What is the bigger turn on?

[artfuldogger]

What is the bigger turn on for you?
I love being in sexual situations with my wife. Threesomes, moresomes, whatever happens at the time.
But, I love to hear her adventures more sometimes. Listening to her telling me her experiences, or her side of something we have done. Sexual talk can sometimes turn me on more than when we have been playing around.

What are your preferences? Which or what does it for you?

[GRITS]

You covered alot... I like both, moresomes, and hearing about her adventures when I'm not at home... read about her on "sharing the wife" to understand what i'm talking about.

[clitty]

Great idea artfuldogger. I never asked my wife about the details of her side of our adventures (together or not)... other than to make sure that she's okay, had a good time - since she is rather new to kink.

Her helping out with a glory hole - which I suggested as a joke earlier. I didn't know until a friend of mine told me, so I got in line...

[clitty]

Okay... I've been here for a while. I took a few pictures while having fun with friends (3 guys, 2 women).

My petite wife had a great time, getting mardi-gras beads and our drunk night ends it her have sex with another man, only a few feet from me while I and another guy have sex with another woman - where she was cumming loudly. I thought this was a cute and sexy photo of her bent over - telling the other couple good night. Her butt in the air.

Her butt was one of her selling points when we first fucked each others brains out.

[nectcouple]

Originally Posted by clitty

Okay... I've been here for a while. I took a few pictures while having fun with friends (3 guys, 2 women).

My petite wife had a great time, getting mardi-gras beads and our drunk night ends it her have sex with another man, only a few feet from me while I and another guy have sex with another woman - where she was cumming loudly. I thought this was a cute and sexy photo of her bent over - telling the other couple good night. Her butt in the air.

Her butt was one of her selling points when we first fucked each others brains out.

Awesome photo of an awesome lady! She looks yummy in that position!

[captbobwi123]

In my case it's hearing her stories. I've writing about this before so I'm sorry if you've already heard this. My wife was very sexually active in her teens and early 20's before we got married. She figures she had 20-something sex partners back then. I would love to watch her getting fucked by others but that's in her past. She came very close one time while I was there but it didn't happen. She knows my fantasy and enjoys playing up to it by telling me detailed stories about her past, especially during foreplay. It gets me hard and horny every time.

[clitty]

Why not have her read the stories from the men and women here... who go beyond the fantasy?

[captbobwi123]

Thanks for your suggestion. She's familiar with the swinging lifestyle and sometimes gets turned on reading or watching stories about it. One time, while on vacation, she came very close to having sex with another guy while I was there. She went as far as having his hand inside her bikini bottom. However, she backed out and couldn't go through with it. I'm not going to complain. She is a fantastic, enthusiastic, and adventurous lover who I'm lucky to have as my wife.

[clitty]

By all means... same here, lucky to be with the one I have.
I would like to ask thou... have you actually talked to her about doing it for real, rather than "well - someday we'll get sooooo drunk and horny, it'll happen"?

Reason being: someone could be upset or feel guilty. After a recent swinging/etc. My wife wants us to talk even more - make sure everyone is happy. She thought I was upset (for some reason - drinking), so I told her when drunk didn't sink in until later, when sober. I was good. But you see, she had a bit of feeling "guilty" because she came with having sex with someone else - I didn't (whisky dick and other factors). So after all these years of being together - I had to be honest and reaffirm that I don't need to cum, to have fun (while preferred) as we all have fingers, mouths and toys to play with.

I've been in the kinky/swing life style 10 years ahead of her... sure I'll always want to play around with cutie/hottie - and better yet, share her with my wife. But in the end, my wife is the one I trust and look out first.

Would I dump my wife for a super hottie 20yr old... no. Only thing that would make me want to break up with her, is cheating or if she got into drugs (crack / meth / etc) or assaulted me. I really do want to grow old and die with my wife... and likely she'll outlive me by 20+ years anyway since I'm 15yrs older and women usually live longer.

So, with your wife (and anyone else here) in which both of you are getting turned on by the thought of having sex with others; to swing or poly requires Communication of your feelings and concerns, honesty, communication, trust, love, safety and finally... communication. Even watch the stupid movie "50 shades of grey" which is mommy porn. And put it in writing "I will not be mad if/when you suck and/or fuck another penis or vagina."

There's a reason why many older folks DO start swinging... you only having sex with ONE person... for decades?! First, we didn't used to live so long and second, its in our nature in general to fuck around a lot.

I was recently talking with a 19yr old and her 25yr old friend (they were friends of a friend) and I was giving the 19yr advice in which her older friend was agreeing. I said things like: don't fall in love easy... date around, get laid on your terms. Look out for creepers and those who date-**** drug (I showed her how to hold her drink cups at parties and clubs) and to dump control freaks. She's pretty smart for her age and appreciated the suggestions.

[Stillwater]

I find that at this point in my life, stories of her past is a huge turn for me. Not that she's shared much detail so far. More me asking, begging, grovelling and guessing and letting my imagination take what it can from her replies.

I've learned to show no visible negative reaction to anything she gives me. It was suggested that I would not be so thrilled as I might think to hear what I thought I wanted to hear. I might have shook my head and muttered something in reaction to one of her recollections. Not a good thing to do if one wants to hear any more tales.

At any rate, trying to get her to open up is much more fun than golf.