My wife surprised the heck out of me

[Flinn]

A friend of mine is having the same problem with his wife. He now only has sex with her like once a month. I'm not certain when this started, but he's been married for over 2 years already. I believe they knew each other for 6 months before he proposed so it could be 3 years total. I guess after an extended period you just get bored.

[nigbo]

i've been married 44 years & sex is never boring - maybe not as frenetic / frequent as all those years ago - but at least twice a month

[Seattle451]

.I wouldn't say we get bored so much as we get busy, we get tired, and we just don't make intimacy a priority.

[Tinamarie]

I know that you indicated that your wife said this one occasion was the one and only time you would ever see that. With the passing of time, has shown any more interest in a possible repeat performance?

[Seattle451]

Even though reliving the experience over and over again as part of our sexual foreplay, my sweet wife has absolutely no interest in a repeat performance.

Thank yo for asking.

[maluk72]

My wife has never been a prude but she wasn’t very open about sexuality. Surely we can talk about anything, including sex and fantasies. She knows I like voyeurism and a little bit of exhibitionism but that didn’t do anything for her. I’ve also been curious about swinger clubs, mostly to be able to watch and be watched, but she wouldn’t even think about it. We had a very active sex-life in the beginning of our relationship but after 22 years it has deteriorated drastically. Apparently she wants to change all of this now…

Come to think about it, I guess things started to change a few months ago. Although we regularly are nude in public when we visit a sauna, she always refused to go to a nudist camping, visit a nude beach or even get topless on the beach. Last summer we towed our caravan to a camping in France. This camping seemed great in the brochures so we made reservations for it in advance. Unfortunately the camping wasn’t what we expected, too large for us and too noisy. Soon we started to regret that we didn’t choose a smaller camping.

Our neighbors from across the street (I wrote about them before) went on vacation to a camping in France at the same time we did, so we’ve been text messaging from day one about the trip to France. They called us about an hour after we sent them a message that we were going to search for a smaller camping the next day. They told us they were at a smaller camping, not to crowded, not to noisy but with plenty to do for the kids. Naturally we asked if there were any pitches available and if they would mind if we came over. They didn’t mind and already found out that the pitch next to them was available. They also said that we should be aware it is a nudist camping! Much to my surprise, my wife didn’t hesitate at all so we spent the rest of our vacation on a nudist camping, together with our neighbors. That probably was the first change.

Last week my wife exposed me to one of her friends and showed a lot of interest in nude pictures of her husband. That certainly was an exciting change! I wrote about this a few days ago, not knowing what it would lead to…

My wife arranged a babysitter so we could spend Friday evening with my wife’s friend and her husband. Without my knowledge she brought a memory stick with our vacation pictures and she offered our hosts to show them. These pictures aren’t as explicit as the ones we’ve seen earlier that week but many of them showed me, my wife, our son, our neighbors, their daughters and the boyfriend of their oldest, completely nude. As I’m a certified masseur, there were also plenty pictures of me rubbing sunscreen on the others. This didn’t go unnoticed so I explained the sunscreen was often used as an excuse to get a small massage from me. (I certainly didn’t mind!). My wife’s friend started complaining that her husband seldom gave her a massage and the sparse times he did, it quickly turned into sex. Again my wife surprised me with her openness. She suggested that I could give her friend a massage and her husband could mimic my moves and practice on her. The offer was quickly accepted so a few minutes later we were in their bedroom , watching our wives undress. Both of them got fully nude and laid down on their bellies. When the husband sat down on the bed next to my wife, his wife said “oh no, we are not the only ones getting naked!”. My wife agreed so I started to undress and so did the husband after some hesitation. Both of us were semi erect when we got on the bed but that soon changed. My wife’s friend was clearly teasing me by opening her legs more than necessary, leaving me no other choice than to sit between her legs while massaging her back. When I looked at my wife, I saw she decently kept her legs together but this enabled him to sit on her legs with is balls against her ass. I saw his erect penis touch her ass when he leaned forward to massage her shoulders. He didn’t seem to try mimicking my moves at all. By the time I finished massaging the lower back and started doing her gluteus, I was too distracted to notice how the massage of my wife was progressing. Encouraged by her reactions I started slipping my fingers trough the perinea of my wife’s friend, progressing towards her genitals. I was deliberating my next move when I noticed my wife moan. I was shocked to see my wife on all fours getting fucked doggy style. Two of my fingers slipped inside the friend while I watched the penis of her husband sliding in and out of my wife without a condom. I had mixed emotions but my excitement won so I decided to mimic his moves. The four of us had incredible sex and another change was evident when the wives went down on each other. My wife always told me she wasn’t into that at all. The four of us continued having sex until we had to go home because of the babysitter. My wife and I actually had some more sex in our own bed that night.

Next morning my wife went to the doctor and we’ve done a lot of talking last night. She claims it happened spontaneously and was once in a lifetime only but I’m not convinced. I’d like it to happen again but I’m also afraid of what else might happen. After all these years my wife is definitely changing and I’m not sure how I feel about it.

[sooty]

Originally Posted by nigbo

Those of you who have experienced erection / libido problems from blood pressure medication mentioned in this thread have my sympathy.

I used to wake up 3 or 4 times a week with a more than useful erection - until I was diagnosed with high blood pressure. I was put on medication that successfully treated the blood pressure, but my erections vanished over night to a soft hard on at best once a month. I was then put onto statins to combat high cholesterol - and even that soft hard on vanished.

My GP is female and showed not the slightest interest in my erection 'problems' - so I asked for a private referral to a male urologist speciliast who confirmed the effects of my medication were well known and documented and prescribed me a course of Cialis. This has returned me to my orignal 'prowess' and despite this Cialis supposedly only lasting for @ 36 hours - in my case it lasts for up to 10 days.

I eventually found a website highlighting the side effects of a whole range of blood pressure / cholesterol medication and ran a copy off which I gave to my female GP next time I saw her - telling her to consider this aspect for any male patients she deals with in future

You are indeed right about medications such as blood pressure tablets causing erection problems and many GPs consider it an irrelevant side issue but you also need to be aware of the dangers of Cialis type medications as well. I know of a friend of a friend who died of a massive heart attack due to use of Viagara and the second time that I used it I got horrible pains in my calf muscles and have never been game to try it again, was it DVT (Deep Vein Thrombosis). Hypertension can sometimes be controlled by changes in exercise and eating choices. Actually some of the choices are fairly simple, for example I found that drinking normal tea would pump my blood pressure up.

In the last 4 weeks I have been on an almost sugar free diet which has seen me drop 2kg even though most people say that I didn't have any to lose. I did actually and the weight has gone from the tummy and bum which is great. I have a serious slow progressing underlying medical condition and had been getting weaker over recent years (I'm 65) with associated erection problems but have found that there has been a noticeable improvement in the last few weeks. "Mr Happy" is starting to get a smile on his face again. I would suggest readers to try eliminating all cane sugar from your diet and cutting fruit down to a very small amount. The diet consists mainly of vegetables and meat and you can get more info at sarahwilson.com.au You could get many other health benefits even if you are not having erection problems especially for those suffering skin problems.

[piecenick]

The biggest surprise my wife ever gave me was almost 10 years ago when she was on a business trip. We had talked about her having sex with other guys, she had even come close on a few occasions, but it was always a fantasy, I was the only man she ever has actual sexual intercourse with.

Late in the afternoon I get a call from her, "you know that fantasy we talk about all the time, the one where I have sex with another man, would you like it to come true?"

I was a little surprised, I asked her "what's going on, why are you asking me?"

"There a a real hot guy here, he's about 10 years younger than we are, he was flirting with me at check in and the elevator, he said he had a 'big surprise' for me if I came to his room. I asked him what he meant by 'big surprise', he said 9 and a half inches and a night I'd never forget. I just told him I had a business dinner to go to, he said he was in room 532, call him after dinner if I was interested. I am wet just thinking about it, but I don't want to do it unless its OK with you."

"If you think it's safe and you make him wear a condom, go for it".

"I'm not worried about him being a criminal, I know the company he works for and he would have to have a condom, are you sure you're ok with this?"

"I'll be turned on thinking about it, have fun and call me later."

"I love you, I will."

I fell asleep late that night and the phone didn't ring until the morning, she was cheerful, "good morning sweetie".

"Well how was it, or did you chicken out?"

"No, I didn't chicken out, it was incredible, I can't wait to get home to fuck your brains out. I can't talk now and I'll be with people all day, I'll let you know when I'm on the way home from the airport."

When she got home we spent several hours in bed.

[Seattle451]

With our anniversary coming up this year I have been trying to get my wife interested in a repeat performance from last year. She has continually told me that last years experience was a one time event.

Then last night during our foreplay she said, "you know, it might be fun to find another couple to go out on the boat to celebrate with us this year". Then she winked. Our boat is a 42' Ocean Alexander so we will have plenty if room for a great weekend cruise/play in the San Juan's.

I think it's time to start looking for just the right couple :-)

[jojo33bdx]

Originally Posted by Seattle451

With our anniversary coming up this year I have been trying to get my wife interested in a repeat performance from last year. She has continually told me that last years experience was a one time event.

Then last night during our foreplay she said, "you know, it might be fun to find another couple to go out on the boat to celebrate with us this year". Then she winked. Our boat is a 42' Ocean Alexander so we will have plenty if room for a great weekend cruise/play in the San Juan's.

I think it's time to start looking for just the right couple :-)

Huum a lovely story in perspective.
I want you to know the same pleasure as for your last birthday party wedding