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Originally Posted by Windsorm
- what women find appealing isn’t what men think women find appealing. I wish I’d learnt that two decades earlier
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This one is tough, especially because we are "taught" to do to others in bed what you would like done to you, but it doesn't work that way.
When it comes to foreplay, for example, my wife and I couldn't be any different.
She simply likes to watch me grow from soft to hard. That is all the foreplay she needs (she is very visual for a woman). But that also means I need to make myself hard, because that is what she likes to see.
I like to be touched and kissed everywhere. She HATES when I do that to her, so she can't wrap her head around why I would want her to do that to me, so she never does it to me because she wouldn't want it done to herself. I try to explain that we like different things, and she can't process that idea.
We have found things that work for us (well, mostly her), but it's been less fun for me as the decades pass by.