[Hiker21]

At 54, about a year after a difficult separation and divorce I started dating. I tried the usual sites - match, pof, bumble and found it very difficult. In my age range the women seemed to have checklists of what they wanted in a guy (with the intention of finding a long term partner). Nothing wrong with this, but it seemed to take most of the fun, spontaneity and exploration out of dating. It seemed more like interviewing for a job. So I thought I would try tinder. And in my age range it was pretty much the same thing. So I decided to open up the age range and see what might happen, and for safety I changed the location to the next major city about 50 miles away.

Soon I matched with a grad student, 23, a bit nerdy. Her parents were of Indian background, but she was fully American, having been born and living in the US he entire life. She was tiny - about 4'10" and we hit it off well, having flirty and serious conversations and then moving over to a separate messaging platform. Our chats went on for about a month and I wasn't sure if we were ever going to get together, then she had a trip planned and we were out of contact, but promised we would get together after. Finally we did, and what a memorable night! I remember it well as it was one day after Trump's first election victory. We went out to dinner and I had arranged for a hotel local to her house. I guess she was texting a couple of her friends to let them know where she was and that she was safe.

What a night! After some initial awkwardness we had sex for about two hours. She was a tiny thing (maybe 90 lbs) and totally uninhibited. I went down on her and must have done a very good job. We did it again the next morning and then I dropped her off near her apartment which she shared with 3 other women. But she made me drop her a couple blocks away as she still wasn't fully trusting. But we agreed to meet again, and we did - about every two weeks - for several more meetings, usually at airbnbs. She completed her master's degree and in January her parents bought her a condo as she started her first job. By then she felt fully comfortable inviting me to spend the night at her place, which I did nearly every weekend over the next year. Typical visits included some type of date activity like a movie, dinner out, or making dinner in, and then sex 3 or 4 times over the evening or next day. The sex wasn't crazy, she just really like it a lot, and wanted it a lot. And I didn't mind of course. She told me she had been with a few guys in college, but they had never really satisfied her. Not sure I 100% believed this, but she was convincing! How great it was to have this tiny woman riding on me, doing down on me, on her knees in the shower, taking it from behind on hands and knees on the side of the bed, waking me up with a bj.
I'm also pretty sure she wasn't dating anyone else while we were together. I could be mistaken, but she was never mysteriously busy or unavailable and we typically had text chats at random evening times. I somewhat regret that I didn't push for a threesome - I think she would have been down for it. Or some type of swinging.

Overall our relationship lasted about 15 months. She expressed that she ultimately wanted to meet someone her own age, have a family. I agreed that was probably wise. But what a time we had! It taught me things about love, and sex and having fun. And this ultimately led to some better dating experiences and finding my present partner.

BTW - I'm not particularly good looking or rich, just respectful and good at conversation. I had a couple of other young tinder 'dates' before meeting my partner.