckled face are worries of getting rejected by the AA group or being looked at as a stuck up snob. "I mean she just wants to cop a feel, whats the harm in that", etc.I would hate for this to be the reason I stop going to these AA meetings. Most of these women AA group members think that i am arrogant, stuck up, upper middle class, overdressed snob. I'm often thought of as stuck up because I don't usually talk unless I have to. I get nervous just walking into a room and saying hello to everyone. I think that maybe I have a certain look on my face when people see me; I mean, to me it's my "I'm seriously nervous and uncomfortable" face, but to others I think it makes them feel like I think that I'm better than everyone. So everyone just thinks I'm stand-offish and an overall rude person who thinks way too highly of themselves.
I hate that I come off like that. I don't wear anything vulgar but because of my body type anything i wear looks tight on me. I'm confident that I look good in my clothes my style is "sexy but classy" I don't believe I have ever offended or embarrased myself or anyone with my wardrobe.I am a very classy woman and i would never dress in a cheap trashy way. I have noticed, that at times I apologize for the size of my boobs. Some people might think that I am purposefully being provocative or displaying my cleavage, but that is hardly the case. Logistically, unless I wear a turtle neck, most blouses that I wear still show ; it is inevitable. There are dresses that I can never wear because, while on someone with smaller breasts it would look ok, on me it looks vulgar.
This issue of vulgarity isn’t something that I would have necessarily impressed upon myself, but rather the reaction that I get from people. I should pull my shirt up because I am about to have a nip-slip, even though my nips are firmly encased in my bra. I would love to wear strappy dresses with little triangle cups! I would love to wear certain shirts and blouses without something underneath for the sake of modesty (well, someone else’s idea of modesty not necessarily my own). The truth is I regulate a lot of what I wear so that people won’t take it as an invitation to touch, stare, or speak to or about my breasts.