If you knew then what you know now

[Hornyinde]

My answer is going to sound a lot like the above. I’d still marry her, it’s been 35 years. I’d still fuck all the girls before her and her fuck all the guys she did before me.

We still fucked enough after kids, but it’s never enough for the husband, is it. I didn’t dream I’d masturbate as much (maybe more) after marriage as before. No one tells you that. I’m not complaining, it feels good. Thankfully the internet came along with the access to porn easier.

I do wish we had been willing to explore boundaries earlier, but understand with raising kids you find it difficult. She’s had a sexual renaissance in her 50’s. The sex has increased, and she is open about fantasies. Finally, some nude beaches and talk about adding others into our sex. She had a great body, people think she’s early 40’s, not late 50’s. She likes that other men find her attractive.

I wish I knew then, that she’s open to exploring more sex, with men and women. Maybe we would be where we are now, sooner?

[1michael]

The reason Why I wanted to meet my wife back then was hearing all the guys in the BAR talk about her and all the amazing stuff she with them as singles and not group stuff! Mostly the part of telling the guys they can CUM in her mouth and she'll swallow it, cause I never had that done before and it was on my Wish List at #1 lol.
But after we got married it was all Good and never had thoughts of doing more!
It wasn't till our daughter went away to college for 4 nice Long Years that we sat down and talked open minded about what we can do now to Spice Up our SEX life?
I had to laugh when my wife said before all I had to do was look at her NUDE and I would get an Erection! Now she has to work on doing more to my cock before it gets that hard!
Having friends and neighbors that have had that sexual movement into going to Adult Events and later finding out that they share with others was exciting and a shocker too!
Just like others said here being able to share the wife with either another guy or split off on couples does make for adding Spice into the married life!
After we talked on each of Us having another partner, I never thought about any other Interest nor did my wife!
It wasn't till we did our 1st try out with the neighbors that my wife shocked me by doing the girl on girl thing!
After that going on a Cruise vacation, she shocked me by picking Up a local guy from the clothing optional Beach and doing everything with him in our room! My wife never talked about the urge for her to enjoy a BBC, but she showed her skills and talents by trying to stuff his huge cock into her mouth and later took it in both of her other holes all the way!
But just like Hornyinde said, just wish I would have known sooner so we could both have enjoyed lots more of this at a way sooner time!
Maybe its when you get Older, you develop a Who Cares Attitude? Cause with our pool and Hot tub there isn't a friend / neighbors / family member / or co-workers that haven't seen my wife NUDE or didn't get to enjoy her as well~

Maybe others here will learn from what we done and give it a try out Sooner?

[Right_In_There]

If I knew then what I know now I'd probably have become a hermit and escaped "civilization"! It's a little too late now, though...

And yes, I am referring to relationships that I found out the hard way about...

I do have extremely fond memories of my current wife, from whom I'm separated (she's living with her bf and the kids live with me), the way we met, the adventures we had going across the world to be with each other. I tell my kids that once I've loved someone as much as their mother, that's it. In fact, she's the only one of my 3 wives that I have any good memories of at all.

She lied to me a lot about her past and a lot of other things, but with her, I'd probably do it all over again-but not with the other two

[naturistwineboy]

My first really serious g/f was def my mrs robinson. I was naive, we dated on and off over 5 years. After our final breakup, we remained good friends for decades. Maybe I was too immature, but we competed on everything, school, sex, golf, racquetball, even driving. It was the competing that was overwhelming for us. I drove us up to northern mi to go golfing, and averaged over 90 mph, this was in the old 55mph days. 2:45 to get us there. 5 years after we broke up, she called to tell me she did it in 2:30.

Then there was the ex wife. I knew a month before the wedding I was making a huge mistake, but refused to cancel the wedding. She said this about herself, she was a psycho B. She really was mentally unstable. Her cousin and I stayed friends for several years, and he dropped a bombshell on me one day. Apparently she finally came out that her dad had sexually abused both of his daughters, and things began to make sense. Best advice I got from a close friend going into the divorce, make a list of all the reasons I was filing, and keep it with me at all times. At the court house, she was begging me to stop the divorce. i pulled my list out, and told my lawyer to continue.

BUT, all this led me to being with the most wonderful, intelligent, and gorgeous wife that I wish we could have 50 years with her

[Windsorm]

I think I’ve probably learnt two things:
- women who are excellent at sex aren’t necessarily excellent in other ways
- what women find appealing isn’t what men think women find appealing. I wish I’d learnt that two decades earlier

[Gnome72141]

Originally Posted by Windsorm

- what women find appealing isn’t what men think women find appealing. I wish I’d learnt that two decades earlier

This one is tough, especially because we are "taught" to do to others in bed what you would like done to you, but it doesn't work that way.

When it comes to foreplay, for example, my wife and I couldn't be any different.

She simply likes to watch me grow from soft to hard. That is all the foreplay she needs (she is very visual for a woman). But that also means I need to make myself hard, because that is what she likes to see.

I like to be touched and kissed everywhere. She HATES when I do that to her, so she can't wrap her head around why I would want her to do that to me, so she never does it to me because she wouldn't want it done to herself. I try to explain that we like different things, and she can't process that idea.

We have found things that work for us (well, mostly her), but it's been less fun for me as the decades pass by.

[peter51]

Originally Posted by 9inchesrick

Would you marry the same or what would you have done different?

I know I would have gone different. I believe the day we said "I Do" the pussy zipper was closed. Great lady I married, but thinking about some of the skinny girls in school that had interest have filled out to be stunners makes me wonder what I missed out on.

Curious of others thoughts. To late to change it now.

Then the question is: Would she have married you ?

[Speedster]

Great question- I would have gone after the quiet and shy females. I was too focused on looks back then.

Most of the ones that looked really good back then pretty much turned gross after highschool and college.

The quiet, shy and average females, that no one noticed, really got it together and became beautiful and stay that way to this day.

Yes, I would marry my wife again. No question. She is the best!