Question for the married people on here.
 

Serious question....

Does your spouse know that you look at porn and masturbate?

I have several married friends who admittedly watch porn and also masturbate, but they hide it from their wives. The ones who have been caught, their wife's get mad.

I'm not married... heck, I've never even had a girlfriend... so it's a serious question.

If your wife knows, do she know how much you do it?

If you hide it, how do you think your wife would react?

Yes my wife knows. As a matter of fact she's walked in on me with my dick on my hand recently. She wasn't upset; she just wanted to see what I was looking at (no way I was going to show her that it was "russian group anal sex") lol!

We've actually discussed masturbation from early on in the relationship. And agreed it was natural; not just for me but for the both of us. The only difference is that she masturbates in bed under the sheets.

Like anything else, it's about healthy communication. It's when you're sneaky about it and say "What? I wasn't doing anything!" when caught that women can interpret it as a form of cheating.

My husband and I enjoy each other, so masturbating is a distant 2nd to get relief.
As far as getting cross at one's partner for noticing other people/porn?
1. I try to be the partner that meets my husband's needs
2. Sex isn't everything porn says it is. It's the personal connection, not just the body.

Every wh*r* has a hole; not every encounter is fulfilling.

Yes
 

I was married to a gorgeous woman whom loved sex....for 22 years. Met her when she was 21. She got excited by porn....and had really never watched it before! But you have to ease into it. You've got to read them over time and how they respond to sexual things!
But let me point something out to you. The way you wrote your question indicates you feel or would guilt for watching porn. Do you wish to keep it hidden? Bad news!! Your partner will catch you someday! Be honest!

yes
 

We are BOTH here on OCC and enjoy the porn...actually we have gotten some good ideas from occ to spice up out sex life.

In reality, depends on the wife.....

1..wives who are ugly, fat, depend on their girlfriends options for decisions, won't like porn....because its better then them in their mundane sex lives....

2....wives with a good, healthy sex life , who like making their husbands happy, won't mind you looking at porn...best to tell them you get good ideas from watching....just don't make masturbation a substitute for real sex.

Wife knows I'm on here. She also has approved every photo that has been posted. She has a user ID, but in her words, it's not my thing.

Hubby here and yes I hide it, in an almost deadbedroom and not getting any lately. Not sure if women on OCC are the right sample to ask (saying it as a compliment), it depends on your partner’s appetite / libido for sex i guess.

I wish we could be as open as other members are, we talked about it few times but then decided to at least find my own satisfaction.

My wife knows I’m on a forum with a group of guys, where we chat about our wives amongst other things. Also, I’d like to think she’s knows I masturbate considering I bought her a waterproof vibrator to use in the bath a while back! It’s not something we’ve discussed openly though.

I’d like to think she’s knows I masturbate considering I bought her a waterproof vibrator to use in the bath a while back! It’s not something we’ve discussed openly though.[/QUOTE]

I'm surprised to realize how little partners communicate openly. I'll have to congratulate my husband on his candor. C.

hubby knows that i masturbate and that i've actually posed for porn in my younger days.

he likes the benefits of being married to a nympho exhibitionist. ;)

emily

I don’t look at porn, it’s never done it for me. Prefer sites like this where people share real life experiences. My wife knows i masturbate most mornings and encourages me to do so. After a few weeks together (20 years ago) she asked me to jerk off for her whilst she filmed it. I often send her dick pics when I’m working away (or even when I’m in bed and she’s downstairs). She’s caught me a few times and sometimes will take over, other times will just sit on the bed and watch me finish.

I know she masturbates too, albeit not that often. I’ve caught her a couple of times but she’s quite shy about it.

Girlfriend
 

Ex wife knew and didn’t care, but that relationship wasn’t the best example.

Current girlfriend (almost 7 years) fully supports it. She masturbates to porn. She jerks me off to it, joins me when I do, and lets me use her ass as a masturbation sleeve.

She also poses, and I have taught her that offering herself for others to privately fantasize about and enjoy her without judgment is a very meaningful thing to do.

masterbation
 

My wife and I have a very open relationship. She masterbates more than I do! I have watched her masterbate, have sex with other men while I masterbated, and had sex with other women while I played with them.
She has requested and watched me masterbate. We have both masterbated and watched each other while watching porn.
I have never had actual sex with others since we married. She has caught me masterbating to x-rated movies and pics of her having sex with various people, including me. She actually fulfills my every need in our sex life.

My wife is way more into porn than I ever was! And she knows I used to tell our stories on this site. It turns her on so much.

Her friends think she is a total prude, but even her best friends would be shocked to know that my wife loves watching (fictitious) step-sibling videos and MIL/SIL videos, and she loves watching me get instantly hard when a woman with small breasts takes off her top on video.

Does your spouse know that you look at porn and masturbate?
She knows I masturbate (Don’t we all?), but not looking at porn. She gets a bit jealous of porn, but doesn’t mind that I masturbate.

If your wife knows, do she know how much you do it?
She doesn’t know how much I masturbate, I still do it nearly daily even as I’m in my late 50’s.

She also masturbates, but not as much as I do. She does have a vibrator I bought her, but she says she’d much rather my fingers and penis.

My wife loves to watch porn, She has her own Pornhub account that she often casts to the tv in the bedroom and has a little play watching it. If she think I’d like something she sends me the link.

We are very open about these things

My wife knows that I masturbate all the time. It doesn't bother her and she is fine with it. Often times I use pics that I take of her naked so she is always willing to let me take nudes of her or she will send me some when we aren't together.
Also I know that she masterbates as well. I buy her vibrators to use on herself when I am not around as well and I love it when she tells me about it.

Yes -
 

Yes my wife knows that I look at porn and masturbate. I operate an adult photography group on another website and she often helps me pick out the feature photos for the week.

She knows that I am on here. She knows that she is posted on here. She doesn't mind as long as she isn't confronted with her photos by people that knows her.

I can get out of bed from having awesome sex and I will still masturbate thinking about what just happened. I don't masturbate because I am lacking sex, I do it in addition to sex.

Masturbating is natural for everyone. If someone says that they don't do it, I think that they are not telling the truth. Looking at porn is probably mostly a male thing, but that's natural too. Guys are visual and females are audio.

That's why you really need to think about what you are saying to a female before you say it. You might be tossing a pebble, they are getting hit with a cement block.

Believe me, they never forget! They might say that they forgive you, but I wouldn't bet on it.

Nearly all guys look at porn and masturbate. Nearly all females masturbate probably a smaller number look at porn. However, I haven't met a female yet that doesn't own at least one sex toy.

As far as married couples go, why be married if you are hiding things from the other spouse?

Even before we got married, my wife and I had already talked about this topic. We both agreed that it was fine for each of us to masturbate, as long as it didn’t affect our sex life together.

After we got married, I still watch porn and masturbate from time to time, and she knows about it. We even watch together sometimes, and if the mood strikes, we end up in bed.

Personally, I don’t think it’s a big deal at all. But I believe it’s important to respect your partner’s feelings. In a relationship, there’s no absolute right or wrong — only what both people are comfortable with and agree on.

Best friend as a sex partner but not wife
 

I haven’t been married for about 2 decades plus but have had my share of close companions.
My current BFF and I enjoy sex once a week. We’ve talked about masturbation. She said it’s healthy to masturbate. We’ve watched each other masturbate, especially when I’m travelling for work.
When we have sex I like to take photos and video or sex sessions. She objected at first and she still objects but I tell her I need this material to jerk off to so she allows me. My buddy also uses this material to jerk off to as well. Im up to 450GB of jerk off material from all my sex partners and ex- wife.

In our early years would watch porn with the wife
 

Not very often but often enough since she was curious what porn showed as far as sexual positions and what the women experienced in the videos. Some 10 to 15 minutes was enough to scan through several porn videos and we were both then worked up enough to start our hot experience.

We haven't watch porn together since maybe 2020 and we both have our own alone time and she just uses her imagination without porn videos or images assisting on a screen. I however do use my wife's nude photos often when I masturbate. She knows I use her photos to masturbate and is very happy with that.

We compare notes sometimes about what excited us to masturbate and we are open with each other. Outside porn for me now is more of seeing what others are doing and perhaps trying that with my wife.

Tell me more...
 

You said "I operate an adult photography group on another website"

I shoot and post my lovely wife.. please let me know if your group/site has submitted amateur content, Id love to join and chat

sandlfun@yahoo.com

Porn star.
 

My wife had never seen a porn video until she was around 28/30 years old, they were the under the counter ones and a bit difficult to see at times, she didn't enjoy them much so didn't bother with them, we have never discussed masturbating and just got on with what we needed to do when we needed to do it, in her 60s things changed, her boyfriend wanted her to take pictures of herself to send him, as she is hopeless at Tec of any sort I got asked to help her, he sends her pics and videos of himself wanking and I take the pics and videos of her using her toys for her to send to him on WhatsApp, so things have turned around for us I know and help her masturbating and then help her send them , as I said she is hopeless with technology of any sort, as for me chemotherapy and prostate meds , have killed my equipment stone dead, I can't get hard and I certainly can't cum so there's nothing to hide from her anyway.

Yes
 

She does. She even encourages it sometimes. She also likes looking at nude male photographs herself and has been to watch male and female strippers. She tends to not like porn films though - I think she finds them too graphic. Past girlfreinds also encouraged me to jack off, sometimes they'd want to watch.

Interesting dilemma. My wife loves having sex, ss fun when we go out (really fun in other cities), let's me photograph and video her, but does not like porn at all. I do have to hide it from her. I've tried to get her to watch some porn that start with massage, but she is just against it. Kind of bums me out, because there is lots to learn here. And you can certainly navigate away from the stuff that may be off-putting to you. I share the occasional pic of her because I'm proud. She is awesome, so it's a tradeoff. I will be trying to open her up to it. Mostly because it really provides exciting views of things to try/do for anything you're open to. Ideas always welcome.