Carpooling, does it lead to sex?

[piecenick]

I noticed something once, how many times do men and women who carpool end up in bed? I was carpooling with this coworker, an"older" woman, she was 36, I was 22. Traffic was bad, we spent a lot of time together, we brought each other coffee and donuts, eventually we talked about sex. A couple of times traffic was so bad we stopped at a bar and got touchy-feely, led to mutual gratification, but since we were both married that's as far as we went.

My wife had night classes and car pooled with a neighbor since it was a 45 minute drive each way. Same thing almost, the night of the last class they got very smoochy. In talking to people, it seems like if people are in that situation and have any affinity for each other, spending hours together chatting frequently leads to getting sexual.

Am I wrong? Has anyone else noticed this?

[whatnow3]

It didn't happen to me but maybe that's because she and I had already had sex?

After my wife and I married we moved into an 8 unit apartment building where 3 of our married couple friends already lived, including my ex high school girlfriend and her husband.

Anyway a few months after we moved in my ex took a new job in the same town I worked in, about a half hour from where we lived. It worked out that our hours matched up so it just made sense to carpool.

So for a little over a year before she and her husband bought a house and moved we carpooled.

We had lots of fun talks about our current sex lives and our mutual past sex lives but that was it.

[raysallx]

I feel that when men and women spend a lot of time together, especially alone as in a carpool, things will naturally progress as long as they find each other attractive. Man, carpooling with an ex-girlfriend is asking for trouble. I'm surprised your wife allowed it. I visited an ex once and as soon as we were alone I could feel the tension building, and then the kids came inside.

[whatnow3]

raysallx, I get where you are coming from. Maybe because the ex and I were still in the newlywed phase at the time it just wasn't an issue for us? Or maybe because we were so aware of our past we made sure it didn't become an issue?

[Duran Duran]

Originally Posted by raysallx

I feel that when men and women spend a lot of time together, especially alone as in a carpool, things will naturally progress as long as they find each other attractive.

Yeah. Totally agree. The highlighted part is main ingredient. And it's not just carpooling. I think it's anytime a woman spends a lot of time with a man in some way. BUT the rule is: As long as the woman finds the man attractive there will be sexual energy of some type. Most blokes will just enjoy the sexual attention even if they don't do anything about it, but if it's the other way round, watch out blokes, you'll be on the FBI's most perverted list!

And if you're married there is even more sexual energy. Women are attracted to taken men generally speaking as they show there is a level of competency.

After getting married I worked with a lass (also married) and we spent a lot of time together. One night I was dropping her off home and we sat in the car talking for a good 30 mins about stuff. We got along great. I knew she didn't want to get out of the car and she was hesitating and looking at me with those types of eyes. I played dumb and pretended I wasn't reading the signals. Luckily I wasn't attracted to her even though she was attractive. Nothing happened and we are still friends today!

Another time a female coworker who sat next to me and was quite a bit younger than me started to show signs of having the hots for me in public. We got along well and had been working closely together for the past few months. Now this chick had a body to die for and was 22. Yes, I was sexually attracted to her, it would be hard for anybody not to be... women included I reckon! But her suggestive nature was getting more aggressive even though she knew I was engaged at the time. It culminated in her getting touchy feely at a bowling night (dead giveaway for Japanese lasses that they are into you) and divvying up the rides home she asked if I could drive her instead of going with the people she came with. I hesitated, but said yes, because had I said no, i'd be an a-hole. People had noticed her getting touchy feely with me during the night, so I was freaking out a bit until another person asked to come with us. Luckily I changed offices soon after. I would never have done anything as it was work, but it just saved it from becoming more awkward than it already was.

[Hornyinde]

I have to agree, the long time in a car, and just talking about everything is a breeding ground for potential fun.

Our company had to use temporary offices after our main building had some serious issues that needed to be fixed. One of my female friends and I decided to carpool since we lived close together and the office was an hour each way. Talking about everything eventually led to sex talk.

What added to the spice was we both were married, and she was black and I’m white. Of course we go to the discussion of have you ever been with someone of a different race. Neither of us had. The curiosity really was intense. We also had a good relationship where we always joked with each other. Things like I couldn’t handle her in bed, etc.

It got pretty far, but not as far as I would have liked. She told me before anything happened that the line we wouldn’t cross was fucking. I ended up sucking her tits and fingering her, and she gave me a handjob. She wouldn’t let it go any further because she thought it was OK as long as no intercourse. Who knows, our building was ready not long after so we didn’t need to commute together anymore.

I still think back on those times.

Now traveling on business with a coworker many times (different job and person than this story), that’s a whole different ballgame.

[raysallx]

Originally Posted by whatnow3

raysallx, I get where you are coming from. Maybe because the ex and I were still in the newlywed phase at the time it just wasn't an issue for us? Or maybe because we were so aware of our past we made sure it didn't become an issue?

True, but if it had been 5 years past the honeymoon phase the outcome may have been different.

[raysallx]

Originally Posted by Hornyinde

I have to agree, the long time in a car, and just talking about everything is a breeding ground for potential fun.

Our company had to use temporary offices after our main building had some serious issues that needed to be fixed. One of my female friends and I decided to carpool since we lived close together and the office was an hour each way. Talking about everything eventually led to sex talk.

What added to the spice was we both were married, and she was black and I’m white. Of course we go to the discussion of have you ever been with someone of a different race. Neither of us had. The curiosity really was intense. We also had a good relationship where we always joked with each other. Things like I couldn’t handle her in bed, etc.

It got pretty far, but not as far as I would have liked. She told me before anything happened that the line we wouldn’t cross was fucking. I ended up sucking her tits and fingering her, and she gave me a handjob. She wouldn’t let it go any further because she thought it was OK as long as no intercourse. Who knows, our building was ready not long after so we didn’t need to commute together anymore.

I still think back on those times.

Now traveling on business with a coworker many times (different job and person than this story), that’s a whole different ballgame.

I guess your friend subscribed to the Bill Clinton theory of sex ;-). I'm not trying to be political; I'm pretty sure I would not have been able to resist Monica snapping her thong at me!

[raysallx]

Originally Posted by Hornyinde

I have to agree, the long time in a car, and just talking about everything is a breeding ground for potential fun.

Our company had to use temporary offices after our main building had some serious issues that needed to be fixed. One of my female friends and I decided to carpool since we lived close together and the office was an hour each way. Talking about everything eventually led to sex talk.

What added to the spice was we both were married, and she was black and I’m white. Of course we go to the discussion of have you ever been with someone of a different race. Neither of us had. The curiosity really was intense. We also had a good relationship where we always joked with each other. Things like I couldn’t handle her in bed, etc.

It got pretty far, but not as far as I would have liked. She told me before anything happened that the line we wouldn’t cross was fucking. I ended up sucking her tits and fingering her, and she gave me a handjob. She wouldn’t let it go any further because she thought it was OK as long as no intercourse. Who knows, our building was ready not long after so we didn’t need to commute together anymore.

I still think back on those times.

Now traveling on business with a coworker many times (different job and person than this story), that’s a whole different ballgame.

Coworker situations can be tricky. I think I've written about this elsewhere on this site, but I had a coworker once catch me looking at her ass on an elevator. She didn't say a thing, but the next day she wanted an interview with me to fill a position in my department. What an interview that was. She showed up dressed like she was going out to a nightclub. She dripped of sex. Our conversation was nonsensical on both our parts; too much blood drained from our brains to our crotches. She hadn't been gone from my office for 3 minutes before I was jacking off in the bathroom and I assume she was doing the same in the women's room. Had I not been getting married it two weeks, things would have turned out very differently. Sigh.

Horny, would like to hear your story about your current coworker situation.

[Hornyinde]

Originally Posted by raysallx

I guess your friend subscribed to the Bill Clinton theory of sex ;-). I'm not trying to be political; I'm pretty sure I would not have been able to resist Monica snapping her thong at me!

Exactly. I was going to make that reference also, but didn’t know the reaction of the board. Yeah, she didn’t think it counted if you can’t get pregnant. And yes, I asked her if that meant anal was a possibility. She thought “anal was gross”.