[Leviticus59]

Originally Posted by nepter

I have several questions about this:
do they constantly wear a sign visible to all?

People in the swinging lifestyle run that gamut from just one experience, to occasionally, to heavily and constantly, and everywhere in between. There is no standard behavior or frequency, and most don't trumpet what they're doing out into the vanilla world.

Originally Posted by nepter

how do their acquaintances react?

Most of the ones I've known keep it pretty quiet. It's not socially acceptable.

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How her husbands react?

That's as individual as there are couples and husbands doing it. Most of them are quite fine with it.

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are they only approached by black men?

I don't get this question. Attractive women, or even average looking women for that matter, may be approached by men of any color.

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Do they know how to say no to a guy they don't like?

Sure. "Thanks, but no thanks," probably works fine.

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How many interracial relationships make you a QOS?

Individual self-identity is also quite variable. Some go so far as to get QOS tattoos or wear specific jewelry. Some don't make a big fuss about it at all but fuck mostly black guys. Or a 50/50 mix of black/white, or whatever. Again, it's as variable as the couple and the people they meet.

Originally Posted by nepter

Since you mentioned your QoS tendency, have you had a more active sex life?

For swingers of all flavors who are in healthy relationships, they mostly all report enhanced closeness, and better relationships, and a ramp-up of their sex lives is almost always part of it.

Originally Posted by nepter

For you men reading this, are there many QOS in your circle?

My wife and I were close swinger friends with another swinger couple and played together for years. But then the other wife went black and stayed black. She had a decade long relationship with a black boyfriend whom she saw every few weeks, year in and year out.

So for me, just one in my circle of friends.

Originally Posted by nepter

Or are your acquaintances not BBC or don't want it to be known?

Again, it's not socially acceptable to the vanilla world. Even amongst swinger friends, they generally don't do much "kiss and tell." Of course, some groups of swinger friends know who's screwing who, but it's not something you spread around with reckless abandon.