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I have known my girlfriend for 22 years now, and we have been together for 5. The rest of the time one or both of us was married and faithful, so there was nothing between us, but a long time of building trust.

Now, we are in a very kinky D/s relationship, which some would call TPE, including CNC. She is collared 24/7, and we have both begun to refer to her as being owned by me, although I doubt people in the BDSM community would consider her owned. I decide when and how we fuck, and other than using her safe word, and me avoiding her very few hard limits, she is not allowed to refuse, and is expected to eagerly participate.

This requires a lot more than just telling her what to do, to make it work.

I’m no relationship expert, and outside of the bedroom we have our share of problems. I think most divorced people our age do. I do think I’ve learned a thing or two about D/s relationships, though.

I offer a lot of praise. Daily praise. Praise every single time we fuck.

I keep track of her favorite activities, and include them often, and I tend to only include the activities she enjoys less, when her energy is high, or when it feels appropriate to assert my dominance.

I do often remind her that it is by my choice alone that we are not doing things she enjoys less, and that she is always expected to enthusiastically do those things, anytime I choose.

I pay attention to, and even ask, what words she likes, and what concepts, as well as what actual activities.

For example, she likes to be thanked. She likes to be referred to as my fuck toy, cum sl*t, and anal sl*t, among others. She likes the idea of being “programmed” to enjoy and crave various things, like a brainwashed sex cult member, but she prefers “sexual reeducation” to “training,” because training makes her feel like she isn’t good at what she does.

Currently, her sexual reeducation is focused on three areas, which I move back and forth between as I choose.

1. She is developing her kink for being a shared fantasy fuck toy. This involves tying her orgasms to pictures and videos of her on the internet, telling her how many people have seen her, how many cocks she has made hard, etc., and making her masturbate to those thoughts, often as I stroke my cock and look at her online porn.

2. She is learning to crave cocks. I have decided that her submission to me, and only me, would be more powerful if she genuinely craved cocks. All cocks. Currently, this involves masturbating to cocks she has made hard on this site, and having all of her holes, especially her fuck hole (ass) fucked by cock-shaped dildos. One of her favorite activities is looking at users’ cocks while she sucks mine, and a couple of cock dildos, before I fuck her ass repeatedly with each, requiring her to pay attention to how each feels different.

3. She is learning to imprint on my scent, specifically my ass and balls. She is learning to crave my scent, with the mutual goal of turning this into a powerful kink, or even a fetish, where the smell of my ass and balls will make her mouth and pussy water. I have told her that I want the craving to be so strong that she sniffs my underwear while I am gone, and she has eagerly agreed to that goal.

Before we fuck, I send her long text messages about how I will use her. I do not ask. I tell her what I am going to do to her, and I thank her and praise her for her eager participation.

Here is today’s message (sending right after I post). I will post her reply when I get it.

If this is helpful for other people interested in D/s relationships, or exciting for any non-fiction fans, or fans of my fuck toy, I can add future messages and replies.