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Originally Posted by ttttttbd
My generic advice: if you want a man to understand you or you want him a problem to be solved, wait for the right moment, and then tell him what you need (understanding or problem solving), and tell him your opinion completely and explicitly, pinpoint what needs action on his part, and ask him explicitly to do that action. Dropping hints doesn't work for most men, or eventually it might turn out to be much worse than being completely quiet.
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And this is advice for ALL "what about how we have sex" talk - it's best done away from the moment. In the moment it gets too heated for all parties. Best to bring it up at another time - do NOT wait until he's boning you and ask "hey, wouldn't you like to see someone else do this to me?".
And as others pointed out, reciprocity counts. "Would you let me watch you do it with someone else? Would you watch me? It could be hot?"
As you might have learned, some guys really enjoy watching their woman getting it from another guy. Others can't take it. Sorry to say, you can't influence how he feels, you can only find out. Best to do it in a way that's not threatening to him.