i'm glad that worked out for you but i can tell you from personal experience and as a health care professional that's extremely rare. it sounds like it worked for both parties in your case but i would hate for some people to be misled that they could talk a significant other into this sort of situation and everything would be cool. humans aren't wired to share mates and too often one or more people will get jealous, get their feelings hurt, and/or even ruin a relationship beyond repair. if that isn't enough to consider, there are many stds out there besides hiv/aids that are dangerous and very contagious that people don't talk about and you don't see in the news. hep c, herpes, hpv, etc.... i could go on and on.
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Originally Posted by DiskoDaddy
I was with a girl who had the urge to cheat. At first, it sucked, but people are who (and what) they are. We liked each other; she just wanted the privilege of fucking whomever she wanted. It almost broke us up until I told her that it wasn't the fucking around that bothered me, but the deception.
It turned out that she hated being deceptive too and only did so because of how friggin' horny she was for adventure. We managed to parlay something awful that usually leads to breakup into something that resulted in the best sex ever and both of us getting to have sex w/others.
It sounds like it may be too late for that in this case, but I had such a good experience with this turning of the tables that I try to share it when I can in hopes that it will inspire others!
For most people, they don't discover this until later in life when they've been dating or married for years. Ironically though, cheating is most often an issue at younger ages. If only younger couples had the skills to communicate and carefully navigate this volatile but rewarding path, so much needless loss could be avoided and so much HOTT sex could be gained! :-)
DD
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