how to get husband to allow me to have lover
 

I see many on here are experienced in or with the multiple love partners over your life, or in swinging or that sort of thing. I have only been with my husband for penetration and I want so badly to give myself over to a man of size and staying power it is obsessing me. I would love for it to happen in a way that is not the cheating. How does a woman that has only been with one man tell the man that she wants more without ruining everything?

It's difficult - many men would be very threatened by your desire. Ironically, the ones who would not be, are usually the kind of man that doesn't let you get bored or dissatisfied in the first place!

It will help if you think he has any desire to have sex with other people, too. It's hard to guess that, but sometimes you can show your excitement about topics like swinging or group sex parties that are mentioned in movies or jokes. If he's paying attention, he'll notice and let you know he would be interested.

Maybe you could try things like "I want us to be closer together - let's share our fantasies..." and see if that conversation makes him uncomfortable...

Good luck!

;) Are there any other men in your life that are just friends?..that you have known for awhile..that show an interest?..There are, you're just not aware of it..yet..:D..With the weather warming up soon, it's the perfect opportunity to reveal yourself more..If I lived closer, I'd help you out..good luck..

MrWooHoo and I have the same experience. And the same advice.

Cheating is NOT going to be good for your marriage. Don't do it unless you are looking for a lot of grief.

When we're in the mood, my wife and I prefer to go to a swing club and play anonymously with other couples that interest us (and are interested in us). No relationship other than sex play. We DON'T meet other couples and "swap".

I am under the impression you live in India. I don't know if there exist any such swing clubs near you. There is probably at least one in every major city in North America and Europe.

DR

something to trade
 

I think I could definately handle something for him too, but I fear that I am not having much to put into the trade- his 45 seconds with the woman for the man pleasing me for many many thrusts. Maybe a hard bargain to be striking. Thanks so much for the pointers, however.

Thanks - so sweet
 

Thanks for your offer of helping. There are other men we know that are attractive to me and that I have wondered about sexually or that I have heard things about sexually from their wives or lovers. Finding a candidate for my fulfillment seems like it would be easy. I think my husband know there is missing somethings for sure in the penetration department, but I have never expressly voiced dissatisfaction clearly. The dropping of hints in that regard are not getting picked up upon by him.

I am in the US living now and my husband is American. I only seek to explore with his blessing at this point. Thanks so much. But does a lady say to life mate "let's go to the swinging club" outright so? Thanks again for all the thoughts from you.

I don't think you can just bring up the idea and tell your husband you want to have sex with another guy.
He will find it very disturbing.
However, all guys want to have sex with more girls and maybe that's the direction you could use.
I'm not sure what kind of guy your husband is - is he a liberal person?
Do you talk about sex? or do you just do it?
Do u guys ever talk about your fantasies? do you watch erotic movies together?
That's you starting point?
If the answer to the above questions is yes - then how about you bring up the idea of swingers? and that you find the idea arousing... see how he reacts ... ask him if he would like to watch swingers do it?
That would be the starting direction imho...

I would suggest that you begin by asking him if HE ever has fantasies of sex with another woman, and maybe you could bring another woman with you. After that, you could discuss the idea of how hot it might be for you to have sex with another couple in the room.

Then, move on to saying that maybe you could just touch another man & he could touch another woman during sex. After that is realized, you could suggest more and more.

Eventually, I bet he will be ok with you being fucked by another man.

Good Luck, and I hope to see more naked pics of you!!

John

My generic advice: if you want a man to understand you or you want him a problem to be solved, wait for the right moment, and then tell him what you need (understanding or problem solving), and tell him your opinion completely and explicitly, pinpoint what needs action on his part, and ask him explicitly to do that action. Dropping hints doesn't work for most men, or eventually it might turn out to be much worse than being completely quiet.

And this is advice for ALL "what about how we have sex" talk - it's best done away from the moment. In the moment it gets too heated for all parties. Best to bring it up at another time - do NOT wait until he's boning you and ask "hey, wouldn't you like to see someone else do this to me?".

And as others pointed out, reciprocity counts. "Would you let me watch you do it with someone else? Would you watch me? It could be hot?"

As you might have learned, some guys really enjoy watching their woman getting it from another guy. Others can't take it. Sorry to say, you can't influence how he feels, you can only find out. Best to do it in a way that's not threatening to him.

- Spot on. And the most honest answers to those questions (which are "no", and "not well") can be found in earlier posts.

It's usually men who initiate the idea. There's an old saying, "When a man takes his wife to a swing club, he has to drag her in kicking and screaming. When it's time to leave, he has to drag her OUT kicking and screaming." It would certainly be unnerving for most men for the wife to just come out with that suggestion.

But when you go to a swing club, you don't have to have sex with others. We went half a dozen times before we had any contact with anyone else. It was just hot to watch and play with each other.

Other posts have suggested that you watch some porn together. See that you get some that involves group sex, and see how he reacts.

On another note, your dissatisfaction seems to be that he doesn't last long enough to satisfy you. He may be suffering from premature ejaculation. There are ways to improve this situation. A urologist can help. There are desensitizing creams that will slow him down. The big question is: Does he know you are unsatisfied, and does he care? He has to know before he can care. If he knows & cares for you, he will seek help with the issue. If he knows & doesn't care, dump him now.

DR

We are both pretty liberal, but don't talk much about or do much of the sex. I have never asked him of his fantasies. He has not asked me of these things in much time. We don't watch the porn together, but I pretty sure he watches on the computers.

I think this statement says it all - his 45 seconds of staying power leaves her frustrated - maybe he needs some help!

Maybe you should try a little reverse psychology...you know, suggest that the person do the opposite of what you really want? Tell him you hope he never wants to share you and the idea will probably turn him on immediately.

And I also think that you should avoid posting any more sexy pics of your gorgeous bod here. ;)

No offense but your post comes across to me as if you might be part of his problem. Its true that there are guys out there better equipped than others, but they have might have different motives than you too. If you really just want to be treated like a piece of meat then I'm sure you'll have no problem, but if your looking for satisfaction beyond being plugged like a pornstar then what your thinking about might not be the best solution. If you cheat, it will haunt you if you have even an ounce of a soul. If you go into something fun with your husband then it could be great and very satisfying but everything I've read leads me to believe that won't be the case.

At any rate, I wish you and your husband the best. Try to make things work with him, not just for yourself... it'll be better in the long run that way.

Oh no, he definately knows and we are caring very much about this. If he was jerk about it and other things of the bed I certainly no be with him or marry him. We have tried many attempted remedies to no avail, or with complications that make them not being worth it. He try very hard to please, always with especially the oral and the fingers and long massages, the foot rubs, and you be naming it. So we are not completely without the communication on the sexual things. He just quite small, very fast acting and even over last years can complete himself without being fully firm. Like the three strikes. Our home movies would be much enjoyed by those into the humiliation or small penis genre. I no cheat because we care for each other so.

I no get this. I seek the advice as lady from friendly strangers and think I make clear that I no want to cheat, but want his blessing to experiment, so to be speaking. If parties agree I thought it was not considered like the cheating. I have read that of those with more open relationships. I just looking for ideas on how to start this discussion that has as its underpinnings a hard truth for the man that woman not fulfilled. I no Aretha Franklin but am believing myself to have suffient soul.

If he is as caring with other partners as he is with you, then you and he will welcome at swing clubs and other sharing venues. Most ladies are happy to be pleasured in many ways other than being pounded by the biggest dick in the house.

DR

That is something I would not be knowing, so I'm glad to have so many of you share your thoughts on this. It is really enjoyable. The frisky in me wants to reply that I am glad for those ladies, but i would be there for receiving that first in lifetimg pounding. Your turn of phrase evokes nice images to my head.

Just an update if any still reading
 

Am to watch porn with husbant tonight under our game I started as entre into approaching him about adding other lover to our bed. We playing game whereby he pick one or two scenes that he has enjoyed over internet and tells what he is liking in the scene and I do the same. I will be needing to search the youporn for enjoying links but think I can find some quick. I am curious as to what he will select. I no be so bold as to pick a cucking video where meek husband watches stud with wife, but may have same in reserve if I get tipsy and daring. Wish me luck and let me know if anyone wants to be reading upon what if anthing of this develops further. Am nicely excited to acknowledge dirty sides of us together.

Best of luck! Enjoy yourselves!

New Developments: subtitled I such a b*tch some of the times!
 

Had movie night as threatened in last posting from me and many developments occurred. For any interested, he showed to me movie with Indian girl with body and hair and the skin color almost identical to mine and showed her receiving professional quality thrusting from all positions. The model goes by Jazmine, and while I think I am larger in the breasts, and must admit to her having the skin that lacks even the slightest flaws, the legs, backside, the tummy and vagina might as well have been me. In many angles where her face obscured, particularly the bend over positions, it was like watching myself in action. He showed this first, and we cuddled in underwear as we watched on the laptop. His heart raced and he became fully erect as I said she look like me, and he is confessing that this is why he watches her scenes. He had quaking in his voice as he was speaking. I touched and fondled him most gently as we watched, and wetted myself by his excitement and his touching of me. I took care, as I am always doing when I do give him the sex (which is really rare I am admitting), to not rub him too hard or get him wet so he can enjoy for longer. He say how he wish he was full and firm enough to have me change positions while he still inside me like the movie, and how he wish to make moan in pleasure like the movie model. He also wished that I would receive him in my mouth more at climaxing like in the movies, and wished that I would like that. I no confess to him that I love that, nor that I withhold that pleasure from him intentionally. I did confess to thinking of receiving sex in the ways depicted in the movie and could not deny that this excited me from my wetness. I show him movie with strong and full cocked muscular white man give long hard fucking to a young and tiny Asian girl, who was clearly receiving pleasure from the intercourse. I confess to husband that this man was similar in physique to a past friend of oral sex benefits (the one from my other story) and on his questions, confess that I think of doing more than the oral with him as part of my private thoughts. I told him I would maybe answer more of his many many questions about this other man if I felt like it, but did make comments of how the movie man was such a strong and forceful bull and how the young girl was so thoroughly spent up by this man. During all that time he resisted my touches and begged to be inside me as he is so turned on as to be holding back his release so hard that the tension in him was perceptible. I made him “get me ready” through mouth and fingering to very nice orgasm, but then turned on him to play trick: I seductively (like movies) remove soaked panties and tell him I want to quickly wet him with my mouth for his entry into me. Then I take him and remove him from the mouth quickly, after one thrust into my mouth, and jerk him hard and quick with my wetted hand, in a circular type of rubbing motion on his head (which he can only handle for moments), and he dribbled up on his own pillow in seconds and go limp. I halfway apologize for getting too excited and tease him on how he could be inside me if he control himself like a man and not a little boy, which he make up for by another oral orgasm for me. I let him grind his softie into me and tease about how bad I wanted to receive his thrusts, even if it was just a few. He seem to enjoy the slight turn toward his humiliation. He keep begging for full stories from my past and his removal from the posture of typical macho male was found to be secretly attractive to me. I tell him that I will tell him story tonight and that he can masterbate and dribble onto my ass when I tell it. I tell him I would enjoy that, if he would enjoy that, and am thinking of ways to encourage and shame him all in the same instance in the telling of my past oral sex with other men. I usually let him masterbate and dribble on me every couple of weeks as our sex and he seems to be enjoying that. I am guessing that he not even ask this time to be inside of me or my mouth.

I enjoy telling and sharing in this anonamous way. If anyone has pleasured themself to this story please let Soni know. Same if anyone wants to hear as this develops further. Same if anyone has more tips for obtaining his consent to another partner in light of this new turn. Again, I sound harsh here, but love this man and am questing for us to be both in a satisfied state. So please don't get all righteous-open-minded-one-world-swinger-guru on me as some of you are inclined to do.

by request, a pic
 

By request, this is what will receive the dribbles tonight.

I am beginning to wonder what you really mean when you say you love this man...

finnaly a nice ass pic of you again :D
can i cum along and dribble also on (in) it :rolleyes:

there you go again . . .
 

We are explore together new regions of the sexuality, which I share in private but publically on this site because I have discovered that it is a thrill i some sense to use thsi forum like a friend. It may sound stupidly but I no could share this sort of thing with many or any in the real life. As I said before i have one girlfriend wherein we have discussed the sex and what I am receiving, but this would be bold to disclose to someone knowing us. As far as him, I have been thinking (after reading about this) that I already do many of the things that seem to be the features of the female dominant or cucking relationship in terms of withholding sex. In an instant I had the urge to turn it more to the harsh, as sex play, and instead of the sinking feeling he must get to leave me not satisfied and we sit in silence after or I just go to shower alone, we had this play and it was like we put it out in the open in some way.

As I gave your story more thought, I came to the conclusion that you really want a Dom/Sub relationship with your husband. Reading your last post, I am glad that you realize it too. But not all Cucks want to be Subs. If I could no longer perform, I would be happy to Cuck my wife so she could be satisfied - but I would not be interested in being a Sub.

Picture this:
You are in your sexiest outfit, legs spread wide being split in two by a Big Black Cock. Your husband is on all fours by the side of the bed, wearing a leash, waiting to lick you clean afterward.

Picture two:
You are in your sexiest outfit, legs spread wide being split in two by a Big Black Cock. Your husband is sitting in a chair watching, masturbating and taking pictures.

Which one floats your boat? Which one floats your husband's boat?

You might surf over to http://www.cuckold-forum.net/ and see what stories there match up with you and your husband's desires... You don't have to tread this path alone.

Thank you so much for the story and the pics. I would love to see some of your well fucked pussy.

Hey, maybe you could suggest to him that you post some pics of yourself here & see what he says.

Thanks Dr. for link and advice
 

While I prefer the white boys I always enjoy the images from a thoughtful sexy response. I definately like the "split in two" part and crave it very much. I look to the site you provided and other resources and see that I no want to go so far as many who have the man in panties and chains and stuffed under the bouncing bed. In fact I would rather at first do this alone and report of it to my husband, but would live with him there to be sure. I did go to site you suggest and watch video of black man hammering white wife very hard and long and the white husband cleaning out the woman afterwards that was very moving and passionate. Truth told, when we would have the intercourse to completion inside me (it has been almost two months now) I have him clean himself out of me, but he do that to give me orgasm for myself. With just a few drops he say it is nothing at all to do so. I inspired now to make him clean with his mouth the drops that I let him make on my body with his masterbation - and now his masterbation to the occasional story from me. Maybe I try this tonight.

Still working on how to turn his situation in to pleasures for both. Thanks.

not understand
 

Mr. Woo. Though I not understand your reference, I looked to some of your postings and was very excited by your story of sharing your wife. It was very sexy, and to those that are "want to be" fantasizers of multiple partners it is like people like you live the fantasy. That seem to make those like you that have no relationship sex problems (unlike the majority of all others where things are not to perfection) really smug and self righteous towards those that want to be like you. With my internet sex life in its infancy that is something I no figure out yet. I sure I have the 'walk" that would get me in the front door of the swinging clubs even though I lack the "talk" with my internet explorations.

Mee too
 

I too would like to see some of my fucked well pussy but have yet to see it. I briefly posted an album of rear end shots and received the cold feet over fear of the recognition. My husband have many vaginal photos so I be thinking of satisfying you request. All this posting is behind husband back at this point, as I oddly share with strangers things I no share at the home. I fantasize that he participates with me as I advertise online for lovers with photos he take and he choose for most flattery. I fantasize that I train him to find me lovers sometimes based on the stories I see from the swing and cucky sites where women are making man do this. In my fantasies, of course, he go wild with passion in doing so, and he keep everything safe for me too. Maybe some day!

- Agreed. And, no.

A little update
 

Have been progressing with efforts with my husband and we are going out tonight. We recently moved to new city and state so all around is nothing but strangers. If the mood is right and we (mostly he) feel right he want to watch me at bar, without him at my side, for men to buy drinks or flirt or even possibly dance. If I get him right amount of drinks who know what may happen. I know for many of you that are quite sophisticated with having many lovers or openness this no seem like much, but for me and having only been with one man, the possibilities are very exciting. I am intending to carefully shave legs and wear skirt - unfortunately is still winter here! Wish me luck!

Agreed
 

Nothing like having a sex chat with a 52 year old fat guy pretending to be a horny young women. "Oh I don't know what to do! How can I get fucked 6 times a day like I need?"

so how did it come out?
 

So how did it turn out with your trip to the bar?

As for advice, I think most men either have this in them or they don't. I would take the direct approach and make him become subbordinate to your desires. I would give anything to get my Indian prude wife to have desire like you have - including sharing her with others. But I have it "in me," as a total perv, and there's nothing a woman could do to encourage me if I already didn't have those thoughts.

I like the avitar and rare glimpses you post from time to time, so if you are just some old male perv that is hoarding pics of a beautiful Indian woman, that are unlike any other Indian woman pics on here, don't be so stingey!

This posting made me hard
 

I was married with a great woman for many years. I am a man that have had a lot of women, have success in all parts of my life, I have a lagre cock (just to clarify this...) and are considered by many to be a sexy and charming man

But: I am a cuckold for some few women...and a hunter for all others

Yes: my ex-wife had many lovers. I encouraged her to have them, and it pleased me as much as her. I never wanted to be there watching, but loved when she came back to me newly fucked. The smell of sex, the details she told me, the sex after...all so good

Now, I am engaged to a very sexy and warm girl. I have told her about my urges, but she is very reluctant. I have asked her about her sexual past. She rarely tells. She is an animal in bed, long and slim, a goddess for men. But she just don't want this. At least not for now she say

And here, you say you are relcutant to ask? OMG, if only my fiansee would ask. If she only one day came home and told me that she met a guy she want to fuck, and say she will meet him later that evening. If she only could look at other men and feel aroused, ask me what I think, approach the guy, make a sexd date and go with him for some hours

She teases me sometimes about this, and after we have crazy sex. So she knows that I am totally into this. I have asked her if she just could find someone she could meet sometimes and have wild sex with. But no

I love what you are writing. Honestly, I am not sure about your approach. Maybe your man is not that kind of cuckold (if he ever is...?) that like your humiliation. Maybe he is just like me: he would fall in love all over again and fuck the shit out of you...if you only started to fuck other guys too?

I am travelling these days and are therefore not home with her. So often during such lonely nights in hotel rooms, I have this fanatsy that she is on her back in our bed being fucked hard and good by some young strong sexy guy. And every time I have these fanatsies, I just have to jerk....sometimes serial times

God I love this woman. The rest of my fantasises and behaviour...well anyone can judge...but OMG if she only had the same urge that you...thanks for sharing...I have some mastrubation to do here...thanks again

6 time?
 

It no six times curley. Is there no room on here for those that do not have the perfection in their sexual lives? I would like to try the swinging or cucking styles of life and am working through that with my husband and having the fun with the internet forum.

not much happen, or maybe much
 

Not sure really how much happen in the bar - nothing, or a lot in terms of developing togetherness with husband. I dress well and wait at bar with the blues music and husband come and go and lurk around watching. Told story of waiting for girlfriend then having her cancel and one man invite me to stay have drink anyway. Very thrilling to have the permission to flirt. Must run. More soon.