I guess for the most part nothing has changed as far as I know about sex. We continue to be open about thoughts and desires in discussions as far as i know. I tend to wrestle with what I would call my insecurities when it comes to my wife's "hobby".
I have attempted to describe our conversations but I assume in trying to put it in written form it comes off as confusing. It does when I read it later.
I have absolutely no issues with anyone getting the opportunity to see any part of my wife that she is willing to show off. I am secure in that part. Depending on the situation I do get aroused and have pleasured myself to many occurrences. I reuse the gas station stop and rest area on trips.
Touching her gives way to my insecurites. Not a casual "accidental" touch. My boss applying tanning lotion and playing with her tits and nipples, same with playing with her pussy. My insecurities come out any time this happens. In a very subtle way I have said this to my wife. I try to keep that side of me in check.
As for my wife, I think she can rationalize or justify about anything. When she is not overly drunk I have absolute confidence in her sticking to boundaries. When she is overly drunk and is aroused I am not sure. I would like to think that I could one hundred percent trust her alone. I love Xavier like a brother and I said I trust him with my life and I do. My insecurities come out when hearing the details. Did Xavier penatrate her with a finger? Both said no. After seeing the mutual masturbation I have my doubts but keep them to myself. Hearing the details of my boss applying tanning lotion and allowed to spend time playing, I have my doubts. Both gloss over the details of this. I keep my doubts to myself
So I have posted similar responses in the past but was not really honest with my feelings just as I have not expressed my true insecurities to my wife. She has been so happy to be free of hiding her desires and past, I have been as supportive as I can be. I have enjoyed the nudity and casual nature of others as much as any man alive. I never imagined I would get to see my neighbors wife intimately. I have and it's amazing. Tabitha is on a different level and amazing. Xavier's wife and a others are all because of my wife's hobby. Do I honestly think that Xavier and my boss have penatrated her digitally. Yes. Have I pushed for an honest answer, no. Do I believe my wife has fantasies of having sex with someone else. Absolutely. I have the same thoughts when I see someone naked. I even thought about it with my wife's elderly stepmother naked. I would not go past the thought or a touch. Would my wife? If I'm honest with my thoughts I would answer, I do not know positively.
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