[littlehamster]

First, get your mindset right. Tongue kissing can happen anytime - generally during foreplay to get the girl into the mood quickly, or even to help her reach orgasm. Or after she comes, once you're both exhausted from thrusting, you can end with tongue kissing - that works too.

For many girls, clitoral pleasure is more direct than deep vaginal stimulation. The clitoris is the most important erogenous zone, and this is really important. Everything below her can make her feel good, but the clitoris is especially sensitive, and you really need to stimulate it.

If you just rush into thrusting, she's likely to feel like "being penetrated but not really getting off," which isn't a good feeling at all. You want to send your partner soaring, not leave them unsatisfied - unless that's what you're trying to do on purpose.

Porn videos cut out foreplay because the cameras need efficiency. You really shouldn't copy that. A real person's clitoris and entire vulva need time to become engorged, wet, and open up. It takes your patience, your guidance, and your erotic conversations.