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Originally Posted by therocket
You know discussions like this are dangerous on a forum and decent and friendly as the venerable Oneclickchicks.
After all we are all here to look at noody pics and vids. We are here to be pervs and not members of a debating club.
But sometimes debate around our perrvy habits can be constructive.
For this reason I say the following:
there is a difference between being a perv on a message board like OCC and being a perv in public.
For this reason I take offense with the following:
My wife and I like to go to nude beaches. We've been to a number at various locations around the world, have nudist friends (not swingers) and have talked to other beach goers. I think I can be fairly sure that Most men don't take my wife to a nude beach. They go with their wife.Nude beach goers are fairly liberal and liberated people. On a personal note my wife is not some sort of new toy of mine that "other kids" can play with. My wife is her own person.
We go to a nude beach for the same reason we go to a textile beach. Or to the movies or a football game or a restaurant. To relax and enjoy ourselves. We are there for our pleasure not yours.
If you check my wife out, that's one thing - but if you ogle her - expect her to shit on you.
Sorry if I get a bit techy about this - but it's guys with that kind of attitude that ruin it for us and others. By all means "check people out" but remember to be respectful at a nude beach - just as you would on a public beach. It's a good way to ensure that nude beaches will survive and you won't get a punch in the head from my Missus.
Good Health
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By no means am I condoning rude behavior, on a nudie beach or anywhere else. But it becomes a fine line when discussing nudie beaches. Is a guy being rude if you catch him surreptitiously trying catch a glimpse of your wife's hooha as he passes by? Some would say yes; others, no. What about if he makes a 2nd pass a little while later? Many of you would label that guy a "lurker" and enumerate yourselves as superior to him, having some "squatters rights" to the nudie beach, as if bringing your own eye candy is your ticket to legitimacy on the sacred, self-proclaimed "Members Only" beach.
As I said before, we can't escape the basic mammalian truth that exposed genitals equals arousal. I get your point that it would be nice to be able to go to a beach where it didn't matter whether you're clothed or not. I think that's the Utopian fantasy some of you have about nudie beaches. It's like blaming a scorpion for stinging you .. he's a SCORPION! Conversely, we are mammals and males and that means that we'll walk a mile to see a vagina we haven't seen before.
The thing about the public is it's so .. well .. PUBLIC. And that means you're going to deal with a very wide strata of personalities and intentions. Not that this is by any means the norm on nudie beaches, but I have seen exhibitionist couples who welcome the stares. I've even seen them tolerate men masturbating near them (ok, they were gay guys, up in the dunes, but so what; the point is still the same). Just like in a nightclub, the difference between a wonderful chance meeting and an uncomfortable advance lies in subtle chemistry. Often when a girl tells you about some rude jerk she met in a bar, she'd have loved the same behavior if she'd been ATTRACTED to him and wouldn't have had the bouncers throw him out for being "not hot".
If a guy (lurker if you must) is out there seeking exhibitionists, you have to admit it's kinda' hard to tell the difference between the naked couple wanting to be left alone vs. the couple looking for some degree of excitement. So just like in the nightclub, expect some attention; it comes with the territory, and don't condemn someone for showing interest, as long as he's being polite (whatever that looks like).
Of course, you can also expect that there are some "long distance lurkers" out there with 1,000 mm lenses, capturing your wife's likeness, either for their own spankfodder or to post on the 'net. And I don't think it's productive to blame them.
The fact is, the vision of a beautiful naked woman in public is a very rare and coveted thing. Those of us that don't live near a beach may go DECADES and not see such a thing. This vision has a mesmerizing power. Inadvertently or not, you are providing that vision. And since we can't castrate all men, the only TRUE hope you have of being nude on a beach and not being leered at is to find a SECLUDED beach where you can be nude ALONE. Just because you brought the toys doesn't mean you get to make the rules of the game. And please don't be offended at the idea that I'm reducing your wife to a "toy"; it's an analogy. I'm sure that underneath that gorgeous rack lies some depth and spirituality and complexity that she deserves recognition of. But to a stranger on the beach seeing her breasts for the first time, sir, you "brought the toys"!
For all our sakes, I wish, in a perfect world that there were two different kinds of nudie beaches, Pervy and Non-Pervy. But in reality, we have one world and one "public" and we have to coexist .. perv and non-perv on the same pieces of land. Personally, I'd get off on my wife being pervv'ed on (and have) within certain safe parameters. But I don't expect you to feel the same. But when your in the club, don't get mad if you're asked to dance and when you're on the nudie beach airing your 34Ds, don't get mad if someone seems to want to look at them. It is not impossible to find secluded beaches to be nude on if being leered at bothers you or the wife. But if you expect a "lurkerless" nudie beach, you're asking a scorpion not to be a scorpion!
BTW, if there were no lurkers on nudie beaches, this forum would be a decimated fraction of what it is and we'd all have less to think about and view on screen when flogging the bishop. So to my fellow "lurkers", the under-appreciated providers of quality spankfodder, I say THANK YOU!
DD