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Originally Posted by AMATLOVER
I'd like to and I think the wife would try it on a drunken night but don't know how to bring up the question.
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That is the difficult part; broaching the subject for the first time. Most wives will say "no" out of principal right off the bat. At the same time, the thought secretly excites most wives. The key then, is to build your relationship to the point that it is OK, and your wife trusts you enough to let herself dare to explore a bit.
The place to start is by admitting to your wife that the thought excites you. Be prepaired for a strong reaction, whether real or put-on. Let her get used to that for a while, then move on to discussions about what she likes; who of your friends she finds attractive, or muse about the men in the bar you are in. Is there anyone in the bar she finds sexually attactive? Make a game of it. If there is, what is it that she finds attractive about that person? It is just a game, and harmless, but it gets her thinking, and often will excite her. Your sex life will improve as these fantisies are allowed, and the thought becomes less and less taboo.
Only after the groundwork is carefully laid, you start creating situations that could lead to sexual contact. Strip poker in the hot tub, dirty dancing, drinking games are all good for this. If you have a friend that is willing and not too pushy, this helps.
Finally, be prepaired for some backlash after the first time it happens. She will likely feel guilty, and it is VERY important that you go well out of your way to make sure she knows it is ok, she is ok, you are ok, you had fun and it was a positive thing. This is the most important stage in making her understand that not only are you not upset with her for having sex with someone else, but you enjoyed it and feel closer to her for having shared the experience.
There, now go out and enjoy yourselves...
