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Originally Posted by FarleyGingle
Arranging play time between a wife and the third creates a more swinger-like dynamic IMO.
I expect my wife would gladly have sex with a female, but it would have to include the 'plausible deniability' element. It would have to be a semi-drunk hook up, maybe a one time thing. It would have to be without a stigma, so kept secret. It would have to keep me in my comfort zone, she wouldn't want to change our relationship. It would likely not be a threesome, for fear of an emotional connection. And, she would not want pressure from me to go further or do more than she was comfortable with. That's a really strict set of conditions.
Arranging loses the deniability, but solves a whole bunch more.
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I absolutely agree that arranging playtime in advance adds a different vibe to things. I don't get that either of them needs or wants "plausible deniability," though. Maybe that is it, and I'm just misreading things. This got me thinking about it a little more deeply about it... I'm positive neither of them has ever had to make the first move with a guy!
I feel like they are waiting for the other to start things off or make a move. They might be reluctant to put themselves out there and take the chance when an opportunity comes up. My wife is a little submissive, and we play a kind of silly game where I edge her along, and when she is about to cum I ask her questions. Her answers are always so blunt and honest. I ask a lot of kink stuff, and I've asked her about her GF. I asked her if she wanted to eat her GF while we were all together over spring break vacation, and it sent her over the edge. Besides being turned on, all I can think is, why didn't you!
I'm trying to walk a line and nudge without ruining things. I think I need to come up with a code word, lol...