Originally Posted by Dalquaz
Klondkie, I just read your post.
While I don't have autism, I can relate. I have great difficulty in social situations. You can call it social phobia if you like, but I try to stay away from "DSM definitions". Rationally I know that I shouldn't care what other people think about me, but I can't shut off the emotional side that desides to cause me various symtoms when I'm in contact with people for too long. While I've been diagnosed with social phobia, bipolar, and OCD (I do indeed have OCD), I'd say my biggest issue is just a general lack of foundation. I have existential dread. For me, every topic becomes a meta-topic, i.e. reflective thinking about the topic itself. Great, you are a born philosopher you say! It's not so great. It leads nowhere good, especially when I get obsessive about my feelings about be determined (lack of free will). Most psychologists don't understand these type of issues, and I've stopped looking for answers in that department.
Even with the stuff on here, my sexual preferences, it's all metatopic. My main sexual maxim, I have determined is:
I like things where the girls are doing things they wouldn't normally be doing but they ARE doing them and they are ENJOYING it now that they are doing them.
You may find me around the Naked Charity Calendars thread because this is certainly one of those areas that fits that maxim perfectly. Is my maxim a fetish? I don't know. It certainly also fits your interest in naked run events. But I find it doesn't help me much in my personal relationship. I have the most lovely girlfriend of 5 years, and I think she's beautiful, but sexually, it's hard to turn me on the way thinking about some of the things on this forum turn me on.
I could go on forever on this stuff, but I basically just wanted to note that I do understand what akward social situations are like. We're obviously intelligent people, but we struggle. One of my biggest problems is that I SEEM fine. On the surface, I can put myself together nicely, put on a face for an hour, and sound like I'm an expert in many areas. But in reality, it's just show, and I can't put it on for long. I also have difficulty working and am currently on disablity with my own struggle to get a real job.
That all said, I know you're out near PDX. I live in a really crummy Northern Illinois town that will remain unnamed (it's West of Chicago) and my gf and I went out to Portland last year and loved it. We went to Sauvie Beach (I have pictures of her nude there, but I do not currently have permission, apologies...maybe in the future). We want to move out there, but we don't yet have the escape velocity to make it.
Hope you don't mind my rambling. It's good to read posts like this, to get a sense of the real people here behind the screennames. Thanks for revealing some about yourself for us.
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