I would like to here from others in sexless marriages—how did you handle it?
I followed the advice of my mom and grandmother to marry a "good girl"—a virgin, church-going woman. My first marriage lasted a year and a half, with sex only about 12 times. She had strict religious views—sex had to be in the dark, under covers, missionary only, with all doors locked and curtains drawn in all rooms, even other rooms we were not having sex in. It was a hard rule; she would give me a blowjob. I was considered a bad person because I wanted that. The marriage failed for other reasons, but the lack of sex didn’t help.
My second wife was also a "good girl." We had some premarital sex, but after the wedding, it stopped completely—no sex on our wedding night or honeymoon. We didn't have sex until after we had been married for six weeks. We only had sex six times in nine months before divorcing due to her mental health struggles that didn't show until after we wed.
My third marriage followed the same pattern. A respected, church-going woman— we did have sex before marriage, then almost none after we wed. We had sex about once every six weeks before divorcing due to issues with her kids (drugs and trouble with the law). I am sure the stress from her kids killed her libido. But how she chose to deal with her out-of-control kids only made their behavior worse.
Before and between marriages, I had an active sex life—frequent partners, threesomes, on occasion, I had sex with three women at once. But in every marriage, sex disappeared, and my wives rejected anything beyond vanilla (no oral, anal, or experimenting). I would date a different woman every night of the week and have sex with seven different women in seven days.
After my third divorce, I decided to only date so-called "bad girls"—women with reputations for being sexually open I even dated girls that had posed for adult magazines and strippers and nudists. The difference was night and day. They treated me well, rarely turned me down, and were open to kinks my exes had shamed me for. I dated strippers, nudists, and women others judged—and then I finally found happiness. The bad girls, the skanks, the wh*r*s treated me like a king. I think because I accepted them for who they were. I was never turned down, and if they did because they were on their period, I was offered either a hand-job or a blowjob or even anal.
Now, I’m with a nudist girlfriend who embraces my desires, even bringing other women home for threesomes. I’m treated like a king, with none of the guilt or rejection from before. The type of girl many would call a skank, a wh*r* or a bad girl. I am posting a picture of my bad girl below. I wrote about her here.
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For those in sexless marriages—how did you cope? Did anyone else find happiness by breaking the "good girl" mold?