I F#ed up HELP!!!

[thenewguy0713]

hi guys i registered new here but ive been to this site many times...im in a dilema and need to serious advice...i want some clear honest advise...ok let me explain my situation

me and my wife are 25 years old...my ultimate fantasy is to see her get fucked by another guy..i have been telling her here and there, but i have always wanted her to fuck a black guy. she kept saying that she is not into black guys and after i kept insisting she got mad and stopped talking to me for the rest of the night.

last night i sent her a text message saying that if she wasnt into black guys, would she consider fucking a white guy...and the reply i got was "maybe i dont know" following that reply i called her and i explained to her in detail my fantasy and how i wasnt setting her up or "testing her"..she eventually came through and told me that yes it has also been a long time fantasy of hers.

we talked for almost 3 hours! she told me stories of how she was groped by one of her employees at her last job. and she told me she has had an eye on an older man at her new job. she told me that since day 1 he has been making sexual comments and advances on her, and she said she would flirt right back! i asked her if the old man talking dirty to her made her wet, and she said it did.

she even told me she has gone as far as too sending him a picture of her in her bra....and all of this has happened recently without my knowledge, and she only told me yesterday because i came out with my fantasy.now she wants to take the guy "up" on his advances and she wants to see if she can suck his dick on monday..

im worried now..i didint think this would have happened so quickly...part of me wants it to happen really badly, but another part of me is really worried...she told me she wouldnt get attached and that she only wants to do it for "fun"..

the guy is in his late 50's married and he isnt even attractive..i asked her why she chose him..and she basically told me up front..."because hes showed that he wants to fuck me"..

what do i do? i need a response ASAP because this is happening tomorrow at work.

i told her to atleast take some pics and maybe even a video..of course if she goes through with this i will post them.

thanks guys

[redonmee]

It seem now that you got what you want your not sure ... and it seems your being reluctant because it seems wife has had some sorta sexual attraction to this man and you are unsure of her real feeling towwards this gentleman ..the old saying comes to mind be carefull what you wish for ...its a slipper slope my friend this is something that you need to tread lightly upon be sure of yours and your wife realationship and make sure you wont be jealous because from experia\ence a woman will make difrent noises and react diffrent to a diffrent man because it is just that diffrent so be prepared and also be prepaired for things to feel diffrent when you look at her and you might not be able to handle it she is ready now and your not ...you have to find out what you want and be honest with her but im affriad the thought is in her head now there may be no going back if you dont want to go threw with this ...they might take matters into their own hand and leave you out of the mix .....

[ctunnel]

I think you just might be approaching the point of no return if not already past it. I am a little uneasy with the whole subject coming up via text messages.

If it happens, lay some ground rules, and both of you stick to it. If the whole ordeal isn't what you fantasized it would be, or if it makes her too uncomfortable to continue, then you never approach the topic again, and you don't hold it over her head. Regardless, don't hold it over her head.

The fact that she wants to suck his dick before fully fucking him is good, and the rush to make it happen makes me think she just wants to get it over with. When changing the rules of your relationship, make the rules clear.

For example, wife and I were exploring playing with other men, and she wanted to stop because of the worry how someone other than us not playing safe and not telling us could affect us and our family. I agreed to stop, and we pulled all of our profiles and stopped looking, currently thinking of ways to explore the fantasy without bringing others into bed with us.

Regardless of what happens, good luck and please let us know what happens so if we gave you bad advice we can stop giving that same advice.

[Tifosi]

If that's what you've always wanted then here it is. Now that it appears that you're having second thoughts you need to slam on the brakes now. It still may be too late.
Let her do the deed and then decide if this is the avenue you want to travel down.

[thenewguy0713]

Wow thank u guys for the replies...really good and respectable advise...i spoke with her again and it seems that the seed i planted has grown roots..

I really am at the point of no return...however i will just let her get it out of her system and lets see how things go from there...she has no feelings for this guy..she says she wants to do something daring...

Also we both got married right out of highschool so she never really got to explore her needs to the fullest..

Well 24 hours and counting..i will keep u guys posted and im glad i have someone to talk to during this trip

[geeoh]

Try visiting here: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/ and read the postings in the hotwife forum. There are many, many, many people who have gone through exactly what you are experiencing and you may find some good advice. Good luck!

[ctunnel]

Best of luck with it all, but remember that however you feel about it afterwards, you have to communicate it with her. You mind find you enjoy it as much as you initially thought you would. Most of all, don't hold it over her head.

[SEXYSECRETARY]

I am sure you and her will enjoy it.

[thenewguy0713]

Screw that! I called her and told her to talk to one of her friends for her opinion on the matter...she got pissed and said to mark today as the last time i mention this fantasy again..

So i told her to mark today as the last time that she flirts with that guy..im young and i please her in all ways imaginable..theres no reason for her to look for some 50 something old man with a failing mariage for pleasure...

I told her if i so much catch a wiff that she has done something..it wont be a good day for her.

Screw that i took my marriage Back!!! Thats what were lacking as men now a days... Balls...thanks to everyone for their honest advise i love u guys

[redbacks1]

As the good old saying goes "Be careful what you wish for."