Originally Posted by wildaboutyou
My goal has been to never get caught in the traps or ruts that other men did. What sort of traps? For example, the getting a women's phone number routine. (One female friend told me her favorite ploy, which was to give some persistent fellow her phone number, but one digit off, so if she encountered him again and he accused her of lying, she could claim that he screwed up writing it down.) Much better I thought for her to ask for my phone number, instead, and have her call me. But women seldom ask men for phone numbers. True enough, that's one reason why I have always bought the finest, most expensive business cards available. The cards are made from exotic, thick paper and hold extravagant design features, such as inlays and thickly painted logos that her finger can feel rise above the card. For example, say I met some woman at a party that I liked, I would wait until things between us were at a high point, then I would tell her that I had to talk to a buddy or leave. I would also mention that I truly enjoyed talking to her, as she was exceptional for some reason—fill in the blank; then I gave her the card after I had written my home phone number on it, telling her to call me, if she wanted to get together again. The ball was now in her court. How often did they call back? About 50% of the time. The more attractive she is, the more likely she will call you up.
Then there is the sex rut, where the man pesters her to let him feel her up and stick his hand under her bra. Much better for her to harasses me with her pawing hands. How do get her to do that? I simply stood, after we had been making out like teenagers, and removed my shirt. I didn't explain why; I just did and returned to kissing, bare-chested, with no groping on my part. After a while, I would stand again and remove my shoes, socks, and pants. Yes, I would get hard; and, yes, she would know that I was hard; and, yes, she did try to get her hands under my shorts. But I would gently pull her hand away, as I expected her to work for her rewards. (A few times, I took everything off at first, but only when I was 100% sure she would not freak out. No woman ever did.)
Another little trick is to let her pay for it; it being dinner or movie tickets. If you pay, you expect to get laid, even if you are a woman. You can make small jokes about how she shouldn't expect you to put out just because she paid for the meal. We are role playing animals. Although we are all actors, only a few are good at it. Become good. Don't get stuck with the same role over and over again.
You know that part of getting to know a woman, where she insists on telling you what evil morons her past boyfriends or husbands were, don't let her. How's that possible; isn't the whole point of meeting someone new the chance to complain about how you were wronged by your ex? The second she says something bad about her ex, stop her and explain that you only want to hear how she presently feels towards, or about, her ex, not why she does feel that way, as you will never know him and never want to know him, but you want to know and understand her fully. She will soon start the long litany of complaints again anyway, but stop her each time. Be firm and loving, while telling her that you only care about how she feels right now, not about her ex. She will probably end up crying, in a good way, and you will save yourself hours of misery.
The big question was How did you overcame a female's reluctance to do some sexual favor for you? For example, what if she is not the type of woman who does oral or walks about braless or allows you to get anywhere near her asshole or fuck outside on the trampoline at midnight, what can you do? You must redefine her as the type of woman who does do such things. Because we are roleplaying animals, we can be given new roles to play. Cowards can become heroes; drunks can become sober; and the lazy can become industrious.
Learn to speak in a defining, describing, characterizing and categorizing way, saying things like, "You are the type of woman that makes men drunk with lust. You are the kind of woman who does exciting things. You may pretend to be a mild-mannered secretary, but I know that the real you is much closer to a female spy, the type that makes men quaver, weaken, and betray their causes. You are the sort of woman who is confident, self-assured, imaginative, adventurous, fearless…" Start slowly and small, but after being redefined, she can do many of the things that she thought impossible before. How is that possible? She was probably sick of the role she had been playing. Aren’t you sick of the role you are playing? If you give her a new, better role, how can she not reward you? I have even pulled off this redefinition stunt during one-night-stands. Why would I need to? Because I can is half the answer; the other half is because she could be transformed into the sort of, type of, kind of woman who does amazing things.
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08-07-2013, 08:56 AM
Tell your tale how have YOU overcome a reluctant female
