My wife eying up my friends

[Strachan]

thanks for the positive comments guys.

[jjanda_2000]

Originally Posted by americuadorian

There are always those whom wish to damage your good time by raining on your parade. The negatives that are being commented on are going to make you paranoid. Tune that crap out and enjoy what you got!

- Hmmm. I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and not immediately call you out as a simple-minded troll here to stir the pot and take the thread off topic for your own purposes.

As I reread the responses to Strachan's requests for feedback, I find no evidence of the drama you claim to be at hand, and I can't think of any positive reason you would put such a negative spin on the thread, even suggesting that the OP is at risk of becoming delusional.

[Strachan]

Originally Posted by jjanda_2000

- Hmmm. I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and not immediately call you out as a simple-minded troll here to stir the pot and take the thread off topic for your own purposes.

As I reread the responses to Strachan's requests for feedback, I find no evidence of the drama you claim to be at hand, and I can't think of any positive reason you would put such a negative spin on the thread, even suggesting that the OP is at risk of becoming delusional.

To be fair to Americuadorian, when he posted that reply there had been someone on here who had posted quite negatively about this. I didn't take anything to heart but this is where his response comes from. As it is those comments are no longer on here, for reasons im not sure of so it now looks as though he is moaning at absolutely nothing, like you've pointed out there.

thanks though.

[jjanda_2000]

Originally Posted by Strachan

To be fair to Americuadorian, when he posted that reply there had been someone on here who had posted quite negatively about this. I didn't take anything to heart but this is where his response comes from. As it is those comments are no longer on here, for reasons im not sure of so it now looks as though he is moaning at absolutely nothing, like you've pointed out there.

thanks though.

- Thanks for clarifying Strachen. If a negative comment is no longer here, the mods have removed it intentionally, and always for reasonable cause.

As for Americamundo, he could have helped his own cause by using the 'quote' button, which would keep the offending text in his reply even after the offending post was deleted.

However, I assure you that Amerimundo's comments were not intended solely for the poster you speak of. He sent me a PM:
" . . . This having been posted after others, including yourself, were giving him negative comments and taking that excitement away with warnings of impending problems in his future and relationship." And then going on to accuse me of "attacking" you.

So, where I clearly reserved applying the title of asshat simple-minded troll to him after his original post, I'm now confident that he is completely deserving of that honor.

I have just blocked him, so I will never see anything he posts in the future, and any PMs will be automatically rejected.

Thanks for maintaining your balance through this little deviation. I await the next chapter in your hotwife saga.

Peace.

[anomalous_anon]

This seems like a pretty common fantasy and I would be lying if I said I never imagined my girl with another man. Hell, I'm just reading your words and I'm pretty excited, so I can only imagine that this is trebled for you. Having read through the posts, it seems like there already maybe something going on between your wife and friend. There are some other signs that might help confirm your suspicion. For instance, is she spending more time getting ready (primping), buying sexy underwear or clothing, and have you two recently started having more sex? (Sometimes when someone strays, the encounters enhance their sex drive overall.) Has she been exhibiting any of those behaviors?

[anomalous_anon]

I like a number of other posters think you have two choices to make:
1. Confront her with your suspicion and tell her about your fantasy.
2. Catch them in the act, then confront her privately.

Reading through your posts, it sounds to me like you'd prefer the second option. To do this, you'll need to arrange for them to be in the same place (sounds like your home is a safe bet). Make sure that you're invitation is nonchalant (PS3 playing and beers for instance) and that you don't make a big deal of it to your lady. Once he's arrived feign a crisis at work, or some other reason to be gone for several hours. For that to be successful you'll need to emphasize that your friend should stay and give some sort of an idea of how long you'll be gone. Like, "Oh, they effed something up at the office and need me to help handle it, it's gonna take at least 2 hours to sort this out."

Giving a time span is critical because this will allow them to feel confident conducting their tryst without being discovered. Above all, your deception must be believable! If not, they suspect what you're up to and "behave." As for catching them, as other members have suggested, you should setup a spy cam. I'd recommend setting one up in both your bedroom and your living room (anyplace with a couch or extra bed). As for hardware, I'm no tech expert, but I'm sure that there are many helpful websites or members with recommendations.

Before choosing either action, I highly recommend that you consider the outcomes. Regardless of how the situation shakes down you need to focus on where you want this to go. Too often, we focus on the path there but don't know what to do at the destination. If you want this tryst to continue you'll need to set some boundaries and ground rules. This is something that you need to sort out first. Ideally, you should contact some other likeminded fellows to help you with your decision. If it was me, I'd figure out exactly what I would want to express if I either wanted her to cease or continue fooling around.

[insecto]

Awesome, love the updates.

[Strachan]

Originally Posted by anomalous_anon

This seems like a pretty common fantasy and I would be lying if I said I never imagined my girl with another man. Hell, I'm just reading your words and I'm pretty excited, so I can only imagine that this is trebled for you. Having read through the posts, it seems like there already maybe something going on between your wife and friend. There are some other signs that might help confirm your suspicion. For instance, is she spending more time getting ready (primping), buying sexy underwear or clothing, and have you two recently started having more sex? (Sometimes when someone strays, the encounters enhance their sex drive overall.) Has she been exhibiting any of those behaviors?

No actual signs other than the things i first mentioned here. thanks for your thoughts on this.

[anomalous_anon]

Thank you, glad to be of help.

[Strachan]

Originally Posted by anomalous_anon

Thank you, glad to be of help.

no thank you!

I'm not sure i'm ready to take things further but i rally appreciate the effort and thought gone into people's responses.

thanks for the tips too