I often think back to that night in my first year at Uni. I had a great friend whom I was totally besotted by. I confessed this to her after a few months and whilst she took it well, she told me she didn't feel the say way (and she had a fiancé). We stayed friends (it developed into FWB by the end of Uni) and she used to try and set me up with some of her housemates/friends.
There was one girl, Helen who was known as a bit of a goer - she was a man-eater and wasn't ashamed of it at all. On this night, I was out with my friend and her housemates. She introduced my to Helen who took an instant shine (deciding I'd be the next notch on her bedpost). We drank, chatted and made out in the night club. After a while she invited me back to hers but despite my offer to leave there and then, she said she wanted to enjoy the rest of the night first.
As the next couple of hour progressed, I started to get cold feet. I was 18yo and still a virgin, albeit with plenty of non penetrative experience. I also started thinking more about my mate and how I'd not want to lose my virginity to a friend of hers in case it ruled out anything happening between us in the future.
We stayed connected with the wider group and all agreed "one more drink then home". At that point, I excused myself and went to the bathroom, but as I descended the stairs towards the toilets, I took a sharp right and walked out of the club and went home, losing my nerve about what was an absolute guarantee of sex with this lively young women.
I DO wonder what might have happened, I'm sure she would have taught me more than a few things that night and it might have increased my confidence around women (something I didn't really find until the post-uni days), but then again it could have been a total disaster and killed my chances with my friend. All in all, it should have been worth the risk and boy did she have an amazing arse.....
Took another year, but I eventually hooked up with my mate and we had a few stolen nights together, but could never get it together to be available at the same time. Another missed opportunity maybe. We are still (social media) friends, but there's always that wistful thought in my head about what might have been....with both ladies
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