My wife used to love it rough and daring (outdoors, in front of others, etc) with her exs, but after kids she has calmed down a lot. Childbirth completely changed her insides (very common, of course), so now she needs to be warmed up and only likes it slow. That is fine with me because I was never into it rough, either. We tried rough and wild before kids, she was into it then, but I never was so I went along with it anyway. But since kids, most people would find us boring and vanilla, but when she cums a dozen times (all super hard), and ACTUALLY squirts (not just the typical pee), who cares how boring people might perceive us? It's anything but boring!
