How I ended up in an anal-only relationship
Before I get into this, I will say that I have fucked my girlfriend's pussy twice in the last two years - once on her birthday in 2024, and once on New Year's Day, 2025. I haven't fucked her pussy in almost 14 moths. I might fuck it tomorrow, or next week, but I doubt it.
You can make the argument that this is not anal-only, but I'm not going to participate in that debate. Back when I was married, I was lucky to get anal once a year or two. If I had said we were pussy-only, nobody would have disagreed.
After the divorce, sexual compatibility was a high priority, and I wanted anal at least once a month.
In the spirit of negotiating, I would tell new partners that I wanted anal once a week, knowing that if they came back with every two weeks, or once a month, I had won. They always agreed to once a week, though.
Then, after I had been dating around for a few years, I ended up with a fuck buddy. She was someone I dated briefly, and when we broke up, she wanted to keep fucking. I agreed, but only if anal was on the table (my choice) for each encounter. She agreed.
That ended when she started dating the man she would later marry (Actually, it ended a little while after they started dating. She had a load of my cum in her ass the first time she slept with him, but that's another story.).
I dated and broke up with another woman, and had a brief FWB relationship after that (took her anal cherry at 48, I think).
Then, I started dating my current girlfriend. By then, I was fully looking for a D/s relationship, with a lot of anal. I told her that when I was married, I would have been happy with anal once a month, and I thought a lot of men would feel the same. I told her that if I was going to be her Dom, I wanted to flip that. I wanted anal to be the default, and pussy fucking would be a monthly treat for her.
She understood the logic, and thought it was fair for her to live with the ratio that I had always wished for.
For several years, we had daily, or almost daily (and sometimes multiple times a day) anal, and I fucked her pussy about once a month,
Then random stuff happened on different occasions that I was planning to fuck her pussy, and she ended up going without for four months or so. When I finally fucked her pussy, she was climbing the fucking walls. So, I waited extra long again, this time on purpose, with the same result. Then I waited just under nine months, and when I buried my cock in her pussy with no warning, she thought she was losing her virginity all over again.
Now, it's been 14 months, and I have no plans to fuck her pussy anytime soon.
I check in regularly, to be sure she is still fully committed to our relationship, which has drifted toward Owner/owned, in addition to anal-only. The last time I check in, she said:
"Sir, I appreciate your consideration, and do hope that I may enjoy having my pussy ravaged by you sometime in the future, but I am in no way feeling dissatisfied with my asshole being my only fuck hole, Sir. Not remotely, Sir. I am so happy with our current sex life, and excited about our plans, that it hadn't occurred to me that my pussy had been unfucked for so long, Sir."
I will say this, there was a LOT of praise and validation over the years, to get us to this point. I have sincerely told her many times, how happy and proud I am of what a good little butt sl*t she is, and how lucky I am to own her. I remind her all the time that the world is full of women who wouldn't even offer their asses once a month, and that she is very special for agreeing to have her asshole as her primary (and now only) fuck hole.
So, there you have it. From pussy only to anal only, and she regularly asks for sex, knowing that I am going to fuck her ass, and probably only her ass.
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