Yeah, I've had some 'bad sex' over the years. But what I've learned is...we all learn what we are 'supposed to do' basically by doing it. Thing is, different people like different things, and that first time we're all in the dark about what our new partner will like and what they might hate. I remember the first time I had sex with the woman who would later become my first wife, when we first kissed I went in for a slow and steamy kiss and she went for an absolutely aggressive 'stick her tongue down my throat' approach. Turns out I was only the second person she had ever been with and the first guy kissed just like that. Turned out she liked the way I kissed better, but she didn't know that until I kissed her; and from then on, that's how she kissed too.
I just have to think...lots of these 'bad sex' stories probably have something like that as the underlying reason.
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