Women and men seeing things a bit differently

[MyCluelessWife]

I can relate to this. My wife is naturally pretty clueless/naive so she doesn’t realize things, especially sexually. She has been around family and friends in her thin loungewear with her nipples/areolas outlined and wedgie shorts. She has many more situations like this.

[Wmhtb]

I have recently started dating someone seriously for the first time since my divorce. And something happened that made this thread pop into my head.

My new girlfriend and I went to Palm Springs with her best friend and her husband. We got along well which was a relief. We spent the afternoons by the pool. I was surprised when my girlfriend appeared with a revealing swimsuit. She’s Latina with c cup tits that were pouring out of a too-small top. Her bottoms rose high on her hips and the sides of her pussy showed at times and her whole ass was out. I’ve always enjoyed men checking out my lady so this was fine. And her friend was wearing similarly revealing swimsuit so I was just enjoying everything.

After an evening in the downtown area we returned home a little buzzed and continued drinking by the pool. My girlfriend decided to hop in but rather than go get her suit she pulled her top over her head revealing a sexy black bra. Her shorts hit the floor and she had on matching black panties. They weren’t a full thong but much of her cheeks showed. She hopped in and continued chatting with us from the water. When she got out she was cold and came over to where we all were and wrapped a towel around her shoulders. She stood there dripping wet with her panties clinging to her trimmed bush and pussy lips. It was a sexy sight and her friend’s husband took a few glances.

In our room later I mentioned it and she scoffed and said her underwear covers more than her swimsuit. I shrugged and said “fair enough”. Still despite that being true it was way more sexual than the swimsuit. Women and men just see things different.

[EriiErii]

The most obvious one on this is sure topless sunbathing on the beach. Years ago I was with my wife, then girlfriend, on a very busy beach on the island of Ios is Greece and pretty much every single woman their had their tits out, including my wife. Not a single one of those women even thought that every single man there was basically looking at every single pair of baps on show. There was one chap there, probably English, who was with a his girlfriend who had absolute beautiful, massive norks out on show right by a thoroughfare; i remember this clearly. She was just lying their tits out without a care in the world and hundreds or thousands of people filed past all day, whilst the boyfriend angrily looked at every man checking out his bird's tits - he knew!

Before we started going out my missus went on a mates holiday to Spain with another couple and a few unattached mates. Her and the other attached girl had their tits out at the beach and in front of her male friends, some of which we still see. "Poor x (mal friend), he didn't know where to look bless him" she's often said. She has no idea he knew exactly where to look - at your beautiful 22 year old tits! They just don't get it!

To be fair I think, although they don't get the sexuality bit, they think of it more as an embarrassment thing. Which is why my wife hasn't let her tits be enjoyed by our male friends more recently, or why my mother-in-law doesn't get hers out on holiday in front of her son-in-law (but will in front of her male friends).

[Openyoureyez89]

Interesting thread and I’d love to see more stories where a woman does something arousing not realizing it is.

Not really a story but my wife’s friend is very handsy. A self proclaimed “hugger”. But it’s more than that. She’ll link her arm into mine while we’re walking and put her head on my shoulder. It’s just friendly affection but I enjoy the contact. The best is when she massages me unprompted. My wife doesn’t seem to think anything of it but I enjoy her friend having her hands all ove ent back. She’s also given me a hug at the beach. Having my arms around her nearly naked body is a memory I won’t soon forget.

[Shihoin]

My ex-wife was a "full-body hugger." And that carried over into social nudism. In the textile world there's clothing "in the way"; but when everyone is naked, bare parts are going to touch.
I would watch guys' faces as she "went in" and pressed her big tits against guys' chest or women's breasts. Or guys realizing their dick was pressed against her thigh/stomach. Amusing; to say the least.

She genuinely didn't really see the "erotic" connotation of the act; and felt she was just being friendly and warm. Needless to say, I feel very differently when a nudist woman gives me a full-body hug; it feels seductive. But...she did put a smile on many dudes' faces; so it's all good!

[Openyoureyez89]

Not really a story but an observation.

This site is full of men who have some level of desire about seeing their wife with another man. But if you think of the average couple, whether a man plays the slow game or straight out asks his wife if she’d consider it, what percentage of women would ever actually do it?

No consider the same couples, and the woman says “I’d really like to watch you fuck my friend.” And now we are talking a much larger percentage.

[Right_In_There]

You know, I've heard it said countless times that sex for men is physical and for women it's emotional-as if we think with our dicks and they think with their hearts. I think this is utter bullshit. I think that men can be just as emotional and romantic as women can be. And turn it round, women can look at sex as just a completely raw, physical, "fuck me" sort of thing as men can. It all depends on the individual. Proof of this is my current wife, with whom I had a very deep and meaningful romance. I took her virginity, then gave her 3 kids. She passed up many guys that she could have just fucked, but waited for me because I was somebody that really loved her for who she was, and didn't just want to get in her pants. Fast forward 3 kids later, she started fucking random guys for the sheer sexual thrill of it, and not only that, she didn't even know these guys from Adam.

I had a friend that used to tell me that men were sexual and women were romantic. I always told him that was just bullshit. I was on a forum at the time that had plenty of men and women on it, and I took a poll and asked people if they thought that was true. The great majority of people said that it all depended on the individual. I agreed. One woman even answered and said, "hell, I'm a woman, and I don't know ANY women that are romantic!". Not only do I agree, but I've actually know more men that are really romantic than women, and that get their hearts broken real hard over a breakup, a lot harder than any woman would. My wife used to be romantic, but that's all over with. In fact, I think being romantic for a lot of women is basically just a put-on.

Me, I'm more on the emotional/romantic side, but there's definitely a very physical side to me, too. I've been hurt so many times that I'm not sure I have any romanticism left though, unfortunately.

Btw, I'd really like to see a lot more threads like this.

[Curiouscouple2469]

Agree 100%

Not that I’ve not had a few one night stands in my day, but in general, I don’t really enjoy them due to the lack of any real emotional connection with the person.

I was devastated when I broke up with my wife 25 yrs and the preceding partner 8yrs.
I entered into my current relationship and found it very satisfying until a couple rather heated arguments at year 5 and she said things I could never unhear.

We discovered at a couples sexual workshop - that if she really wants great sex she would pick some complete stranger so she could really let loose.
I am the opposite I need someone to truly trust in order to really let loose.

Since the arguments (not related to the workshop) we have mended our partnership as far as living arrangements but after hearing her derogative sabotaging comments I have had little desire to perform sexually with her ever since and we are three years on… I’ve lost my trust.

I have lost the emotional connection we once shared… game over.
At this point We share a mortgage, period .

[Right_In_There]

Originally Posted by Curiouscouple2469

Agree 100%

Not that I’ve not had a few one night stands in my day, but in general, I don’t really enjoy them due to the lack of any real emotional connection with the person.

I was devastated when I broke up with my wife 25 yrs and the preceding partner 8yrs.
I entered into my current relationship and found it very satisfying until a couple rather heated arguments at year 5 and she said things I could never unhear.

We discovered at a couples sexual workshop - that if she really wants great sex she would pick some complete stranger so she could really let loose.
I am the opposite I need someone to truly trust in order to really let loose.

Since the arguments (not related to the workshop) we have mended our partnership as far as living arrangements but after hearing her derogative sabotaging comments I have had little desire to perform sexually with her ever since and we are three years on… I’ve lost my trust.

I have lost the emotional connection we once shared… game over.
At this point We share a mortgage, period .

Man, I hear you, really. Some advice this workshop gave you-my wife was promiscuous enough already without some advice like that! One of her excuses for cheating on me (this was when our daughter was a baby and I found out about it years later) was, "I had never done anything like that before so I wanted to see what it was like" (since she lost her virginity to me-that's when she got her first STD and she said she had no idea where she got it-I had to be told because I had to be treated). I told her, "well, you never had robbed banks before either but that doesn't mean you should rob one to find out what it's like". Then in her second round of cheating 6 years she ago she got another STD and an abnormal pregnancy and kept running back to the same fuckup she got them from (in full view of and with the knowledge of the kids). I told her that it seemed like the scummier the guy was the more she couldn't resist hopping in bed with him.

Then she said she was sorry, we reconciled, and a few years later she moved in with her new bf she met while riding a bicycle. That was 3 years ago, and the kids live with me, although we're still legally married.

Like you, I've got 2 ex wives and the breakup with the second was really bad on me. This time, that's it. I can't fall in love with someone enough to uproot myself from my home country, give her 3 kids and still love someone else. I told her I don't love the kind of person she's become, but I damn sure couldn't love anyone else, or even have any feelings for them. I look at other women (you can tell by my albums that I do) but I still think they're all dogs compared to her. She knows that. I guess that's what true love is.

My father told me when I broke up with my 1st wife: "look, women can turn their emotions on and off like a light switch-they'll love you one day and the next day forget who in the hell you are." Boy, was he ever a prophet.

And I sure understand hearing things from her that you just can't unhear. It's terrible the things that people can say when they're mad-sometimes they mean them, sometimes they don't. It's really, really sad. That's why I think that people should apologize, mean it, forgive each other and move on. One thing I used to respect about my current wife is that she was always ready to say she was sorry, and so was I. Not anymore. She just recently blamed me for the fact that she cheated on me with these weirdos, saying she wasn't "happy". I told her that I guess she forgot all the years that I held her hand when she cried and had doubts and tried to lift her up, and these guys that give you STD's, an abnormal pregnancy and vandalize your father's car make you "happy"? I said, "wow, you sure have a weird idea of what happiness is".

So, what it boils down to is that women can divorce their genitals from their hearts just as much as men can, and maybe even more, especially if they're with these bad boy types.

[Curiouscouple2469]

Dang bro, that’s messed up.
Sorry to hear of your experience(s)
I guess the point is, both sexes can be as cold, or as warm as the other it’s not so cut and dry.
Cheers!!