Help - I may be in too deep.

[GabberZZ]

A few weeks ago I logged onto a 'seeking local sex' site. Not one of the scam ones with fake profiles but one with actual verified people. I verified myself and put up an anonymous photo of myself with some profile information.

I sent out a couple of pings and got interest from someone in a neighbouring town - sadly once we'd exchanged photos she stopped responding! - guess she didn't like what she saw, but oh well.

Anyway - I got another response from a 'married but looking' woman who replied,'go on, you've got my interest.'
Since then we've been chatting daily and after exchanging all the usual pleasantries, sexy questions photos and so on she all but invited me to ask to meet. Tonight may be that night as both our partners are away and we tentatively agreed we may be able to meet if the planets align.

The only problem is that it turns out that her husband and she are very experienced swingers and by the sounds of it she's 'seen it all'. She has assured me that she still wants to meet me despite my nerves as she wants to meet me because I'm fun 'not just because you want to put your dick in me'.

I asked her why as a swinger she wants to meet men on her own - she says she wants to be with someone she chose at her own pace and not someone she ends up fucking after seeing a photo of their dick an hour beforehand.

I've seen her Facebook profile, swinging profile on another site and it backs up everything she's told me - this seems 100% legit.

I'm feeling somewhat intimidated by the prospect and am almost hoping that she can't make it as the arrangement was only tentative at best.

[flyboy karl]

Originally Posted by Gabberzz

A few weeks ago I logged onto a 'seeking local sex' site. Not one of the scam ones with fake profiles but one with actual verified people. I verified myself and put up an anonymous photo of myself with some profile information.

I sent out a couple of pings and got interest from someone in a neighbouring town - sadly once we'd exchanged photos she stopped responding! - guess she didn't like what she saw, but oh well.

Anyway - I got another response from a 'married but looking' woman who replied,'go on, you've got my interest.'
Since then we've been chatting daily and after exchanging all the usual pleasantries, sexy questions photos and so on she all but invited me to ask to meet. Tonight may be that night as both our partners are away and we tentatively agreed we may be able to meet if the planets align.

The only problem is that it turns out that her husband and she are very experienced swingers and by the sounds of it she's 'seen it all'. She has assured me that she still wants to meet me despite my nerves as she wants to meet me because I'm fun 'not just because you want to put your dick in me'.

I asked her why as a swinger she wants to meet men on her own - she says she wants to be with someone she chose at her own pace and not someone she ends up fucking after seeing a photo of their dick an hour beforehand.

I've seen her Facebook profile, swinging profile on another site and it backs up everything she's told me - this seems 100% legit.

I'm feeling somewhat intimidated by the prospect and am almost hoping that she can't make it as the arrangement was only tentative at best.

The possibilities for excitement are endless! Assorted STDs including AIDS, hepatitis, blackmail, robbery, etc. come readily to mind. My dad gave me an excellent piece of advice many decades ago: DON'T LOSE YOU HEAD OVER A PIECE OF ASS. I never forgot it. You might do well to remember it as well.

[GabberZZ]

Originally Posted by flyboy karl

The possibilities for excitement are endless! Assorted STDs including AIDS, hepatitis, blackmail, robbery, etc. come readily to mind. My dad gave me an excellent piece of advice many decades ago: DON'T LOSE YOU HEAD OVER A PIECE OF ASS. I never forgot it. You might do well to remember it as well.

You raise valid points and I've considered all of this too and I've spent a lot of time researching the legitimacy of this woman and it holds up. Most of her Family's Facebook profiles are wide open and everything she says is legit.

The STD part is another matter, not that I'd ever consider unprotected sex.

But maybe you're right. Maybe the fun isn't worth the risks.

[Mr and Mrs W]

We say go meet her. Just meet her in a very public place, and then work it from there. If it seems to odd to you at that point, then kindly explain you would like to meet a few more times before getting intimate, OR you could end everything right there if it's "too" odd.

[xxxxenophile]

Originally Posted by Gabberzz

But maybe you're right. Maybe the fun isn't worth the risks.

Don't let some repressed bell-ringer shake you off your initial goal.

What's the problem? You joined a site to find someone, and you found another person who also joined this site. Now you wonder if they're real or if it's a risk or a scam or PANIC FREAK OUT DOUBT AND SHAME!

Meet her. You might get along. Swingers are people too, and your question "Why would a swinger meet men alone?" whows that you haven't been in this long. There are a TON of reasons people do things, some scary and some totally reasonable. You can't tell the difference till you meet them and make your own judgment. So go for it! Don't expect anal on the first date (i.e. any specific outcome or that you have to get off for the night to be a success).

If you haven't met anyone yet, you're hardly "in too deep."

Take a deep breath, and perhaps a klonopin, and take a leap of faith. No one says on their death-bed "I wish I avoided putting myself out there..."

[GabberZZ]

Originally Posted by Mr and Mrs W

We say go meet her. Just meet her in a very public place, and then work it from there. If it seems to odd to you at that point, then kindly explain you would like to meet a few more times before getting intimate, OR you could end everything right there if it's "too" odd.

Her suggestion was a bar in the area for a drink and to see whether we hit it off - if not then we'd have at least had a nice drink and met a new friend.

[jimmybob69]

Just keep an eye on your drink.
Roofies work on men as well as women.

[blackesteyes]

Originally Posted by jimmybob69

Just keep an eye on your drink.
Roofies work on men as well as women.

Well, at least then you would have an excuse lol

[animal1242]

fukin man up son

[Surfer549]

If there is any doubt then there is no doubt. Wait till you have someone you are more comfortable with. maybe someone not so experienced.

Originally Posted by Gabberzz

A few weeks ago I logged onto a 'seeking local sex' site. Not one of the scam ones with fake profiles but one with actual verified people. I verified myself and put up an anonymous photo of myself with some profile information.

I sent out a couple of pings and got interest from someone in a neighbouring town - sadly once we'd exchanged photos she stopped responding! - guess she didn't like what she saw, but oh well.

Anyway - I got another response from a 'married but looking' woman who replied,'go on, you've got my interest.'
Since then we've been chatting daily and after exchanging all the usual pleasantries, sexy questions photos and so on she all but invited me to ask to meet. Tonight may be that night as both our partners are away and we tentatively agreed we may be able to meet if the planets align.

The only problem is that it turns out that her husband and she are very experienced swingers and by the sounds of it she's 'seen it all'. She has assured me that she still wants to meet me despite my nerves as she wants to meet me because I'm fun 'not just because you want to put your dick in me'.

I asked her why as a swinger she wants to meet men on her own - she says she wants to be with someone she chose at her own pace and not someone she ends up fucking after seeing a photo of their dick an hour beforehand.

I've seen her Facebook profile, swinging profile on another site and it backs up everything she's told me - this seems 100% legit.

I'm feeling somewhat intimidated by the prospect and am almost hoping that she can't make it as the arrangement was only tentative at best.