[Request] sex in marriage

[mikee45]

Somtimes i hear stories of women telling about their sexlive while they are married.

Often they have seks to fulfil obligations being married,because there men want seks.

Some tell me stories as:
I spread my legs and i let him fuck me and in the meanwhile í am thinking about other thinks.
They dont enjoy the seks themselves,but they see it as an obligation to give him sex

Are there man who have this experience with their wives?

[daskers]

I have not myself, but my father was married to a women once who thought giving him sex was a big chore. Me and him was very close when he was alive and would talk to each other about everything, this was of course after I was older and had served in the army. Anway from my understanding of what he was telling me she would only give it to him because she felt like she had to, although she didn't want to most of the time.

[mikee45]

the strange thing about is that they sometimes are very willing with other man.

[malakabufo]

Also strange is the fact that giving it up doesn't cost anything or take too long if she's doing anything other than just lying on her back with her legs spread. Keeps him happy. Maybe some of these women don't want him to be happy?

[mikee45]

why are these woman giving there husband not giving a good fuck.

some men have to beg for sex by there woman,
and sometimes they are allowed to have a quick fuck.

They show there man there man that they are not interested at all

[mikee45]

thanks for the answer.

there are a lot woman who are not interested at all when they have sex with their husband.
because they are not interested at the moment and for different other reasons.
they also show this disintrest to their husband who is allowed to make a quicky.
but when they have the oppurtunity to fuck another man they gave themselves completely.
in this case its different and i wish her all the luck with this third man

[1rustywood]

Talk about the blues. I need advise! how about 25 years of sexual frustration and pain! My wife has issues with what I suspect is a direct result of abusive unloving parents. Add to that a conservative Victorian frigid mother and a playboy porn addicted father.
After years of attempting to sexually satisfy her I have given up this year. I have made no advances all year. She has not once even mentioned sex. I bet she is relieved I stopped trying. that way, she no longer has to suffer through it. Can you imagine not getting any enjoyment from sex at all! She claims she enjoys the "closeness" but nothing else. I have been a giving lover to the extreme. There is nothing I can do to turn her on. I have tried, asked, and everything else for decades.
But do you know what is worse than never being able to turn on your lover? How about a lover that makes absolutely no effort to give back anything sexual. A kiss goodbye and a hug is all she desires. She never touches me, bones and joints gross her out. She never gives a handjob or God forgive a bj. She tried it a few times but just couldn't get past the precum that seeps out. I remember her giving me one handjob to completion in the ninties, on advise from a therapist when intercourse was stopped until she could get past the pain of penetration. It was the only time I came outside of her vagina. She had the deer in the headlights look on her face! I had more sex in a year with a prior gf than in my 25 years married! No lie!
The problem is I do love her. She is a great person and fun to be with. She just cant overcome this. Weve been to good therapists but they really do nothing but depress her beyond being daily functional.
Bet nobody can top that!

[mikee45]

make woman a difference in lovers.
by example does she like former lovers more than sex with her husband?

[Leviticus59]

Originally Posted by 1rustywood

Talk about the blues. I need advise! how about 25 years of sexual frustration and pain! . . . The problem is I do love her. She is a great person and fun to be with. She just cant overcome this. We've been to good therapists but they really do nothing but depress her beyond being daily functional.
Bet nobody can top that!

Yeah, that IS a problem. I had a wife like that. HAD, that is. Mine was a different situation; she was just domineering and bossy. I could never please her no matter what I did, therefore she was mad at me all the time for stuff I wasn't even aware of, therefore she wouldn't give me any sex.

In my opinion life is way too short to struggle through it with a frigid wife. Being sexually available to each other is implicit in the wedding vows. She should have never married you if she never intended to share all of herself with you.

There are lots of women out there who love sex. After 20 years of sexual frustration just like yours I finally divorced my first wife and found one of the other kind. The sense of well-being and happiness that flows from a situation where sex is always available even if you don't necessarily want it at that moment is like a night and day difference from my first marriage.

I would seriously contemplate whether or not you wish to spend the rest of your married life being unwillingly celibate. You've demonstrated in your post that there's nothing else YOU can do, and SHE'S not going to change at this late date. Get a girlfriend or a divorce.

[canada1]

From January 2004 to today sex with my wife total is 15 times.