Advice on Hotwife life

[Hereforfun]

I need help from everyone. A few days ago, my wife and I were having some romantic time and we started talking. While we were playing a sexy game you get from an adult store, she was required to tell me a dark fantasy. She got really nervous and after calming down, said she thinks about threesomes when reading certain books. I jumped at the opportunity and asked if she was actually interested. She said yes, but was really only into monogamy. Little more talking led me to believe that the idea is not off the table. She even mentioned DP and, from my understanding, possibly more than just one other guy (gangbang). The last part is my interpretation.

I say all of that to ask, if this does occur, where would we even begin to start something like that? Where would we find a partner?

[ac1601]

One possible place to start might be finding a local swingers club to go to. Possibly just go to observe at first. That way she could kind of ease into it and figure out what it's about and if it's for her.

[GRITS]

Slow but sure.....agreed

[Hereforfun]

While be patient is hard, I am taking my time with this. Making sure she is comfortable and not to rush her

[gf031065]

We started with her getting full body sexy massages from the same older single massage therapist. Once we got comfortable we asked him if he would like to do more and it was an easy progression. We did that for about a year and then he moved away and we were ready to find someone else. Been over 4 years and it turned a great sex life into an amazing sex life.

Good luck … if you do it right you will have a blast!

[Digitalzoom1]

When we were about 25 and had been married about 6/7 years I asked her if she ever wanted sex with another man, she said she fantasied at times but hadn't gone further than that , I made it clear to her I was happy to see her taking the next step if she wanted, it was 5 years later before she took that step, in her own time and in her own way, after the first time there was no stopping her, she has been having sex with other men ever since, she is now 77 and still has a guy that fucks her when he can , so take your time and go at her pace , let her make the rules and do it the way she is happy with, get it right and you will have a lifetime of fun , get it wrong and you will probably be in the divorce court, good luck.

[Marquis De Shady]

Very sound advice.

We do not partake; but have met and chatted with swingers. According to them, you've got to set predetermined boundaries, have "safe words", "exit strategies", etc...

A friend of mine failed to set boundaries, and found herself getting gangbanged. Psychological damage ensued. You can't turn back the clock if regret ensues. It might sound exciting but the reality of it might not be so.

[Hereforfun]

Originally Posted by Marquis De Shady

Very sound advice.

We do not partake; but have met and chatted with swingers. According to them, you've got to set predetermined boundaries, have "safe words", "exit strategies", etc...

A friend of mine failed to set boundaries, and found herself getting gangbanged. Psychological damage ensued. You can't turn back the clock if regret ensues. It might sound exciting but the reality of it might not be so.

Here is how I see it, this is also my fantasy, but she will be in the center of it. She will set the pace and we discuss everything before hand. If we start with one guy over to just masturbate with, then we set rules on if he can touch or not, what type of touching, etc. IF we reach the level of gangbang, we will discuss beforehand how many guys, what is allowed, where, etc. Communication is most important

[gf031065]

Originally Posted by Hereforfun

Here is how I see it, this is also my fantasy, but she will be in the center of it. She will set the pace and we discuss everything before hand. If we start with one guy over to just masturbate with, then we set rules on if he can touch or not, what type of touching, etc. IF we reach the level of gangbang, we will discuss beforehand how many guys, what is allowed, where, etc. Communication is most important

We only have had one drunken night where things got out of hand but since we do this for extra fun and adventure we laughed it off and learned to be more careful when drinking and having fun with more than one person. As far as safe words and rules we find it easier to spend more time up front vetting people and because of that we have not had a single adventure gone bad. The most important thing is to make sure you both want this and it is for fun or you will end up divorced. Do your talking before and afterwards with each encounter and be honest about how you feel so you learn something each and every time. Again good luck!!!

[Hereforfun]

Originally Posted by gf031065

We only have had one drunken night where things got out of hand but since we do this for extra fun and adventure we laughed it off and learned to be more careful when drinking and having fun with more than one person. As far as safe words and rules we find it easier to spend more time up front vetting people and because of that we have not had a single adventure gone bad. The most important thing is to make sure you both want this and it is for fun or you will end up divorced. Do your talking before and afterwards with each encounter and be honest about how you feel so you learn something each and every time. Again good luck!!!

Thank you my friend. I totally agree. There will be A LOT, and I mean, A LOT of conversations up front. No moving forward without that. Also, I totally agree with vetting possible partners. Trying to find a safe website where we can find like minded people.