“Virtuous circle of confidence”. I like that! And it does seem to be a common experience.
Looking at it from "levels" of confidence, my (ex) wife started out at "Level 0"; considered herself a "butterbody." Too self-conscious to be seen openly naked; sometimes even by me. Covered up in a sarong most of the time at resorts; except when swimming, and then quickly covering up in a towel when exiting the pool.
Then a friend manages to talk her out of her sarong and hang out naked with her. Even though it's a small group, she still feels very self-conscious; yet she receives unexpected positive feedback, be it in approving looks after getting naked, to outright compliments on "letting all hang out." The wife feels good about it; "Level 1" unlocked.
We then later go to a new nudist resort; and the pool area is very crowded. She hesitates at first; but decides to stay naked. She starts socializing with the "strangers" around us; and people (men and women) are clearly enjoying her company (although possibly for different reasons lol!). She enjoys the interaction and is comfortable being naked in front of these "strangers", and "Level 2" is now unlocked.
A few trips later, a combination of a couple of things have happened. One male friend (we've now made several) tells my wife in a roundabout way how much he enjoys seeing her big boobs and big round ass (he got away with that because we were friends); transitioning my wife's body-image from "butterbody" to "hotbody.". And one woman has approached my wife and told her how much her confidence inspires her, which further boosts her confidence. "Level 3" unlocked.
Another few trips later, and my wife's body-language has completely changed from "Level 0." She is now shaven completely smooth, sunbathes legs open; and has no inhibitions about people looking (as long as it's not creepy). When she walks around, she is walking with her shoulders back, and her big boobs bouncing gracefully. She doesn't care much about how exposed she is while socializing or doing activities; as a matter of fact she often gets a kick out of it, even joking about it. "Level 10" unlocked. No inhibitions.
Unironically, I had almost nothing to do with it. Other people were more of a motivation than me, in spite of my best efforts!
Anyway, yes; it's a "circle" of "cause and effect." It works (but not always).
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