[Request] sex in marriage

[camflasher]

Hi,

Just to let you all know, when we were married 10years , we used to have sex on a regular basis. Things changed when we had our first baby after 7 yrs of marriage. Lot of trying, since she has Thyroid and PCO (poly cyst ovaries). During the lot of trying period, sex was almost everyday, since she wanted a baby desperately.

Just to let you all know, my wife is a very cooperating lady and i have this fantasy of exposing her on webcams to some of the friends (women only earlier) on yahoo messenger. Though she never liked the idea, she used to agree and lay on the bed in her lingerie and scantily dressed clothes just to satisfy my fantasies. Also, once we were in Bangkok, she had a few drinks and agreed to her clit being massaged by masseuse. after that i gave her a good fuck in front of her Masseuse. i know those times would never come back.

After our first baby, her priorities shifted towards the baby, which is very natural for any women. The sex used to be only weekly then. I used to fuck her a lot, since it was only one day in a week and without rubber ofcourse. When my elder kid was an year old, we got the news that my wife is pregnant again. Initially we were shocked and somehow, we managed ourselves and got ready for the second one.

After the second one, unfortunately, she doesnt have time for any sex. i cant blame her though, of course we have been trying every night, but somehow it doesnt seem to go after foreplay. Either my younger one wakes up or my elder one. i request her to sleep without panties and she even obliges to it. i get to rub my dick against her ass and sometimes she allows me to even take a pic of her ass and legs in the morning.

But suddenly now for past 1 month, everything has come to a standstill. we are only in the foreplay now a days.

Am deeply saddened by the turn of events and i really dont know what to do. she is trying to work out on treadmill and try some weights also to be back in shape, since she delivered 2 kids in a span of 2.5 years.
sometimes i feel like going and banging some wh**e. But somehow i cant gather enough courage to do it.

Has anybody in here been in a similar situations??.. i require your help and comments to take me forward in this crucial time of life..

[naaktstel]

Sorry to tell, but... Welcome to the club!
I hope both of you will work it out. I know we won't.

Maybe toy should tell her that having sex burns a lot of calories

[ModelT-MsDollie]

Originally Posted by camflasher

Hi,

Just to let you all know, when we were married 10years , we used to have sex on a regular basis. Things changed when we had our first baby after 7 yrs of marriage. Lot of trying, since she has Thyroid and PCO (poly cyst ovaries). During the lot of trying period, sex was almost everyday, since she wanted a baby desperately.

Just to let you all know, my wife is a very cooperating lady and i have this fantasy of exposing her on webcams to some of the friends (women only earlier) on yahoo messenger. Though she never liked the idea, she used to agree and lay on the bed in her lingerie and scantily dressed clothes just to satisfy my fantasies. Also, once we were in Bangkok, she had a few drinks and agreed to her clit being massaged by masseuse. after that i gave her a good fuck in front of her Masseuse. i know those times would never come back.

After our first baby, her priorities shifted towards the baby, which is very natural for any women. The sex used to be only weekly then. I used to fuck her a lot, since it was only one day in a week and without rubber ofcourse. When my elder kid was an year old, we got the news that my wife is pregnant again. Initially we were shocked and somehow, we managed ourselves and got ready for the second one.

After the second one, unfortunately, she doesnt have time for any sex. i cant blame her though, of course we have been trying every night, but somehow it doesnt seem to go after foreplay. Either my younger one wakes up or my elder one. i request her to sleep without panties and she even obliges to it. i get to rub my dick against her ass and sometimes she allows me to even take a pic of her ass and legs in the morning.

But suddenly now for past 1 month, everything has come to a standstill. we are only in the foreplay now a days.

Am deeply saddened by the turn of events and i really dont know what to do. she is trying to work out on treadmill and try some weights also to be back in shape, since she delivered 2 kids in a span of 2.5 years.
sometimes i feel like going and banging some wh**e. But somehow i cant gather enough courage to do it.

Has anybody in here been in a similar situations??.. i require your help and comments to take me forward in this crucial time of life..

This is a tough one to try to answer. Keep in mind your not the only couple this happens to after several children are in your lives. As you know, kids do take a lot of time and wear mothers out. Hopefully as they get older you two can get away for a sexy weekend.
So far you have been patient and understanding. Damned I can't really come up with anything except keep trying but don't get pushy. Whatever you do do not go to a prostitute for your pleasure. If your wife finds out things could get nasty. On the other hand if you mention this to her and she agrees possibly an outsider will help you enjoy your sex life until your wife gets back to normal sharing herself with you.
I am no Dear Abbey or Ann Landers and trying to be does not help. I hope this was a little help to both of you. good luck.

[DRDavenport]

Originally Posted by camflasher

Hi,

Just to let you all know, when we were married 10years , we used to have sex on a regular basis. Things changed when we had our first baby after 7 yrs of marriage. Lot of trying, since she has Thyroid and PCO (poly cyst ovaries). During the lot of trying period, sex was almost everyday, since she wanted a baby desperately.
<snip>
Has anybody in here been in a similar situations??.. i require your help and comments to take me forward in this crucial time of life..

This happens to many, many people. Try to get some time together away from the kids and the house. A short vacation to someplace tropical... Even a hotel in the next town will help.
As the kids grow older and need less attention, you will be able to reorient your relationship. It may be hard now, but, trust me, it will get better.

DR (been there, done that)

[ModelT-MsDollie]

On the other hand some women who start out loving sex when young change after several kids or simply loose interest after marriage. And of course this is a two way street. There are horny women with husbands who are tired all the time, overworked, or just loose interest in sex.
Somehow we have to get these uninterested people interested in each other and the ones wanting sex to get together. Of course this ain't gonna happen! I hate to see anyone get a divorce, especially when children are involved. But as mentioned, life is too short to be miserable and do without a loving partner. Keep in mind when you and your wife are unhappy the kids are unhappy. You're actually doing everyone a favor by divorcing.
I truly think talking about it with your partner is very important and explaining that if I can't get it at home there are plenty of women, or other men, willing. This usually leads to divorce which is finally gonna give you a chance to find a loving partner.
On the plus side, as we get older we tend to notice those older women who are sexually interested and hopefully active. Hell there are thousands of them right on here.
For years I took my wife for granted, as many of you happy campers do. After almost 57 years of sexually active marriage I am one of the luckiest men alive! So how can I begin to understand your problems? Actually when I think of our life together I do understand.
Hell I think I'll sign off and go make love to my wife.

[camflasher]

Originally Posted by ModelT

On the other hand some women who start out loving sex when young change after several kids or simply loose interest after marriage. And of course this is a two way street. There are horny women with husbands who are tired all the time, overworked, or just loose interest in sex.
Somehow we have to get these uninterested people interested in each other and the ones wanting sex to get together. Of course this ain't gonna happen! I hate to see anyone get a divorce, especially when children are involved. But as mentioned, life is too short to be miserable and do without a loving partner. Keep in mind when you and your wife are unhappy the kids are unhappy. You're actually doing everyone a favor by divorcing.
I truly think talking about it with your partner is very important and explaining that if I can't get it at home there are plenty of women, or other men, willing. This usually leads to divorce which is finally gonna give you a chance to find a loving partner.
On the plus side, as we get older we tend to notice those older women who are sexually interested and hopefully active. Hell there are thousands of them right on here.
For years I took my wife for granted, as many of you happy campers do. After almost 57 years of sexually active marriage I am one of the luckiest men alive! So how can I begin to understand your problems? Actually when I think of our life together I do understand.
Hell I think I'll sign off and go make love to my wife.

Thank you for all the lovely comments and the time taken out to reply to me on this post. Just to let you all know, i did discuss this with my wife and we had sex for the first time after a month and i even she allowed me to post a pic of her back!!!

[mikee45]

i never understand why woman are losing their interest in sex with their own husband.
they do it almost as an obligation because they are married with him.
but there is no passion and it is not fun anymore.


the most strange thing about this is when this kind of woman find another men by cheating,they suddenly enjoy sex a lot.

[ModelT-MsDollie]

Camflasher, I don't know what to say (write). I joined this group thinking we could help a few members find ways to play sex games. Just this one post and finding out you and your wife are having sex again makes it all worth being here. We both hope you and Mrs Cam continue to enjoy sex at least now and then. By the way, beautiful ass!

mikee45. Ever since that first young guy shared an apple with that nymphomanic in the garden man has wondered what the hell he was getting into. Supposedly Eve was the Devil's work. Man has suffered in hell ever since but loved almost every minute of it. Great wars, murder, and criminal acts are often over woman.
I've also seen friends and their wives not have sex for years then later find those same cold sexless wives were having affairs with others. Man can go to the moon, invent this computer, and other things, but no man has figured woman out!

[bugeye7]

Hey guys, we have been married for thirty years and had a fun sex life for a long time. Then came "the change in life"
Or menopause. Vaginal dryness caused intercourse to become painful.
My wife still enjoys sex, but not intercourse.
I enjoy giving oral on a regular basis. Masturbation is the general outcome afterwards. I thinks she enjoys watching and will frequently respond to my overtures with "I want to watch you jerk off"
Intercourse is not allowed.
We still have a great time together and sex is ok, just different.

Anyone else in the same place?

[captaintrips]

Originally Posted by bugeye7

Hey guys, we have been married for thirty years and had a fun sex life for a long time. Then came "the change in life"
Or menopause. Vaginal dryness caused intercourse to become painful.
My wife still enjoys sex, but not intercourse.
I enjoy giving oral on a regular basis. Masturbation is the general outcome afterwards. I thinks she enjoys watching and will frequently respond to my overtures with "I want to watch you jerk off"
Intercourse is not allowed.
We still have a great time together and sex is ok, just different.

Anyone else in the same place?

Hi Bugeye, We've reached this stage on both sides now that we're in our sixties. I don't seem to function too well without the little blue pill although I have no problems jerking off given the right visual or physical stimulus. And the frequency of my abilities has dropped to about twice a week. No problems with the fingers and tongue though.

She has the vaginal dryness you talk about. But we solve that with lots of lube. All women are different and my lady loves to feel my dick inside her although she does not get off on anything else inside her. So lots of clit and labial stimulation, also needing lube, and then we're off for the ride. One thing about aging is you're never in fear of premature ejaculation, rather the opposite.

The main thing is never to say I'm too old for sex. It ain't true.