The Exception that Proves the Rule
I'm sorry to hear about your past difficulties, kajuk. I married a "good girl", who rather re-defines the term frigid. Although there are exceptions that prove the rule, like Carrie K, who have admirable libidos, my experience mirrors yours. Failing to consummate a marriage for 10 years and refusing a divorce on religious grounds... how does one cope?
Adult forums like OCC have saved my marriage. There's the usual rubbish about communication, doing more housework, keeping fit, seeing a therapist. I've done it all ad nauseam for decades. Nothing helped with coping, nothing help fix the situation, and the only practical support I ever received in a kindly way has been from forums like OCC.
I've met clergical couples on adult forums. Very devout, lovely people. But they are a rarity indeed. I have the greatest admiration for lovely ladies like Carrie K. Unfortunately, I have met very few like her in person.
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