Nudist girlfriends and wives. Mixed feelings, plausible deniability and exposure

[sammy15]

My wife and I have been going to nudist resorts for many many years. I had gone a few times before we married, but she agreed and we go and have a great time. But she always says she only goes because I want to go. She tries to claim it isn't her preference, but every time we go,she tells me she has a great time. This last time went to the Cove for 10 nights, and when it was time to leave she asked if we could go for two weeks or more, next year. She always is modest in the way she sits, never sitting with her legs spread apart, but she walks around the resort completely naked and we stop and talk to others we encounter. I wish she would expose her vagina, and tease the men who walk by, but that is where she draws the line. I know she loves going nude, but her upbringing prevents her from admitting the truth.

[Shihoin]

Originally Posted by sammy15

I know she loves going nude, but her upbringing prevents her from admitting the truth.

That sounds familiar.

Even though my wife and I have been going to our resort for years - and she will spend the entire day completely naked there, tanning, hiking, paddle-boarding and socializing - she will still not refer to herself as a "nudist." When asked, she will say stuff like "Oh...I'm just here because my husband is a nudist." Plausible deniability. Other nudists have been perplexed by her statement; because she'll literally be standing naked in front of them, with no apparent discomfort, as she says it.

It has a lot to do with her conservative upbringing. To her, admitting she's a nudist would be akin to admitting she has a kink. It goes against the values instilled in her from childhood; and her self-image. So she'll probably go on saying: "I'm only naked here because that's what YOU want to do!" while clearly enjoying being completely naked. Oh well...

[Nudebeachlover22]

As identified above, most women have a complicated body image and have received lots of instruction from family members, media, etc beginning at an early age regarding proper lady like behavior. My wife loves being a vacation nudist but years of mental programming and muscle memory take a long time to undo. I enjoy looking at her and figure she should be just as exposed as I am. When we are lounging around the pool or on the beach, I prefer her to relax and open her legs enough that the entire length of her slit is visible, vs having her thighs pressed together. From time to time I値l give her a whisper that she she spread her legs just a bit so I can have a better view. She値l smile or roll her eyes and then shift slightly to comply with my request. I think she likes to know she is attractive and desired, reminded that it痴 socially acceptable to be exposed in this situation, and also have the plausible deniability that it was my idea and not hers. But either way, when we return home, she immediately starts talking about planning another trip to go back.

[sammy15]

Originally Posted by Nudebeachlover22

As identified above, most women have a complicated body image and have received lots of instruction from family members, media, etc beginning at an early age regarding proper lady like behavior. My wife loves being a vacation nudist but years of mental programming and muscle memory take a long time to undo. I enjoy looking at her and figure she should be just as exposed as I am. When we are lounging around the pool or on the beach, I prefer her to relax and open her legs enough that the entire length of her slit is visible, vs having her thighs pressed together. From time to time I値l give her a whisper that she she spread her legs just a bit so I can have a better view. She値l smile or roll her eyes and then shift slightly to comply with my request. I think she likes to know she is attractive and desired, reminded that it痴 socially acceptable to be exposed in this situation, and also have the plausible deniability that it was my idea and not hers. But either way, when we return home, she immediately starts talking about planning another trip to go back.

I feel all women wish to know they are attractive even as they age. My wife and I are Seniors and she can still attract attention as she is in good shape and has a beautiful smile. I am very lucky. The one thing that bothers me is the way she sits. She always sits with her legs tight together and it appears she is still uncomfortable being nude. I tell her it's ok if someone sees in between her legs. Her upbringing tells her that is wrong, even considering she is nude and people can see everything else.

[Shihoin]

Originally Posted by Nudebeachlover22

From time to time I値l give her a whisper that she she spread her legs just a bit so I can have a better view. She値l smile or roll her eyes and then shift slightly to comply with my request.

A few years back, my wife and I were at a nudist BnB; and we were at the far end of the property by ourselves. The topic of tanning open-legged came up; and with no one around, I suggested she at least give it a shot. She gave me the old "oh stop it..." at first; but then to my surprise reclined on her lounge chair and went full spread-eagle. It was so relaxing that she actually fell asleep. When she woke up she realized she was still wide open; and asked me how long she'd been asleep "like this." I lied (lol!) and told her "just a few minutes" and "no one saw you" (another couple actually did). I then asked her how it'd felt, and she candidly replied "extremely relaxing" and "very much sensual." In other words: "thoroughly enjoyable."

So for her - as I'm sure it is for many other nudist women - there is this constant ambivalence between being fully relaxed and maintaining some modesty around other people. My current and ex-wife both used plausible deniability to navigate "exposure" ("Oh I didn't realize...", "I wasn't paying attention", etc...) The last time my wife did this she was standing at the edge of the pool area, feet quite apart, while chatting with some acquaintances in the pool. Looking up at her, they could clearly see her shaven vulva. There's no way she wouldn't have been aware of the view. She had told me earlier that day that she wasn't in the mood to be "exposed"; so I asked her what happened. And she pulled the plausible deniability card (I'm not always paying attention to how I stand!) It would have been more honest if she'd said: "Eh...at that moment I was comfortable with them seeing me completely exposed, who cares?"; but her "built-in" modesty prevented her from being candid, even though it doesn't make much sense.

Originally Posted by sammy15

She always sits with her legs tight together and it appears she is still uncomfortable being nude. I tell her it's ok if someone sees in between her legs. Her upbringing tells her that is wrong, even considering she is nude and people can see everything else.

I might suggest looking for somewhere private where no one can see her. I know that it might not work; but it's worth a try?

[Nudebeachlover22]

Originally Posted by Shihoin

A few years back, my wife and I were at a nudist BnB; and we were at the far end of the property by ourselves. The topic of tanning open-legged came up; and with no one around, I suggested she at least give it a shot. She gave me the old "oh stop it..." at first; but then to my surprise reclined on her lounge chair and went full spread-eagle. It was so relaxing that she actually fell asleep. When she woke up she realized she was still wide open; and asked me how long she'd been asleep "like this." I lied (lol!) and told her "just a few minutes" and "no one saw you" (another couple actually did). I then asked her how it'd felt, and she candidly replied "extremely relaxing" and "very much sensual." In other words: "thoroughly enjoyable."

So for her - as I'm sure it is for many other nudist women - there is this constant ambivalence between being fully relaxed and maintaining some modesty around other people. My current and ex-wife both used plausible deniability to navigate "exposure" ("Oh I didn't realize...", "I wasn't paying attention", etc...) The last time my wife did this she was standing at the edge of the pool area, feet quite apart, while chatting with some acquaintances in the pool. Looking up at her, they could clearly see her shaven vulva. There's no way she wouldn't have been aware of the view. She had told me earlier that day that she wasn't in the mood to be "exposed"; so I asked her what happened. And she pulled the plausible deniability card (I'm not always paying attention to how I stand!) It would have been more honest if she'd said: "Eh...at that moment I was comfortable with them seeing me completely exposed, who cares?"; but her "built-in" modesty prevented her from being candid, even though it doesn't make much sense.



I might suggest looking for somewhere private where no one can see her. I know that it might not work; but it's worth a try?

Those are both great stories. My wife has an Innie and while she痴 gotten pretty comfortable with her fully bald pussy on display at the resort, she does keep her lips closed so as not to give the internal view. If we are completely alone she sometimes will open up in an attempt to get a physical reaction out of me which she thinks is funny. I suppose as time goes on she might become more comfortable with others seeing her insides but I知 not going to push it. I do like the idea though of getting her to open up a bit when no one else is around, and seeing how long she壇 hold that position on a dare.