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Originally Posted by toonzilla
he found... her eyes to be beyond gorgeous
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I could be wrong, but I do believe I've said that to you myself at least a couple times!
After almost 2 months of silence, gotta say it's great getting regular updates on Liv again, please keep it up
Still holding out hope we'll get a video of her so we can hear her voice
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Originally Posted by toonzilla
What do you guys think she should do? Not just fantasy-wise but realistically.
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*puts on serious hat* Ok, all fantasies and lust aside...
I'm a firm believer in the old adage "one should never fish off the company pier". All three of you have expressed concern over how "inappropriate" this is, and for good reason: because it IS inappropriate. Just based on what's happened so far, if the wrong people were to get wind of this, the least the two of them could expect is a stern talking-to from HR. The fact that the other guy is a lawyer, he ought to know better than any of the rest of us what the score is here, but I digress
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are ways to keep the enticement up & not alienate one another and not also risk anyone being sent to the unemployment line, but it involves strict discipline, "radio silence" (so to speak) and patience. Nobody can afford to have their feelings getting hurt, so everyone needs to be on the same page
1) Are their paychecks both signed by the same payroll office? Or are they on a "client/customer" basis? If they're on a "client/customer" basis, that's the easier of the two. Hate to say it, but in that instance, the best way forward is to stop now, wait until they no longer have business together anymore, then they can pick up where they left off, no harm no foul. If they're both employed by the same company, even if they're in different departments, the rules are vastly different and they need to seriously reconsider pursuing this any further until they're no longer working at the same place. Sorry
2) The manner in which photos and any written communiques have been shared, are these on company-issued phones or personal phones (that the company doesn't have access to & cannot demand be turned over)? On a similar note, are they engaging in these shenanigans using company email, or private email? Lastly, is any of this stuff being done on company computers? If it's personal phones & emails, that provides a little breathing room (albeit doesn't absolve the concerns of #1 above). If this stuff has been done on company electronic devices or using company email, she needs to approach him at his desk and watch him physically delete any and all communication between them of this nature. That means any photos she's sent (and any he may have sent her of himself), any texts/emails of a lascivious nature, all of it. Then she needs to do the same on her end and make sure he sees her doing it (that way he doesn't feel like she's having second thoughts, or worse, setting him up for a HR complaint; she's holding herself to the same standard she's holding him to, which will give him peace of mind). Then if they absolutely cannot hold off until the future, they need to establish a way to continue this stuff as far away from the prying eyes of their employer as possible (private email, personal/burner phones, etc), NEVER do anything on company electronics and never have any direct IRL contact with one another at the office unless it's strictly work-related. Like it was before this stuff all started. Be as flirty & sexy as they want when they're off the clock, keeping in mind the other concerns, but when they're on the clock or using company resources, needs to be 100% business.
3) What's his relationship status? Does Liv know? That's kind of important. One of the tried & true rules of cheating is "tell as many lies to your s/o as you want, but for the love of god, do NOT lie to your side piece." It's one thing that Liv is married because, as her husband, you're "in the know" and don't have any issues with what's going on. If he's single, then it's all good. But if he's married or otherwise spoken for, unless the four of you are going out every other night as a group to play, like, pinochle or do karaoke, neither of the two of you have any idea what his s/o is liable to do if she (assuming female) were to find out what's going on. Hypothetical: say every reasonable precaution is taken, no issues at work, nothing. Then she finds his burner phone, or he leaves his computer on & she's able to access his email, and then finds out everything (or enough to confront him for further clarification). Who's to say that, in her very likely rage, she won't head straight to his job & inform them exactly what he's been up to and with whom? That would affect all 3 of you, but, as the victim (which is what she would be), it wouldn't affect her, at least in the same way. Worst case scenario: if she's married to him & doesn't work herself, with the way divorce laws are structured, she has every incentive in the world to report him, get both of them fired, file for divorce and then take half his shit for years upon years, and she can very easily do this with zero fucks given. Considering he's a lawyer, that's a pretty hefty paycheck for being the victim of infidelity; after all, a lot of guys with a lot less to lose than he has have gone under to a greater degree than that for a lot less. And that's not even factoring in the possibility that he may have kids. As complicated as this may be already, that would make it exponentially more complicated (and expensive for him).
Bottom line: if this hinky stuff between them is to be pursued, it's imperative his relationship status be fully disclosed to Liv, & if he is indeed spoken for, he's not the only one playing with fire; she is too. And by extension, so are you.
Just playing Devil's Advocate here.
07-04-2025, 02:02 PM
